Premonition of death (and heart defect)

[Elisabet1]

I didn't want to post this, but it has been bothering me so much that I am going to, in case anyone here at all has experience or can help or anything.

 

A few weeks ago, I dreamt my husband will die "in the spring." I do not even remember the details of the dream, except that much. You know how when you first wake up, you remember everything, and then later, you might remember just that much?

 

Anyway, realized some time after that that my husband was having trouble breathing when walking up the stairs and such. He was born with a heart defect called VSD. Ventricular Septal Defect. I took him to the cardiologist today and they are running tests. 

 

I am really worried. And it is not like we went to the doctor and then I had the dream so it was just showing my fears. The dream happened before I realized he was having trouble. 

 

That is it. I was hoping someone would have something to say. And even if it is bad, like you dreamt someone was going to die, and then they did, please tell me. Because I worry this is going to happen and God is just trying to prepare me.

[Slartibartfast]

:grouphug:

 

 

[Kim in Appalachia]

:grouphug:

 

I had a VSD.  It was repaired when I was 4.   I had a neighbor, back when we lived elsewhere, who was diagnosed with a VSD in his 40's, he had surgery and was fine.  If there's an issue the doctors will be able to fix it. 

 

:grouphug:  I know how unsettling dreams can be.  

[sbgrace]

I have had premonition feeling type dreams like that which didn't come true OP. I do tend toward worry, though, and I'm not saying it means nothing. I guess just that I know the feeling somewhat (no actual symptoms/conditions here), and it's upsetting. I feel for you. I'm glad you're getting him checked, maybe that was the purpose of that dream-your brain was trying to make you consciously notice what it had subconsciously noticed. :grouphug:

[*lifeoftheparty*]

Maybe you sub-consciously noticed that your husband was having trouble before and that's why you had the dream.

I once had dream about my sister being *really* pregnant, and she went into labor, outside somewhere, in the rain, and she was all alone. I remember feeling very sad for my sister, and that vivid dream has stuck with me for a while. I'm not sure why....

 

Anyways, she ended up getting pregnant (unmarried and 18) very soon after the dream. But she gave birth in a hospital, with my parents and other sister, and her friends, by her side- even though the loser father skipped out and wasn't there.

I have often wondered if my dream was a "premonition," but honestly, I think it was just my brain processing all this information (my mom had been telling me about this new guy she was dating and "what a catch" he was <--- sarcasm, and that she was fighting with my parents, sneaking out, etc) and coming to a natural conclusion, you know?

[Kerileanne99]

Do you think it is possible that there were little hints in his physical health that registered sub-consciously? That would be my take, as it is usually my experience.

It didn't register consciously, but sub-consciously you picked up on some very small clues. This initiated a dream, and remembering it whilst awake had you specifically looking for physical symptoms?

 

Regardless, I hope you get good news from the cardiologist and he feels better soon.

[umsami]

Are there things you guys should do, but haven't…such as wills, life insurance, making bank accounts p.o.d. (payable on death)?

 

Sometimes I think we get dreams like this as a way to remind us of other things.

 

DH's mother has very prophetic (for lack of a better word) dreams.  We've learned to basically pay attention if she calls us.  It has only happened maybe two or three times in 12 years….but usually when she thinks something is up, she's right.

[texasmama]

(((Hugs))) I do not think that your dream has meaning other than you are very in tune with your dh.

 

I had a dream once that I gave birth to a baby in October of my 44th year. It was so real that I waited for it even though dh had a vasectomy by this point. When I did not get pg I waited for something symbolic, something wonderful. That didn't happen, either. It was just a dream.

 

I hope sharing that does not in any way downplay the seriousness of your concerns because it is obviously not the same as your situation. It just came to mind because I was fully convinced and then it didn't happen.

[Elisabet1]

Are there things you guys should do, but haven't…such as wills, life insurance, making bank accounts p.o.d. (payable on death)?

 

Sometimes I think we get dreams like this as a way to remind us of other things.

 

DH's mother has very prophetic (for lack of a better word) dreams.  We've learned to basically pay attention if she calls us.  It has only happened maybe two or three times in 12 years….but usually when she thinks something is up, she's right.

All that is done, wills and everything. 

 

I did mess up cashing in some stock options and the stocks have dropped since so I am waiting. But that would not lead to death dreams. 

[Lady Marmalade]

Treading lightly, because you mentioned God in your post.   If you are not a Christian, and this doesn't apply, that's quite all right.  Feel free to ignore or dismiss.

 

I do believe that God can use our dreams to speak to us.

 

I also believe the enemy can.  

 

I had a very vivid dream not too long ago about a loved one being shot to death in front of me.  It was one of those foreboding types of dreams.  I woke up feeling like I really needed to pray for that person.   So I did, and it weighed heavily on me for a few days.  The reality of the situation was that this person WAS going through a trial at the time, though there was never any physical danger or chance of being shot or death or anything.  Just some decisions and choices to be made.  

 

I have had dreams about DH before... I always just take that as a reminder that I probably have not been praying for him as I should, and I ramp up the prayers for a while.  

 

Now, as to the enemy using our dreams- I believe he uses dreams to cause us to fear.  The Bible says repeatedly "do not fear", so a dream that makes you fearful, I would suspect as not being from God.  (2 Timothy 1:7 says God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, of love and of a sound mind.)

 

Prayer can never be a bad thing.  Regardless of where the dream may have come from, it cannot be harmful to do some extra praying for your husband.   Share your fears in your prayers, and trust that God hears your heart and will care for your loved one.  

 

[Elisabet1]

I am also pregnant and due in the spring. I am worried, a lot, well, about losing him, and also, being alone with the baby.  And now my daughter is going off to a more expensive college starting in January. What if I let my savings get depleted and cannot replenish it because my husband is gone? But more so, I don't want to lose him.

[Katy]

I believe in premonition dreams, but in my experience, when they are real, you remember them vividly, even decades later.

 

It sounds to me like you had a nightmare.  But it doesn't mean you can't take the time to prepare, just in case I'm wrong.  Get life insurance.  Get a will.  Get a credit card in your own name.  Tell him you're afraid and how much you love him.  Encourage him to make memories with the kids. 

 

I was once in a class at church about this sort of thing and the teacher said that the purpose of prophecy is ALWAYS prayer.  Pray for healing.  Pray for God's will to be done. And take the health concerns seriously.  I've prayed you'll feel clarity and peace, and that whatever is going on with him, he'll be healed.

[Evergreen State Sue]

I think your dream caused you to seek medical help.  I would be happy you are seeking professionals that can help your dh and read nothing more into it. 

[Katy]

In the event that happens, the college will likely give you emergency financial aid for her.

[Elisabet1]

I believe in premonition dreams, but in my experience, when they are real, you remember them vividly, even decades later.

 

It sounds to me like you had a nightmare.  But it doesn't mean you can't take the time to prepare, just in case I'm wrong.  Get life insurance.  Get a will.  Get a credit card in your own name.  Tell him you're afraid and how much you love him.  Encourage him to make memories with the kids. 

 

I was once in a class at church about this sort of thing and the teacher said that the purpose of prophecy is ALWAYS prayer.  Pray for healing.  Pray for God's will to be done. And take the health concerns seriously.  I've prayed you'll feel clarity and peace, and that whatever is going on with him, he'll be healed.

The details thing could be true. I dreamt my son died. And it was very detailed. And then it all played out exactly like in the dream, including my making the same mistakes I made when he died in my dream (going to the wrong hospital). But then I dreamt my very next son died, at birth. So I had him delivered early by c-sect and he was fine.

[MiMi 4under3]

Maybe you sub-consciously noticed that your husband was having trouble before and that's why you had the dream.

 

  :iagree:

 

Do you think it is possible that there were little hints in his physical health that registered sub-consciously? That would be my take, as it is usually my experience.

It didn't register consciously, but sub-consciously you picked up on some very small clues. 

 

  :iagree:

 

(((Hugs))) I do not think that your dream has meaning other than you are very in tune with your dh.

 

  :iagree:

[Katy]

The details thing could be true. I dreamt my son died. And it was very detailed. And then it all played out exactly like in the dream, including my making the same mistakes I made when he died in my dream (going to the wrong hospital). But then I dreamt my very next son died, at birth. So I had him delivered early by c-sect and he was fine.

 

Oh no.  I'm so sorry about your son.

 

And pregnancy hormones too. No wonder you're having nightmares and worried about premonitions.

 

If the main thing you're worried about is college tuition, you could always add another life insurance policy.

 

I'm so sorry sweetie, I'm crying for you here.  I'm really thinking it was just a nightmare, but that sounds terrifying.

[umsami]

I am also pregnant and due in the spring. I am worried, a lot, well, about losing him, and also, being alone with the baby.  And now my daughter is going off to a more expensive college starting in January. What if I let my savings get depleted and cannot replenish it because my husband is gone? But more so, I don't want to lose him.

 

 

I don't know if it helps or not, but I always get the strangest dreams when I'm pregnant.  Some are definitely of the nightmarish variety.  I think it's all the hormones and stuff.

 

I think if you've done all the paperwork (wills and stuff) and your DH has gone to see a cardiologist, then you can rest easy.  Having him seek out medical help may have been the entire purpose of the dream.  Your little baby may have wanted to make sure her Daddy was going to be there to cuddle her for a very long time. :)

 

I'm sorry you had such a dream, but I do think you've done everything right.  Be kind to yourself.   :grouphug:   If it were me, I'd probably be rubbing some nice lotion into my tummy asking baby2b if she felt better now that Daddy went to the doctor.  Maybe you'll get another dream as an answer.

 

I'm sorry about your son.  I'm sure that adds an extra measure of worry for you.  YOu might want to sleep with a notebook near your bed so if you do have any sort of dreams, you can write down any  info you feel is important.

[Sdel]

I've seen something like this when I worked in a hospital.  We had a patient come up from the ER and refused to be wheeled into the room she was assigned.  She claimed that death was waiting in that room and she would die that night if she was in it.  We moved her.  Later that night we placed another patient in the room.  He coded and died.  We also have multiple, ongoing for years, reports of patients seeing/talking to the same little boy.  They all describe him the same way.

 

Stefanie

[gardenmom5]

what are things you would need to do if your dh was to die in the spring?

getting finances in order so you're not left high and dry?

legal documents?

anything else?

 

then do those things.

 

then . . . do whatever is needful for whatever medical care is available to fight for his health.

 

I have had "impressions" of things that would happen (not a death), that later did.  I know God was preparing me - and letting me know how much He loved me in warning me so as things were happening, I could look back and see it unfold.  all the while knowing He was in control.  it was very comforting.

 

 

[Hypatia.]

*hugs*  Hopefully it was just you unconsciously being very in tune with your husband's help.

 

That being said, I had a similar feeling recently about myself.  Subtle at first, then essentially being whacked upside the head with it.  I did recently have a significant medical event that made this more likely, so it wasn't just something out of the blue.  I just had this very strong feeling that I need to get my affairs in order.  I updated my advanced directive & will, printed out information on my life insurance policy so it would be easy to find, gathered the kids birth certificates & SS cards, our marriage certificate, made a list of current curricula that the kids are using and what the rough plan is for down the road, made a list of misc. medical info (kids' dentist, speech therapist, medical stuff that will apply to the girls when they are teens, other specialists that the kids see, etc.) and put it all into a binder in the safe.  I know there's more to get done, but I feel better having at least gotten that much done so far.  OK, it didn't give DH the warm fuzzy when I showed him last week what I had spent the afternoon doing, but I wanted him to know what and where it was. 

[Slache]

I dream about losing my husband or children when I'm really stressed. Perhaps you're joining my *happy* little club?

[gardenmom5]

the other thing to consider - do you have "dreams/impressions/premonitions" that do come to pass?  (you know, the kind that tend to be "different" from "normal" dreams.)

 

or do you have them, but nothing happens?

 

[momacacia]

For me, I would blame pregnancy or low blood sugar.

I had a "premonition" dream in my late teens about my Grandma. My mom and I intervened (going to pick her up somewhere ourselves where I didn't know she was but had dreamed she died in a car accident returning). Still seems weird to me. ;) But maybe I had the dream in order to do something about it. Maybe you had the dream to have the doctors check things out and be proactive. Maybe it wasn't a warning but to give direction as protection for you and your DH.

 

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[Jennay]

A friend of ours had a dream in which our whole family died in a car accident. She immediately got up and prayed fervently for us. A few months later we were in an almost head-on collision and none of us were seriously hurt although the vehicle was totaled.

[Ewe Mama]

I recently had a very vivid dream in which my elderly MIL died. The dream even included the information that she would die two Tuesdays from today (the day the dream occurred.). She is 88 years old, so this would not be outside of the realm of possibility, nor would it be unexpected as she has been in poor health for quite some time.

 

I had the dream almost two months ago. MIL is still with us, so obviously the dream was not accurate. It would be interesting to see, when she does pass, if it happens on a Tuesday.

 

I have had times when I jerk awake repeatedly in a single night or on several successive nights. For some reason, that occurrence always precedes the death of someone I have known closely at some point in my life, oftentimes with no background information on the person's health. It can be very unsettling.

 

:grouphug: OP, I will be praying for you and your family. You have been through so much already. :grouphug:

[Twigs]

:grouphug:  :grouphug:  :grouphug:

[DawnM]

I do too.  

 

I once dreamed my now 14 year old was playing hide and seek and hid in the oven and someone turned it on to pre-heat and he was stuck in there.

 

That dream still haunts me to this day and he was about 2 when I had the dream.  

 

I think what prompted it was a couple of incidences where he was in harms way because he wasn't paying attention and I was very worried about him.  

 

I HATE dreams that really stick with you and make you feel that they are indeed real.

 

Hoping this is nothing but a bad dream.

 

 

I dream about losing my husband or children when I'm really stressed. Perhaps you're joining my *happy* little club?

 

[Halftime Hope]

 

I'm sorry Elisabet1!  I hope you have peace now that he has been looked at.   :grouphug:

 

On a related topic, it might be wise to purchase additional term life insurance to cover the new needs that come with having a new child and needing to assist the daughter, should anything happen to him.  (Not that you are expecting to have anything happen, but because no dad wants his children to go without the necessities of life. So if possible, get the term life to cover the need for as long as it exists.  A 20 year level term is quite common for such needs.)

 

Someone who really knows insurance can feel free to chime in on this.  :-)

[Laurie4b]

I have had those "premonition" dreams also that turned out not to be true. It could a random dream and you're putting it together with a subsequent event. It's also possible as others have said that you could have picked up symptoms in your dh, but not consciously.

 

I would try to counter your thoughts when you worry that it was a premonition ie tell yourself:" other people have had dreams like that that didn't turn out to be true and it could have been random, or I could have picked something up subconsciously and now he's getting treatment."

 

If there is anything you need to do that you haven't done, like make a will, do that, but not because you think the dream will come true but because it reminded you that none of us can count on being here tomorrow.