unsinkable Posted January 21, 2018 Share Posted January 21, 2018 I don't like the phrase. As if the person receiving/hearing/reading the sentiment will suddenly say..."Oh, fudge, yeah! I sure will! I just needed to read your card and I suddenly realize I have the power to 'get well!' And I just haven't done it! I'm gonna do it...soon!" I'm trying to make cards for an inspiration wall for a dear relative that is dealing with a serious illness and I want to throw out all my rubber stamps that say, "get well soon." I'm so sad about him being sick that I want to take it out on my stamps. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EmilyGF Posted January 21, 2018 Share Posted January 21, 2018 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted January 21, 2018 Author Share Posted January 21, 2018 I try to remember that the folks mean well. I hear all too often for dh. Um, no, he's not going to "get well". His meds are buying time, but he's not going to get well. (((Margaret))) :crying: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garga Posted January 21, 2018 Share Posted January 21, 2018 I think Get Well Soon cards are for people with a recognized temporary illness. Like, I have a friend who had surgery and will have to take about 2 months to recover. I would get her a Get Well Soon card. But for someone with a condition that will last a lifetime, then a Get Well Soon card is distasteful. That would be a Thinking of You card with a written note inside. 20 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted January 21, 2018 Share Posted January 21, 2018 I think Get Well Soon cards are for people with a recognized temporary illness. Like, I have a friend who had surgery and will have to take about 2 months to recover. I would get her a Get Well Soon card. But for someone with a condition that will last a lifetime, then a Get Well Soon card is distasteful. That would be a Thinking of You card with a written note inside. I agree. Also, I've always considered "get well soon" to be an abbreviated version of "I hope that you get well soon". 13 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tanaqui Posted January 21, 2018 Share Posted January 21, 2018 It's not a command, it's a wish or hope. But yes, somebody with a serious illness with no end in sight (or ever) should get a "best wishes" or "thinking of you" card. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted January 21, 2018 Share Posted January 21, 2018 I dunno. Sometimes I think an "Oh bugger it" card might just be the most tasteful option. It does lack that Hallmark quality though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneStepAtATime Posted January 21, 2018 Share Posted January 21, 2018 I dunno. Sometimes I think an "Oh bugger it" card might just be the most tasteful option. It does lack that Hallmark quality though. :laugh: And yeah sometimes that probably fits quite well (regardless of the lack of Hallmarkness...) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneStepAtATime Posted January 21, 2018 Share Posted January 21, 2018 I try to remember that the folks mean well. I hear all too often for dh. Um, no, he's not going to "get well". His meds are buying time, but he's not going to get well. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bambam Posted January 21, 2018 Share Posted January 21, 2018 It is a wish like "Have a good day" that people say - it isn't a command. But I agree, I wish there were other sentiment cards available. Sometimes the person isn't going to get better, and you need a card that says something along the lines of missing you/praying for you/praying for your comfort/whatever. Maybe you should start an Etsy business selling cards? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted January 21, 2018 Author Share Posted January 21, 2018 I think technically it is an imperative (command) sentence but I know not everyone reads it or uses it in that way, that it people interpret it differently. I do have other "thinking of you" and "you're in my thoughts" stamps. I can also leave the front without a sentiment and just make a card I know he'd like. I also have "just checking in." The first one I sent said "You mean the world to me" which I could use for every card bc that's how I feel but I'd look like a dork. He knows I am a dork though. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Butter Posted January 21, 2018 Share Posted January 21, 2018 My daughter has some chronic illnesses. She'll never get well. Sometimes she is better than others. Right now she's bad enough to need a wheelchair sometimes. We just kind of laugh when someone says get well soon to her. It's automatic and really means they are sad she's sick and hope she starts feeling better. It doesn't even dawn on them that she won't ever get well. She especially likes the people who tell her it sucks that she's sick. Because it does. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poppy Posted January 21, 2018 Share Posted January 21, 2018 I'm struggling to find words to write to the 96 year old great grandmother in the hospital ..... Get well -- is not going to happen. Feel better -- she won't. Thinking of you --- sounds like a funeral. It's hard. I'm sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wintermom Posted January 21, 2018 Share Posted January 21, 2018 I much prefer blank cards where you can write your own message. Though it can be really hard to find the right words to use. I think one's own words would be better than a mass-produced card, but sadly words aren't going to fix anything. Trying to show kindness and thoughtfulness is about the best people can do in some circumstances. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pawz4me Posted January 21, 2018 Share Posted January 21, 2018 (edited) I personally don't believe a simple "thinking of you" card is ever wrong. FWIW DH--who is the one who will not be getting well--doesn't mind "get well soon" cards. He says it's a nice feeling knowing people are thinking of him and made the effort to send a card, and what the card says is totally secondary. Mostly I agree with him. I try not to over think. I'm pretty darn sure in my younger and much more clueless days I also sent a few "get well soon" cards to people I knew (or should have known) wouldn't. Edited January 21, 2018 by Pawz4me 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lawana Posted January 21, 2018 Share Posted January 21, 2018 A couple thoughts.... Our society does not have stock phrases for serious chronic and terminal illnesses. We don't want to openly acknowledge individual mortality. So we get a kind of paralysis around the subject. And while we feel awful and horrible about the situation and want to communicate that, we literally don't know how. So we pull out the stock phrase of "Get well soon," because we do know how to say that. Grammatically, the imperative covers more than commands. It also covers wishes, entreaties, requests. Look at the Lord's prayer for a Christian example. We are certainly not commanding God to do anything, but the majority of the sentences are imperative. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted January 21, 2018 Share Posted January 21, 2018 We had a friend that was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer. He passed away last week after about 6 months. Even at the diagnosis, we knew it would likely kill him. I had the hardest time finding an appropriate card. I finally found one that was light-hearted (which definitely goes with his personality) but avoided “get well soon†because we pretty much knew he wouldn’t. :( 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted January 21, 2018 Author Share Posted January 21, 2018 Well, fudge. But I didn't say fudge. I'm sorry for everyone's losses and struggles. My likes aren't likes, just appreciation for adding to the conversation. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caraway Posted January 22, 2018 Share Posted January 22, 2018 A friend of a friend launched these: http://twistedsifter.com/2015/05/cancer-survivor-designs-get-well-soon-cards-that-dont-suck/ Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted January 22, 2018 Share Posted January 22, 2018 A friend of a friend launched these: http://twistedsifter.com/2015/05/cancer-survivor-designs-get-well-soon-cards-that-dont-suck/ Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk I would not be surprised if they take off like she never dreamed. I hope she will be able to keep up with the demand she is likely to experience. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted January 22, 2018 Share Posted January 22, 2018 I’m so sorry to hear the stories of all the loved ones who won’t be getting well. :crying: Praying for all of you, because I know there’s nothing else I can do, but I want to do something. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted January 22, 2018 Share Posted January 22, 2018 A friend of a friend launched these: http://twistedsifter.com/2015/05/cancer-survivor-designs-get-well-soon-cards-that-dont-suck/ Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk She's awesome. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Butter Posted January 22, 2018 Share Posted January 22, 2018 Those cards are amazing. With a daughter with chronic illnesses, a dad starting chemo again for The Return of the Pancreatic Cancer, and a sister who battled infertility and didn't even get pregnant via IVF, several of those cards truly spoke to me. Genius idea. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HS Mom in NC Posted January 22, 2018 Share Posted January 22, 2018 A friend of a friend launched these: http://twistedsifter.com/2015/05/cancer-survivor-designs-get-well-soon-cards-that-dont-suck/ Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk My husband's sister died in November. I posed this link on my FB wall. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted January 30, 2018 Author Share Posted January 30, 2018 A little update: Another person who was asked to contribute to the inspiration wall was specifically told to keep the tone of the cards light and fluffy. Because some cards were too serious and mentioned the illness too much. This is why I can't function sometimes. I'm going to be worrying if my cards were "light" enough and if I mentioned the illness too much. :crying: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 I’m so sorry. :( I hope your relative will realize that you had the best of intentions. Let’s face it, you did something nice while many people are probably doing nothing. Don’t beat yourself up for trying to do a good thing. :grouphug: 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted January 31, 2018 Author Share Posted January 31, 2018 I’m so sorry. :( I hope your relative will realize that you had the best of intentions. Let’s face it, you did something nice while many people are probably doing nothing. Don’t beat yourself up for trying to do a good thing. :grouphug: She wasn't talking about the cards I had sent bc I hadn't sent any at that point. But she didn't tell me light and fluffy so I am wondering if I was when I actually DID send mine. Does that make sense? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted January 31, 2018 Share Posted January 31, 2018 She wasn't talking about the cards I had sent bc I hadn't sent any at that point. But she didn't tell me light and fluffy so I am wondering if I was when I actually DID send mine. Does that make sense? That makes sense, but if you didn’t know about the light and fluffy part, you shouldn’t worry about it. Also, she can suggest whatever she wants, but that doesn’t mean she will get angry if your cards aren’t exactly what she specified. Also, if you went to the trouble of making cards instead of just going to the store and buying one, that should mean a lot, too. It’s a lot of extra effort and it shows that you care, and that you spent time making something special. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiewindmomma Posted January 31, 2018 Share Posted January 31, 2018 I totally agree. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted January 31, 2018 Author Share Posted January 31, 2018 That makes sense, but if you didn’t know about the light and fluffy part, you shouldn’t worry about it. Also, she can suggest whatever she wants, but that doesn’t mean she will get angry if your cards aren’t exactly what she specified. Also, if you went to the trouble of making cards instead of just going to the store and buying one, that should mean a lot, too. It’s a lot of extra effort and it shows that you care, and that you spent time making something special. I hear what you're saying, and I appreciate it! But part of me is still like this: :willy_nilly: "Light and fluffy! Light and fluffy" :willy_nilly: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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