HeatherL Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 Thank you everyone for helping me get through yesterday. I truly appreciate everyone's kind comments and prayers. It was rough, but helps me so much knowing I am not alone in this struggle! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ikslo Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 Sorry to hear that. I have 2 children with bipolar. It does not yet sound like he is stable on his meds. I would call the doctor. You might also need to do what you need to to protect you and the kids until he is stable. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 That's so hard. In our relationship it is the opposite, and my best advice as the cycling, difficult spouse is to disengage any personal value and feelings from his moods. You know it isn't you, and he may be finding it very difficult to control or even recognize when he is being unreasonable. It sounds like you both could use some counseling in how best to manage his health issues and live together peaceably and to protect your own mental health while weathering his. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 :grouphug: I get it. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tsuga Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 I'm sorry. :grouphug: I agree the situation doesn't sound stable and would be most concerned about the effect on the kids. Your wellbeing is important too, but as an adult, you have choices the kids do not. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Please do some extra self-care for yourself today. And maybe some extra love for your kiddos. It can be so hard not to take it all personally. This isn't you. And, it's not really your spouse either. It sounds like something's off with his meds, honestly. I hope you have a good psych to help you through this, and a therapist just for you, too. More :grouphug: from the mom of a bipolar adult kiddo. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
38carrots Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redsquirrel Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 I am so sorry. I can't even imagine. Well, I can because I grew up with a bipolar parent. There is a reason I haven't had any contact with him for 28 years. I hope you and your kids are feeling safe. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El... Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 I'm sorry. That sounds very hard. I hope you are able to get some supportive routines and people set up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emzhengjiu Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 I'm so sorry! No advice, but if it's okay with you, I'll be praying for you & your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 It's tough. My dh hasn't been diagnosed bipolar, but his depression seems to cycle. The inconsistency is really exhausting. I sent you a pm. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pawz4me Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
6packofun Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 I can't imagine. :grouphug: I think it is great that you show your kids that it's OK to have an "out" by leaving to go do something else for a bit to give everyone a break! Relationships are hard enough as it is; adding in bipolar? God bless you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mergath Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: My dh is bipolar too, so I feel your pain. My advice would be to talk to your doctor about fiddling with his meds, but wait until you're in a good place where you feel rested and calm first. Med changes can be... interesting, and they aren't a good thing to begin if you're already exhausted and stressed to the limit. And if your dh is anything like mine, you'll need to be rested and level-headed because you're going to have to be the one to decide if the med change is a success or not. My dh can say that he's perfectly fine and his new meds are working great even as he's screaming and breaking dishes against the wall. :001_rolleyes: Thankfully, we haven't had to change his meds for years now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minerva Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 ((((((((((((((((((((((((((Heather))))))))))))))))))))))))) I couldn't make it work with my bipolar ex-boyfriend so I have no advice, just the observation that you are very brave and that he is so lucky to have you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alicia64 Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 My grandmother lived with my bi-polar grandfather for eons -- and it did not look fun in the least. She was considered very bossy, but had to be. She kept him on his meds and made him walk every day. I'll never forget her constantly saying, "Daddy? Have you had your walk? Get a move on." I can hear him saying, "Okay. Okay." I know that the bi-polar (called manic depression then) really impacted my mom negatively. Although I don't know if it was my aggressive grandma -- whom I adored -- or my grandpa who impacted her more. That's my way of saying, that I encourage you to take the reins as much as possible: get the kids away when he's being mean (I'd stay at a hotel or w/ a friend and have it planned -- I'd want the kids to know that it wasn't okay for them to tolerate abusive behavior), force him to take meds, force daily workouts etc. I always heard that my grandpa would have lived like a homeless person if my grandma hadn't taken care of him. (Even though he was the bread winner.) :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: to you! Alley 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alicia64 Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: My dh is bipolar too, so I feel your pain. My advice would be to talk to your doctor about fiddling with his meds, but wait until you're in a good place where you feel rested and calm first. Med changes can be... interesting, and they aren't a good thing to begin if you're already exhausted and stressed to the limit. And if your dh is anything like mine, you'll need to be rested and level-headed because you're going to have to be the one to decide if the med change is a success or not. My dh can say that he's perfectly fine and his new meds are working great even as he's screaming and breaking dishes against the wall. :001_rolleyes: Thankfully, we haven't had to change his meds for years now. It would be cool if you guys could start a support group on here! Alley 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 I always heard that my grandpa would have lived like a homeless person if my grandma hadn't taken care of him. (Even though he was the bread winner.) :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: to you! Alley My ex-boyfriend is a homeless person now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeatherL Posted October 14, 2015 Author Share Posted October 14, 2015 Thank you everyone for helping me get through yesterday. I truly appreciate everyone's kind comments and prayers. It was rough, but helps me so much knowing I am not alone in this struggle! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 14, 2015 Share Posted October 14, 2015 Heather, I admire you so much. I'm glad today is better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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