Night Elf Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 I was nominated by my BIL. I have no desire to dump water on my head and I've already given to charity this year. And yet I'm feeling guilty! This just ticks me off. So I'm avoiding FB, but for how long should I do that? This is stupid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ethel Mertz Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 I also refuse to give in to FB fueled manipulation. I had a friend who posted the following in response to his nomination: "I respectfully decline the invitation to dump ice water on my head. I will prayerfully (and privately) consider the charities to which I will donate." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G5052 Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 I also refuse to give in to FB fueled manipulation. I had a friend who posted the following in response to his nomination: "I respectfully decline the invitation to dump ice water on my head. I will prayerfully (and privately) consider the charities to which I will donate." I saw something similar. Basically that donations to charity are a personal matter that the person prefers not to handle on a public forum like Facebook. I mostly use Facebook for professional reasons, so I'm hoping I won't be challenged. But if I am, that's what I plan to say. I don't do selfies for the same reason. Doesn't seem like something I want on a public forum. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joker Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 My dds and I were all nominated and I just liked their post/video. We didn't do it and I haven't avoided FB. No one has said anything. I have seen lots of videos and challenges but I haven't seen anyone say anything to those who don't accept and I haven't seen anyone ask if they donated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 I love both those responses! I saw my sister doing it on facebook and wondered if she would challenge me. I was happy she did not. I understand the need for visibility for these things and I know people who are directly affected by the disease are thankful for it, but I also think charity and giving are private matters. I suspect if a nomination is ignored, it will be forgotten quickly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in Neverland Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 My friend tagged me on FB and nominated me. I removed the tag and sent her a private email explaining my reasons. She understood. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GailV Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 I would just ignore it and go about my life as normal. Most people know that about me, though, and rarely try to recruit me into things like this. Being a known curmudgeon apparently has its rewards. Frankly, skimming through the various posts (videos are very popular here, which I don't bother to watch) I rarely remember who has been challenged so it would make little impression on me who actually did it and who didn't. So that helps me feel free to ignore it. Most of the world isn't watching my every move to see what I do, know what I mean? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hikin' Mama Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 My son got nominated and just ignored it. The same way I used to ignore myriad chain letters that told how heartbroken everyone would be if the chain was broken. Ya, I'm heartless like that. ;) FTR, I am not opposed to supporting charities. I support a few on a monthly basis. And I think ALS research is a great thing to support. But I prefer to make my own decisions on where my giving dollars and time will go, and I don't do that based on peer pressure or the latest fad. I'm not saying the ice bucket challenge is bad. I just don't operate that way. If you don't want to do it, don't do it and don't feel guilty. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LifeLovePassion Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 My friend posted this as her status in response: Fabulous words last night from a friend, that as all the roles we are called to play in this life as mom, we just can't do it all or make everyone happy. Words that I knew existed but need constant reminders of this, daily!! First things first, I feel the need to un-nominate myself for the ice bucket challenge as well as [insert list of names] and any other person would like to not feel guilty for not doing it so we can't stop the madness....mini revolution here. Please join me and donate money to any cause you feel drawn to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poppy Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 Ignore it. Many many people ignore the challenge, and there is zero pressure or follow up that I've ever seen. I have recently seen a number of "I am giving money to a charity of my choice instead" responses and honestly, I find them to be churlish. It's an ALS fundraiser. If you don't want to participate, fine. Don't use the fundraiser as an opportunity to slam the fundraiser or scold the people participating. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 Just ignore it and say nothing. There's no need to give a lecture explaining why it's beneath you. (I'm not saying the OP would do that—just that some of the "I reject the challenge" responses may give that impression.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carriede Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 Thanks for the responses! I was also nominated for last night and now know what (not) to do about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
texasmama Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 I just ignored the nomination when it happened to me. I understand the myriad of reasons why people are doing it, and I do not judge them for it. I am just not going to participate in this particular activity. I also don't do the breast cancer awareness posts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamajudy Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 Just ignore it. People are always posting things that bring up some controversial issue, and then say something to the effect of, "99% of the people who read this won't have the guts to share. Let's see if you do." I refuse to be coerced into doing or saying something, whether I agree or not, just because someone else thinks I should. Just scroll on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Florida. Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 One of ds' teen friends tagged me. I sent her a pm asking her to untag me, and explained that since I've kept silent about my feelings on the matter she should not feel bad. She had no way of knowing. She was polite and complied with my request. This woman (though we support different charities) says best how I feel about the whole thing. http://kaitlynanncarr.wordpress.com/2014/08/20/why-i-wont-participate-in-the-ice-bucket-challenge/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KrissiK Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 I would ignore it, or post some of the other responses that have been suggested. Charity should be from the heart. If you feel compelled to do it... then it's not charity. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted August 26, 2014 Author Share Posted August 26, 2014 My friend tagged me on FB and nominated me. I removed the tag and sent her a private email explaining my reasons. She understood. How do I remove a tag? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 I did the challenge and tagged a couple people. I don't care if they do it and would feel bad if they contacted me to decline (or posted a retort) I'm another vote for just ignore it. The spirit of the thing is 24 hours anyway. Though als and fundraising is serious, in general the ice bucket challenge is lighthearted. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrairieSong Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 How do I remove a tag? Go to your Activity Log, found in a drop down menu in the upper right hand corner of your FB screen. Find the item in the list. To the right should be something you click...a circle I think...and you should see an option to Report/Remove Tag. Click on that and choose remove tag. Hope that helps! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katy Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 It was a planned fundraising stunt. The kid who came up with the idea unfortunately drowned. I have a facebook friend who's adamently pro-life, and posted something to the effect of that she was declining to participate, and hoped those who were would consider donating to a particular catholic charity instead that was funding ALS research not using fetal stem cell lines. It was very tastefully stated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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