Butter Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 My dad had prostate cancer in 2008. He had surgery to remove his prostate 9/11/08. They got it all. It was very localized to the prostate. There is a possibility of a man's body making prostate cancer cells even when their prostate is removed. It doesn't happen a lot, but can. My dad has a friend who had that happen. Well, his PSA has been doubling every year. It's not cause for alarm until it reaches a specific point. He's reached that point. He is now considered to have recurrent prostate cancer. The only treatment this time is radiation. He'll start that in a few weeks. I'm very close to my parents. We've lived with them for the last 4 years. We're moving to TX next month and my parents are intending to move in with us within a year. Sharing a house works for us. My kids already lost one grandfather. Ian's dad died while I was pregnant with Adric. I'm just really sad. I don't want to lose my dad yet. I'm not ready. And I know my mom isn't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I'm sorry. I can only imagine how hard this is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 :grouphug: I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
********* Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 Clara, I don't think a girl is ever really *ready* to lose her daddy. :grouphug: Many hugs, dear. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dandelion Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I'm sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsBasil Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 (((Hugs))), I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I'm so sorry, Clara. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoughCollie Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elfgivas Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: its just so hard. my mom was just visiting for three weeks, and then flew back to canada. each time i wonder if that is the last time... she's 85, so one of these times, it will be. the best we can do is to catch the moments of joy as they come. :grouphug: ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
applethyme Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: its just so hard. my mom was just visiting for three weeks, and then flew back to canada. each time i wonder if that is the last time... she's 85, so one of these times, it will be. the best we can do is to catch the moments of joy as they come. :grouphug: ann Thanks, Ann. Off to call my mom... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jewellsmommy Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 :grouphug: Enjoy the moments you have, but don't give up hope that there are still many more ahead. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 I'm very sorry. I believe prostate cancer is usually slow growing. I once read an article that said that the majority of men, if they lived long enough, would eventually get it. However, they are still more likely to die from something else and not their prostate cancer -- because it is so slow growing. Hoping this to be the case with your father! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted April 15, 2013 Share Posted April 15, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: No one is ever ready to lose a parent. I hope the treatments work and you have your dad for a long, long time. I do understand the panic and sadness you are feeling. I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Butter Posted April 16, 2013 Author Share Posted April 16, 2013 Thank you all for your kind words. It helps. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forget-Me-Not Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 I'm very sorry :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melissad2 Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 I'm sorry. My dad has stage 4 prostate cancer with bone mets. His was too far gone once it was discovered. He's been battling it for 5 years. There are some new therapies on the market and chemotherapy is an option as well. There is no cure but there can be ways to make his life longer and more comfortable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lollie010 Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 So sorry. We lost my dad to cancer less than two weeks ago. I understand your fears and hope that he responds well to the treatment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lanny Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 @Butter The PSA test, by itself, is NOT an indicator that one has Cancer. In fact, I believe it is considered to be very unreliable and they are working on more reliable tests to replace it. My PSA numbers had been high, and increasing, for years, and my Urologist sent me for a Biopsy in 2006, which was Negative. Hopefully, they have done a Biopsy and/or other examinations on your father, to confirm the belief that he has Cancer again. I wish him and the doctors, nurses and everyone who helps him the best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Butter Posted April 16, 2013 Author Share Posted April 16, 2013 @Butter The PSA test, by itself, is NOT an indicator that one has Cancer. In fact, I believe it is considered to be very unreliable and they are working on more reliable tests to replace it. My PSA numbers had been high, and increasing, for years, and my Urologist sent me for a Biopsy in 2006, which was Negative. Hopefully, they have done a Biopsy and/or other examinations on your father, to confirm the belief that he has Cancer again. I wish him and the doctors, nurses and everyone who helps him the best. Once the prostate is removed you should never have a PSA level, and at the very least it should stay very low. There is nothing to biopsy in recurrent prostate cancer if the prostate has been removed previously like my dad's was. In someone who had confirmed prostate cancer, a PSA over a certain level *always* means his body is making cancer cells again. It's different than a primary elevated PSA. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PollyOR Posted April 16, 2013 Share Posted April 16, 2013 My dad had cryosurgery last week. We've known that he had an enlarged prostate for several years but they just did the biopsy recently. Suddenly, I realized without a doubt that my dad is mortal. About 5 years ago he had bypass surgery, two major inguinal hernias repaired (life threatening), and knee surgery all in the span of six months. He was a trooper and came through it all. But prostate cancer? It feels unbeatable. I'm there with you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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