Julie in CA Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 What did you do to in the short term to counter the emotional and/or physical effects? I had a conversation with a family member about some issues with family/family business that have been brewing for the past 15 years. There was no outward animosity between the two of us during the conversation, but there will probably be family repercussions, and I feel sick. :001_unsure: It's probably better that things have finally been discussed, but now I need a drink. Except that I don't drink. :001_huh: Any alternatives to help with the sick feeling? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaT Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 I have had those kinds of conversations. I usually go to bed and make myself go to sleep. The emotional exhaution makes it easy. Maybe the fall-out won't be as bad as you anticipate??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paz Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 A walk, chocolate, yoga or deep breathing exercises. I have some immune problems so even a little stress turns my sytem into overdrive and I feel like you're feeling. :grouphug: Hope you feel better soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jewellsmommy Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 What did you do to in the short term to counter the emotional and/or physical effects?I had a conversation with a family member about some issues with family/family business that have been brewing for the past 15 years. There was no outward animosity between the two of us during the conversation, but there will probably be family repercussions, and I feel sick. :001_unsure: It's probably better that things have finally been discussed, but now I need a drink. Except that I don't drink. :001_huh: Any alternatives to help with the sick feeling? Calm deep breathing, warm caffeine free beverage, and an enjoyable activity: reading, movie, puzzles, whatever. Take your mind off it for a little while. Time heels the sick feeling. Sorry :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 My go-to tummy med is seltzer, perhaps with a shot of juice in it. A hot water bottle on the tummy and a nap, help, too. :grouphug: Slow, even breaths. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ginevra Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Yes. Meditation. :grouphug: I hate those conversations. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Inna* Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 :grouphug: Brisk walk/run and hot shower afterwards worked for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julie in CA Posted August 12, 2011 Author Share Posted August 12, 2011 Maybe the fall-out won't be as bad as you anticipate??? That's the thing...I don't feel like I care that much about the fall-out. I'm not angry, sad, or...any other feeling I can identify, other than nauseous and like every nerve in my body is giving me a "zing" all at once. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 I lift my mind off the topic and consciously put it onto another one. For something that stressful, it almost feels like moving a palpable weight. Usually the 'other one' is either something I want to make (design always distracts me, and in a good way) or a beloved place that I imagine, like my favorite river in the Sierras. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sahamamama Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 What did you do to in the short term to counter the emotional and/or physical effects?I had a conversation with a family member about some issues with family/family business that have been brewing for the past 15 years. There was no outward animosity between the two of us during the conversation, but there will probably be family repercussions, and I feel sick. :001_unsure: It's probably better that things have finally been discussed, but now I need a drink. Except that I don't drink. :001_huh: Any alternatives to help with the sick feeling? Chamomile tea has a calming effect. Also, dim the lights, it helps you relax. A warm bath can get the tension out of your muscles. Listening to music that does not have any connection with the conversation can help. If you are up to it, watch a funny movie, even though right now you don't feel like laughing. :grouphug: This will pass. HTH. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elise1mds Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 I get in the car, crank up the music, and drive till I feel better. I can yell, I can talk to myself, I can cry, I can pull into an empty parking lot and close my eyes and meditate... whatever it takes to get away from the ugly feeling. If I don't get out of the house and let it all out, I start cleaning the house like a fiend and nobody wants to be around me when that happens, because I tend to purge... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 A really funny movie often helps take me out of my own perseverating head. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy in NH Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Um, yeah. Two years worth in court with ex. I ended up on anti-anxiety meds after the first year, and still spent most of the second year in bed. Benadryl to sleep at night, long walks, music through headphones around my neck all day, Sudoku and crossword puzzles to keep my mind from spinning on it 24/7. It's been a year since the decision and I'm still not better. Good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 go for a walk. Yes, I've had those conversations. With family, my relationship was severed with my sister. Her choice. I ONLY asked for a PEACEFUL relationship. She couldn't do that. She fights with EVERYONE in her life. With a friend once, dh INSISTED that I end the friendship. He's only done this once and I complied. I'm SO thankful for my wise dh.;) I hope you feel better soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laurad1125 Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 No, but I've gotten an email from a "friend" that was so hateful i threw up - three times. A dear friend came over and she and my husband sat with me for a couple of hours. Then I went to bed. :grouphug: I hope the fallout is less than you anticipate.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*~Tina~* Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 I vote a good strong cardio workout. Got a punching bag? Kickboxing DVD? Then I second the drive and loud music.:001_smile: Hope you feel better soon. Stress like that is dreadful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 What did you do to in the short term to counter the emotional and/or physical effects?I had a conversation with a family member about some issues with family/family business that have been brewing for the past 15 years. There was no outward animosity between the two of us during the conversation, but there will probably be family repercussions, and I feel sick. :001_unsure: It's probably better that things have finally been discussed, but now I need a drink. Except that I don't drink. :001_huh: Any alternatives to help with the sick feeling? seems to always be a family member. I actually left town after my mother's memorial because of the stress. I made the mistake of checking my e-mail and reading one from the very troublesome sibling. dh actually ended up telling me to just not talk to him, read anything from him, etc. and that he'd handle the jerk. In the meantime . . . I prayed, I soaked in the hot tub, I lounged in front of the fire (it was january), and just tried to decompress. (ate chocolate . . . ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sandy in Indy Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 When I was 6 wks pregnant with my last child, my sister called and gave me all the reasons I should have an abortion. (I was 42 and overweight.) She read statistics and basically beat me over the head with information..that I already knew...for half an hour. Then my mom called as sis had called her and gotten mom all excited about things. I was so upset that I stayed in bed for two days. Thought I was over all that when I got a package from sister--yes, she sent me all the articles she'd referenced, even though I told her I was having the baby no matter what. Spent another day in bed so I wouldn't vomit every 10 minutes. I try to escape in a book (fiction) when things like that happen. I do better if my mind is occupied. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peela Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 I would have a shower. I like showers :) Or a bath. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Evergreen State Sue Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Time is the only thing that helps me. I try to sleep, but then I replay the conversation in my mind, what was said, what I should have said, what I should say next time. It takes about 24 hours for me to start feeling better and look at the situation less emotionally. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleIzumi Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Books, movies, audiobooks, knitting or spinning--I need to have something in my ears and something in my hands at times like that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
klmama Posted August 12, 2011 Share Posted August 12, 2011 Prayer works the best for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julie in CA Posted August 12, 2011 Author Share Posted August 12, 2011 Every one of these ideas are wonderful. In the end, I turned on one of my favorite frivolous movies, The Last Holiday, with Queen Latifah. It helped so much. Thank you to those of you who suggested an upbeat movie. It got me through the rest of my afternoon/evening work. I'm feeling better, but I'm still left with terrible indigestion. Dinner just isn't sitting right at all. Maybe an antacid and then bed, because it's very late now (after midnight). Good night, all, and *thanks again*. It never fails to amaze me that my "virtual friends" (sorry, but none of you are really real, because it seems silly to claim friendship with folks I've never met :D) are always there with a word of encouragement at the right moment. It doesn't generally seem to be so in the real world. At least, not the one I'm currently living in. :001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 It never fails to amaze me that my "virtual friends" (sorry, but none of you are really real, because it seems silly to claim friendship with folks I've never met :D) are always there with a word of encouragement at the right moment. It doesn't generally seem to be so in the real world. At least, not the one I'm currently living in. :001_huh: :grouphug: I'm guessing this has to do with your husband's family, and I hope it "all comes out in the wash" as my mother often said. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julie in CA Posted August 13, 2011 Author Share Posted August 13, 2011 (edited) :grouphug: I'm guessing this has to do with your husband's family, and I hope it "all comes out in the wash" as my mother often said. Thank you. I can't even articulate how much your kindness has helped my heart today. I'm just so very, very tired in some ways. I want to hide from the world right now, and each day bedtime cannot come soon enough, kwim? I just keep thinking, "Do I need this??". Edited August 13, 2011 by Julie in CA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WishboneDawn Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 I talk to my husband a lot and then I knit for days. And yes, I did just finish a baby sweater and am currently working on a soaker and socks. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaSheep Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 I take a long walk alone if it happens during the day. And in the evening I take a warm bath and drink some warm milk with honey and a sprinkle of nutmeg. Prayer and scriptures. If it's not inappropriate I might call my Mom and have a good cry with her over the phone. She's very therapeutic. I hope you feel better soon. And I hope your family stuff gets sorted and settles out ok. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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