Embassy Posted May 30, 2011 Share Posted May 30, 2011 Do you and your spouse have similar or opposite personalities? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted May 30, 2011 Share Posted May 30, 2011 Both. Where he's strong, I'm weak, and vice versa. We have the same beliefs about family, marriage, all the important stuff. We share the same sense of humour, integrity, honesty...We're both stubborn and passionate. He has far more life experience and street smarts, I have an easier time with books. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peela Posted May 30, 2011 Share Posted May 30, 2011 Mostly opposite and we know it. However, what is similar is a passion for our spirituality and our family- otherwise we would be extremely incompatible. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted May 30, 2011 Share Posted May 30, 2011 I'm tetchy and he's amiable. That can work to our advantage and to our detriment. :rolleyes: In our fundamental beliefs, we are very similar. Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Embassy Posted May 30, 2011 Author Share Posted May 30, 2011 I gave my dh a Myers Briggs a week or two after I met him and was shocked when he came out exactly the same as I did. (Just some getting to know you fun:tongue_smilie:) I found out later that only 1% of the population had that specific personality. Anyway, I always wondered about that standard opposites attract idea. It wasn't so in our case. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alice Posted May 30, 2011 Share Posted May 30, 2011 I'm tetchy and he's amiable. That can work to our advantage and to our detriment. :rolleyes: In our fundamental beliefs, we are very similar. Rosie This describes us exactly. In personality we are different. We share enough interests to have a lot of things we enjoy doing together but have enough things that we like that are different that we challenge each other to try new things. Fundamental beliefs and values are pretty much exactly the same. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aquinas Academy Posted May 30, 2011 Share Posted May 30, 2011 In personality we are different. We share enough interests to have a lot of things we enjoy doing together but have enough things that we like that are different that we challenge each other to try new things. Fundamental beliefs and values are pretty much exactly the same. This is what DH and I are like, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twoxcell Posted May 30, 2011 Share Posted May 30, 2011 Well I'm a ISTJ and he is an INFP, so we are quite different except for both being introverts. We get along great though and hardly ever fight. We have pretty much the same worldview though, and we both are very devoted to family life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angela in ohio Posted May 30, 2011 Share Posted May 30, 2011 I voted 'Other.' We are similar in many ways (both very easy going, both prefer to spend time with each other and family than in social situations, etc.,) but we are different as well (he is the funny guy and I am more serious and quiet.) We have merged over the years, I think. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 I said mostly opposite, but I am aware of that when people say they are opposite of their spouse, many on the outside are thinking: same. The similarities don't gall the way opposites do, and thus we notice them more. My ex and I had HUGE similarities. We had one difference that did us in: I am happy and peppy and he was moody and disappointed in everything (including me, in the end). Our taste in movies, clothes, food, house, our work ethic, our savings goals, etc. etc. etc. were very similar. But, we were Tigger and Eeyore. (Come to think of it, if we'd both been Eeyores, we just would have ended it sooner. Darn, too bad I'm not an Eeyore.) Current hubby *is* opposite, but we didn't "attract". We are castaways on the same aging island, and we are kind to each other. We even came from different shipwrecks, of ships going different places. His wife marooned him, and my ex just sank from view with nary a bubble. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetMissMagnolia Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 we're totally different LOL he is a big 'ol tough tattooed army dude and I was a quiet,little country girl... he drank beer and I drank diet soda lol he listened to heavy death metal music and I was into 80s music and country music....lol but it works for us...met on a blind date in 2000---married in 2001----it will be our 10th wedding anniversary this summer......lol and guess what channel is on his radio in the car.....COUNTRY! lol it's soooo funny if he puts one of his old cds in or if I put it on an 80s music channel the kiddo will put up a fuss and complain till we put it back on the country station....lol I laugh and tell the hubby his old army buddies would NOT recognize him now........... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WishboneDawn Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 I often joke that I went out and married the male version of me. :) Similar obviously. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 I'm an ENTP (with a lot of learned J habits). He's an INTJ. So, we are similar in some ways and very different in others. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jewellsmommy Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 Both. Where he's strong, I'm weak, and vice versa. We have the same beliefs about family, marriage, all the important stuff. We share the same sense of humour, integrity, honesty...We're both stubborn and passionate. He has far more life experience and street smarts, I have an easier time with books. Wow, :iagree: your answer describes my dh and me perfectly! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimm Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 We share the same values but our personalities are very different. It works out well, though we certainly can drive each other a little nuts. :) Oh, and he's an ISTJ and I'm an INFP. So our actual personalities are opposites except for introversion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jenangelcat Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 I posted other because when we first met we were complete opposites. I was a major introvert and he was a very popular extrovert. 13 years later we've met in the middle. I'm way more outgoing than I used to be and he's become more of a homebody. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AHASRADA Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 Our interests, personalities, temperaments, learning styles, strengths, weaknesses and approach to life are almost as opposite as can be. When we aren't driving each other nuts, we complement each other fabulously (OK, the more I think about it, these two phenomena typically occur simultaneously--getting on our last nerve, while complementing one another). The glue that holds us together is our agreement on faith, values, priorities, and life goals for ourselves and our children. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 Do you and your spouse have similar or opposite personalities? I voted 'mostly opposite,' but really I prefer to use the term 'complementary.' We are very different in many ways, but those differences tend to complement each other, rather than being opposed to each other. I.e. most of his strengths are my weaknesses and vice-versa. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joannqn Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 We share the same views on childbirth, parenting, homeschooling, etc. However, we are exactly the opposite on the Meyer's Brigg personality profiles. He's ISTJ and I'm ENFP...can't be more opposite than that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twilight Woods Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 were opposites Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Britomart Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 I voted 'mostly opposite,' but really I prefer to use the term 'complementary.' We are very different in many ways, but those differences tend to complement each other, rather than being opposed to each other. I.e. most of his strengths are my weaknesses and vice-versa. I like this; it sounds like my husband and I too. I'm an INFJ and he's an ESTP - so exactly opposite, but where I'm a strong I & J, he's a week E & P. And where he's a strong S & T, I'm a weak N & F. So it's easy for each of us to give where the other person cares more. And though we have very different personalities, we have very similar views on religion, parenting, money and general lifestyle. It all works really well for us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie Laurie Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 I had to think about it for a minute, because we enjoy/value a lot of the same things (reading, the same tv shows, we both wanted a lot of kids, he is all for hsing, extended bfing, cosleeping, etc, which are all important to me too), but you asked about personality, so I said mostly opposite. He is totally a type A personality and I am not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasar31629 Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 Personalities are quite literally polar opposite. Our values and beliefs OTOH are uniform, which is why I feel we work so well together. :tongue_smilie: (That's my- 'ok, enough mush' face). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Osmosis Mom Posted May 31, 2011 Share Posted May 31, 2011 Our interests, personalities, temperaments, learning styles, strengths, weaknesses and approach to life are almost as opposite as can be. When we aren't driving each other nuts, we complement each other fabulously (OK, the more I think about it, these two phenomena typically occur simultaneously--getting on our last nerve, while complementing one another). The glue that holds us together is our agreement on faith, values, priorities, and life goals for ourselves and our children. Hahhaa, this is my situation as well. We have absolutely nothing in common interests- or temper-wise, but our values and belief system are the same plus we are deadly attracted to eachother (you forgot that one, friend-of-mine!!). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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