Guest Virginia Dawn Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 Don't you ever find yourself sucked in? For example, if you see a large family group with the mother and the girls with long hair and in dresses, and the boys in button-up shirts and khaki pants, in mid-winter, in the middle of the week, in the middle of the day, shopping or walking down the street or climbing out of a large van, don't you ever say to yourself, "homeschoolers." ;) My kids and I do it all the time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam "SFSOM" in TN Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 Don't you ever find yourself sucked in? For example, if you see a large family group with the mother and the girls with long hair and in dresses, and the boys in button-up shirts and khaki pants, in mid-winter, in the middle of the week, in the middle of the day, shopping or walking down the street or climbing out of a large van, don't you ever say to yourself, "homeschoolers." ;) My kids and I do it all the time. Yes! I even talk to them in stores. But my eyes are also open for the less conventional among us. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elizam Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 Don't you ever find yourself sucked in? For example, if you see a large family group with the mother and the girls with long hair and in dresses, and the boys in button-up shirts and khaki pants, in mid-winter, in the middle of the week, in the middle of the day, shopping or walking down the street or climbing out of a large van, don't you ever say to yourself, "homeschoolers." ;) My kids and I do it all the time. Well, sure.... but I don't meet very many of those families... I really don't meet many homeschoolers at all! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doran Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 But, my attention is drawn to the fact that there are kids out shopping in the middle of the day, in the middle of the week. More often than not I'll stop them (and, they tend to gaze at me as if I must have four heads), smile, and say, "Homeschooling? Us, too." I can't say I've ever noticed what they're wearing. Doran Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PariSarah Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 But what I'm thinking is more, "Look! Somebody who homeschools. Just like me!" instead of "Heh. Denim jumper homeschooler. Not like me!" Is that okay? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle T Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 and I don't think there are so many of that particular stereotype homeschooler here. There might be in other parts of the country, I don't know. But if I did see such a family, I would definitely think, "Oh, they must be homeschoolers". I would be unlikely to talk to them though, as my stereotyped thinking would continue "They are not going to be interested in talking to a non-Christian like me." Michelle T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Virginia Dawn Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 Maybe this has more to do with the area we live in than anything else. A very large percentage of homeschoolers live in a 50 mile radius, and even more come here for vacations. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gandpsmommy Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 and I don't think there are so many of that particular stereotype homeschooler here. There might be in other parts of the country, I don't know. But if I did see such a family, I would definitely think, "Oh, they must be homeschoolers". I would be unlikely to talk to them though, as my stereotyped thinking would continue "They are not going to be interested in talking to a non-Christian like me." Michelle T I hope that you haven't had too many past experiences that would cause you to feel this way. I definitely don't fit the stereotype, but I am a Christian, and I love talking to any homeschoolers we meet, no matter what their faith. In fact, in our old hometown, I felt a lot more comfortable in the non-Christian, hippy crowd of homeschoolers than in the faith-based homeschool group. Interesting, huh? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doran Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 I would be unlikely to talk to them though, as my stereotyped thinking would continue "They are not going to be interested in talking to a non-Christian like me." My goodness. That seems so sad to me. I can't imagine thinking that anyone wouldn't want to talk to me (heh :rolleyes: ..that sounds way more egocentric than I really am!). My point is, why wouldn't they want to talk to you. You're just saying hello and happy homeschooling, right? It's not like you're going to blast right into a whole discussion of faith right there in the WalMart or whatever. Doran Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickenpatty Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 It is rare for me to see people who fit that description. When I do, though, my first thought is, "I wonder what church they go to?" Most of my dress wearing friends send their kids to our church's Christian school. Therefore, I don't automatically think "homeschoolers". I have long hair (dh thinks short hair is unattractive), a mob of children (3 of them girls who have shoulder length hair, 3 boys who wear kakhi's and polos on church days), wear dresses (no jumpers, though), have chickens (not usually in tow), and homeschool. I know one other family like us and we don't see them much. I guess I feel like I am 'fessing up to this & it's kind of bothering me. So many on the board are very quick to separate themselves from people who might look like me. Ouch! :cool: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doran Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 Sorry. I'm being goofy here. It just cracked me up that three of us replied with SURE all in a row, so I had to put in one more. I always think of that silly scene in Airplane..."stop calling me Shirley!" Now watch this show up in some completely different place where it will make no sense whatsoever! :D D~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs. H. Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 I would be unlikely to talk to them though, as my stereotyped thinking would continue "They are not going to be interested in talking to a non-Christian like me." Oh my, I hope I don't put forth that image when I'm out with my children wearing my long blue jean skirt with my hair down to my waist. Yes, I am a CC. Yes, I look like I belong to a certain type of church (although that's not true), but I would love for anyone who is a fellow homeschooler, or anyone with a genuine interest in homeschooling to come up and talk to me anywhere I may be. I'm not going to hand out tracts or try to convert anyone during a casual conversation, and I probably wouldn't even mention God (unless, of course, I said, "Me? Patience? If it weren't for the grace of God I would give these children to the next person who offered me a good hunting dog for them.") By the way, I wonder if anyone I see with school-aged children out during school hours is a homeschooler, no matter what they look like. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gandpsmommy Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 I tend to do this, too! But, I think there is a huge difference between assuming that a large family, dressed in the way you described, out and about in the middle of a weekday is a homeschooling family, and assuming that all homeschooling families are large, Christian families, in which the females wear only skirts/dresses and don't cut their hair. I think that many people are truly just not very knowledgeable about the diversity of homeschoolers. Many people may not know a homeschooling family personally. When people that dh works with find out that we homeschool, many of them are shocked at first because we don't fit that stereotype. And then they are usually very curious, asking how we know what to teach, etc. Most people that we have encountered so far have a positive attitude toward the option when they are given more information, they just don't often know much about it initially. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam "SFSOM" in TN Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 It is rare for me to see people who fit that description. When I do, though, my first thought is, "I wonder what church they go to?" Most of my dress wearing friends send their kids to our church's Christian school. Therefore, I don't automatically think "homeschoolers". I have long hair (dh thinks short hair is unattractive), a mob of children (3 of them girls who have shoulder length hair, 3 boys who wear kakhi's and polos on church days), wear dresses (no jumpers, though), have chickens (not usually in tow), and homeschool. I know one other family like us and we don't see them much. I guess I feel like I am 'fessing up to this & it's kind of bothering me. So many on the board are very quick to separate themselves from people who might look like me. Ouch! :cool: And some of us will run up and accost you with questions right there in the supermarket! Last time I did it, at Ft. Dix commissary in front of the meat cooler, the mom was VERY clear that no, it wouldn't be a good idea for our kids to play together because her kids "had each other and she didn't like to interfere with that by having neighborhood kids over." And I got it... dd was wearing jeans and I had on Burmuda shorts, and my curriculum wasn't "right." And we had already had the conversation about which church, etc. (Post Chapel is sometimes not the right answer, lol!) So I "get it" when other people are leery. Perhaps, like me, they've gotten the vibe either here or elsewhere that such associations aren't always completely welcome. "Be ye seperate," and all. But if I see you in the supermarket, I'm STILL gonna come over and talk! And invite you over for coffee and to chat. :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gandpsmommy Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 The following is a quote from Chickenpatty. I tried to do the quote option, but I guess I didn't do it right, so I edited it to add this. "I guess I feel like I am 'fessing up to this & it's kind of bothering me. So many on the board are very quick to separate themselves from people who might look like me. Ouch!":cool: Oh, that is very sad. I really feel a kinship with all hsers, no matter how they choose to dress or what their faith is. And I have to admit, that, although I wear pants and have my long hair cut and styled, I have a lot of respect for women who choose to wear only dresses and not cut their hair. I have respect for all people who truly live by their convictions, despite what society might think about their choices. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickenpatty Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 Awww, gee, thanks! I do love coffee:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam "SFSOM" in TN Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 Awww, gee, thanks! I do love coffee:) You know what really made her stiffen up visibly? The fact that I was trying to follow TWTM. It was actually pretty funny, though I felt weird -- I'm such a pleaser! :cool: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marie in Oh Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 In fact, many homeschoolers in my hs group look just like you describe, and if you look like that Chickenpatty, then I think I would have tons of respect for you. I think people may distance themselves from the stereotype because somewhere in the unwritten code of homeschooling, this is the ideal. It is what people think of. We have friends with 9 children and when out, the girls wear matching jumpers and the boys where cordinating colored shirts and kackis and they come in in subdued, controlled organization. Our other friends have 9 children, and theirs are bouncing off the walls when here. We come in all shapes and sizes. I have friends who almost apoligize that they "only have 2 children" as that somehow makes them insecure as their worth as a homeschooler. I, in fact, do have a posse of kids, sometimes wear skirts, and cut my hair. We even have 3 chickens. But, I am me, not someone else. I wouldn't be comfortable in the coordiated clothing-- we draw too much attention in a crowd as it is. ;) Don't feel bad for who you are. Be proud of it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kay in Cal Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 We're close to Michelle, and have the same reaction--I've never met these homeschoolers! Here, if I see a mom out during the day with 2 or 3 kids, the boys have very long hair, sandals or barefoot, all have home tie-dyed t-shirts, and they have peace stickers on thier VW, MAYBE I'd think homeschoolers... or just surfers ditching school. Totally different stereotype here, huh? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 You know what really made her stiffen up visibly? The fact that I was trying to follow TWTM. It was actually pretty funny, though I felt weird -- I'm such a pleaser! :cool: :confused: Why would that bother her? :confused: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam "SFSOM" in TN Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 :confused: Why would that bother her? :confused: She said something about it not lining up with their values, but that she knew a lot of homeschoolers who liked it. I really don't know. But it was funny (and kinda freaky) to watch her face. She used all R&S, btw. (And as my standard disclaimer, I love love love R&S Grammar, so I'm not trying to negatively stereotype.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mekanamom Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 She said something about it not lining up with their values, but that she knew a lot of homeschoolers who liked it. I really don't know. But it was funny (and kinda freaky) to watch her face. She used all R&S, btw. (And as my standard disclaimer, I love love love R&S Grammar, so I'm not trying to negatively stereotype.) Heh! I had the opposite reaction when I mentioned TWTM. People assumed I was Christian, and then either a) felt like I tricked them when it turned out I wasn't, or b) were perplexed as to why I would use "such a rigid program" if I wasn't a religious person. LOL! I haven't found a better grammar program than R&S either. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dragons in the flower bed Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 I do notice other homeschoolers, but not so much the conservative type in the denim jumpers. Maybe we just don't have quiverfulls here. I see babies cloth-diapers and in slings, little kids in the opposite gender's clothing or with odd colors of hair, women who smell of patchouli and have no makeup on, teenagers happy to make intelligent conversation with adults -- these things make me stand up and go, "homeschooler?" More often than not, I'm right. The first time I saw my dearest local homeschooling friend (a loose WTM-er), she was bouncing a baby in a sling while assaulting the children's section of a used book sale the same way a lion might dissect a gazelle. I knew right away she was a homeschooler. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrairieAir Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 I tried to take a picture last Sunday. We were driving home from my inlaws' house and I saw a van that had to be a homeschool van. Actually it's one I've seen often, but it's just so much the stereotypical homeschool family vehicle. 16 passenger van with all the right bumper stickers: Todd Tiahrt, Pro Life, Bush/Cheney, and something about creation vs. evolution I think. I was even going to block out the license plate and post it on my blog, but it was raining and I couldn't get a clear shot through the windshield while the car was moving. Sure, I know plenty of homeschoolers that do not fit the stereotype. But I live in a place that is full of homeschoolers who do fit the stereotype. That's not always a bad thing. It just makes me laugh. And not in a "Ha ha, they're so dorky" kinda way. Sometimes I just laugh because things are the way they are.:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 When we moved here a couple of years ago I was looking to meet homeschoolers in our church. One girl basically told me she wasn't interested in getting together at all, as they did "school at home" and I had a boy and she had a girl. I had also asked about the homeschool group and she made some remark about not doing those. Whatever:cool: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
8filltheheart Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 I've lived where the groups required you to be "like-minded." I interpret that to mean "unable to deal with people who don't conform to our specific group-think ideas, don't rock our perfect little image of a narrow world existance." I am happy that the area we have moved to seems to be full of normal, average, every-day kind of people that are homeschooling and seem to be welcoming to everyone. I definitely would assume the described group were homeschoolers, but I also think that about all kids I see out during school hours. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Excelsior! Academy Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 If it weren't for the grace of God I would give these children to the next person who offered me a good hunting dog for them.") Hee Hee!:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Atl Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 We have lots of the Ford Econoline families with all those stickers, handmade dresses, and such, but we also have the sling-wearing, funky haired, patchouli smelling families too. Atl has it all (the very conservative to the total radical unschoolers). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sdWTMer Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 Ayup! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcconnellboys Posted March 6, 2008 Share Posted March 6, 2008 If I see anyone out in the middle of the day, during the middle of the week, with children, then I think "homeschoolers". We don't really shop during school time, so I've never seen that, but we sometimes eat out for lunch and we've seen other children in restaurants while we're eating. I've always lived in areas where there are some numbers of folks who dress as you describe for religious reasons, so I don't necessarily associate that with homeschooling. Regena Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kelli in TN Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 She said something about it not lining up with their values, but that she knew a lot of homeschoolers who liked it. I really don't know. But it was funny (and kinda freaky) to watch her face. She used all R&S, btw. (And as my standard disclaimer, I love love love R&S Grammar, so I'm not trying to negatively stereotype.) I absolutely love having conversations with this type. I like to subtly needle them. I always pull out my big vocabulary words (I don't really know many big words, most of 'em I learned on these forums, but the few I know are useful for these conversations) and I talk methodology and such. I can talk big when I need to. I love one-upping folks that freak out because I have fairly high academic standards for my kids. I am so bad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kelli in TN Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 I tried to take a picture last Sunday. We were driving home from my inlaws' house and I saw a van that had to be a homeschool van. Actually it's one I've seen often, but it's just so much the stereotypical homeschool family vehicle. 16 passenger van with all the right bumper stickers: Todd Tiahrt, Pro Life, Bush/Cheney, and something about creation vs. evolution I think. I was even going to block out the license plate and post it on my blog, but it was raining and I couldn't get a clear shot through the windshield while the car was moving. Sure, I know plenty of homeschoolers that do not fit the stereotype. But I live in a place that is full of homeschoolers who do fit the stereotype. That's not always a bad thing. It just makes me laugh. And not in a "Ha ha, they're so dorky" kinda way. Sometimes I just laugh because things are the way they are.:D I know that family! Or at least I know their Tennessee cousins. They live a county over and their kids show up at alot of district and state 4H events. The girls wear a lot of long denim things, all the girls have lots of hair, the boys don't know that you can leave that top button open and they do. not. like. to. lose. at. 4H. Ever. Once, one of the boys who is the same age as my daughter (and is her nemesis) submitted a decorative wreath to the district fair. It was made from cicada shells. I am not making this up. I could not make this up if I tried. Their van is covered with stickers, but not just on the back, they have witness stickers on the sides of the van too. Very interesting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elizam Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 I've lived where the groups required you to be "like-minded." I interpret that to mean "unable to deal with people who don't conform to our specific group-think ideas, don't rock our perfect little image of a narrow world existance." I am happy that the area we have moved to seems to be full of normal, average, every-day kind of people that are homeschooling and seem to be welcoming to everyone. I definitely would assume the described group were homeschoolers, but I also think that about all kids I see out during school hours. Sounds a bit like the group I left that decided to stop letting the skating rink choose the Skate Day music, because they were playing (GASP) Christian hip hop and rock. :rolleyes: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kelli in TN Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 Sounds a bit like the group I left that decided to stop letting the skating rink choose the Skate Day music, because they were playing (GASP) Christian hip hop and rock. :rolleyes: You can't exactly roller skate to hymns, can you? We used to have a lot of people who really followed Bill Gothard's teachings and they could not listen to cool music. Apparently the beat is evil even if the lyrics are good. We had several folks try to get us involved and as much as we used to be total followers, we never went to the first seminar because we had heard about one of the rules Gothard had for his flock... No beards. I am serious. Men could not wear beards. I don't know if that is still the case, but it was then. My husband looks wrong without a beard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrairieAir Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 You can't exactly roller skate to hymns, can you?QUOTE] Well, I can't. The last homeschool skate we ever went to played "Ave Maria" among others. I am a Christian, but I don't typically like Christian rock either. This was just too much for me. I like hymns, in the right context. That's fine though. To each his own. I just decided that particular activity was not for our family. The combination of "Ave Maria" blasted over the speakers in full operatic style and a room full of rolling, whirling children and strobe lights gave me a headache that it took quite some time to recover from. And Kelli, are you sure you don't live in Kansas? Because we have that same 4-H family. I don't know about the cicada shell wreath, but it wouldn't surprise me. Nothing against them though. Their nice folks and I'm sure there are plenty of things about me that they think are wacky. It makes life interesting, doesn't it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kelli in TN Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 [quote name=PrairieAir;89981 And Kelli' date=' are you sure you don't live in Kansas? Because we have that same 4-H family. I don't know about the cicada shell wreath, but it wouldn't surprise me. Nothing against them though. Their nice folks and I'm sure there are plenty of things about me that they think are wacky. It makes life interesting, doesn't it? I had the misfortune to judge a clothing construction competition once. One of the girls from this family was in the group I was judging. She did not win. She placed, but she did not win. A few weeks later I came across the mom as we were both dropping off kids at the local college for music lessons. She questioned me about it in the parking lot. She was not confrontational, but still, it was extremely uncomfortable to have to answer questions about what was in my head and the heads of the other judges. After that I refused to ever judge any 4H event again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sweetpeach Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 I completely agree with this statement -- because *I* wasn't very knowledgeable about the diversity of hs'ers. When we started attending our current church three years ago, I knew 5 - 6 families who hs'ed. I assumed I'd have instant and life-long friends, well, because we all hs'ed. I had NO idea the diversity or spectrum represented by hs'ers and certainly wouldn't have guessed that hs'ers were so unique in approach, parenting, methods. I absolutely lumped us all together! Truly, who knew? Not me. I'm still dumbfounded by the spectrum of hs'ers -- I just had no idea. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sasha Posted March 7, 2008 Share Posted March 7, 2008 I don't see a lot of the very stereotypical homeschoolers, but I do find myself thinking "I'll bet they're homeschoolers!" when I see a group of kids (oftentimes rambunctious) talking a million miles a minute. If they ask more than fifteen questions in three breathes I know that they are. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sebastian (a lady) Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Don't count them out automatically. I was at a local women's conference held at a hotel. We had a huge ballroom full of all different kinds of Christian ladies. In the next ballroom was a "gentlemen's" party complete with cigars and stripper. The stripper was sharing a bathroom with all of us fine Christian ladies. Most of us weren't quite sure what to say. Who do you suppose was the one who chatted with her, got her story (single mom taking care of her kid), prayed with and for her and swapped phone numbers? The older Mennonite lady, complete with long skirt and hair covering. I try to keep that vision in my mind - it chastened me to look past outsides - on either range of the spectrum. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daisy Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 I almost never see that stereotypical family either. But I'm another SoCal homeschooler. I think it would be neat! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AKshanmar Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 First of all...I don't have enough kids. I have long hair and wear skirts. I'm also often wearing a black leather jacket and black boots. My girls wear skirts 50% of the time, with Ugg boots or flip flops. My boys have their jeans just right, and are usually wearing skaterish clothes, as long as they don't have skulls on them. (I despise skulls as logo wear.) I am currently driving an orange avalanche truck. My only bumper sticker is the one that my son snuck on my bumper which reads "Out of my mind. Back in 5 minutes." We have just about everytype of homeschooler around here. We also have a large Russian Orthodox community and a decent sized Mennonite community, both of which fit the lots of kids, skirts, khaki, van sterotype. Variety is the spice of life! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickenpatty Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Update! Breaking out of my stereotype... As of tonight (well, yesterday now) I no longer have long hair! I got a really horrid haircut that kind of looks like a jelly fish. :( :mad: Well, at least hair grows back. I wonder if anyone would notice if I wore a baseball cap to church tomorrow? They might, though, since I'm singing a solo. P.S. I drive a Ford econoline. No bumber stickers, though. Just a soccer magnet to cover the dent I made from backing into someone's mailbox. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sasha Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Here, if I see a mom out during the day with 2 or 3 kids, the boys have very long hair, sandals or barefoot, all have home tie-dyed t-shirts, and they have peace stickers on thier VW, MAYBE I'd think homeschoolers... or just surfers ditching school. Totally different stereotype here, huh? I'm in the midwest but near a liberal university town, so this is the stereotype of homeschoolers that I'm likely to run into (in fact, it's one that I fit myself. :p My youngest, even, has dreadlocks). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aubrey Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 It is rare for me to see people who fit that description. When I do, though, my first thought is, "I wonder what church they go to?" Most of my dress wearing friends send their kids to our church's Christian school. Therefore, I don't automatically think "homeschoolers". I have long hair (dh thinks short hair is unattractive), a mob of children (3 of them girls who have shoulder length hair, 3 boys who wear kakhi's and polos on church days), wear dresses (no jumpers, though), have chickens (not usually in tow), and homeschool. I know one other family like us and we don't see them much. I guess I feel like I am 'fessing up to this & it's kind of bothering me. So many on the board are very quick to separate themselves from people who might look like me. Ouch! Aw, Patty. I think you should take your chickens!;) I have long hair, too. Dh likes it. It drives me nuts & makes me look like a super-conservative-fascist-homeschooling-Christian nut. At least, that's how I feel about it.:D But I don't have chickens. :(;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcconnellboys Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Someone send this woman a bumper sticker! I just changed cars and my husband ripped my "Free Tibet" sticker off my old vehicle when we started to look at trading it. Now I'm lost. I can't find my car anymore..... Can someone please send me another "Free Tibet" bumper sticker???? Regena Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcconnellboys Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 Wow! Now *that's* a bumper sticker *I* need! Where can I get that? Regena Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Free Indeed Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 It drives me nuts & makes me look like a super-conservative-fascist-homeschooling-Christian nut :(;) Hey whats wrong with that??? :D Just kidding, but I thought that comment was cute. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Volty Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 In China it's different, you can strike up a conversation with just about anybody that doesn't look Chinese. Just having another foreigner to talk to is a pleasant change. When I worked in Guiyang I was introduced by a mutual aquaintence to another 30-something American who was an English professor at the local University. We didn't have much in common, he was a conservative Christian and a fan of George Bush which normally means sitting there talking with him is as much fun as sitting there talking to somebody with tuberculosis or ebola. Normally. But I genuinely liked the guy and he had a son the same age as the son of my girlfriend at the time. And we eventually became really good friends. His was such such a great family, his wife was such a great mom, his kids (4) were all great. This guy had it all going right for him, everything I could want in a family and in life. And I was quite envious. Anyways to tie the story into the thread, if I had known before I met the man that he was a fundy Christian, I'd have probably not bothered to meet him. But everything changed because of that family. I wouldn't have had the template of domestic bliss, wouldn't have gotten into HSing, wouldn't be posting here. I had such a crush on his wife -not that I ever let her know this- but because of her I knew exactly what I was looking for and my own wife, who I love deeply and am very satisfied with, is the closest copy of her I could find in China (minus the Christian bits). That my daughter is so happy, wonderful, and perfect is a credit to my wife. So now, now I talk to everybody. And while I'm an atheist and not now nor ever will be Christian, I've really come to peace with them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
readwithem Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 She said something about it not lining up with their values, but that she knew a lot of homeschoolers who liked it. I really don't know. But it was funny (and kinda freaky) to watch her face. She used all R&S, btw. (And as my standard disclaimer, I love love love R&S Grammar, so I'm not trying to negatively stereotype.) That's ironic, because WTM recommends so much R&S! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
readwithem Posted March 8, 2008 Share Posted March 8, 2008 IOnce, one of the boys who is the same age as my daughter (and is her nemesis) submitted a decorative wreath to the district fair. It was made from cicada shells. I am not making this up. I could not make this up if I tried. Oh.my.word. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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