Medically, it's incredibly unrealistic. Half of what the doctors do on that show are really what nursing does. It's fiction. The show's strength was the dialogue and music choices. That era of TV is over now. There's a bajillion choices out there, many of them of much higher quality than Grey's.

It’s the talking. You can’t just borrow an egg. It’s egg + conversation.

Yes, I think it's important to really consider the quality of life implications of chemo and dialysis. This might be a good time to meet with a palliative care doctor. They are helpful at guiding patients and families through these decisions. FIL chose not to pursue dialysis. He lived for about a year and a half after his stage 4 diagnosis, mostly focusing on blood pressure and blood sugar control. He was very happy with his quality of life up until maybe the last 2 months, after he had a stroke. OP, I'm really sorry that you are getting such mixed messages from the doctors. That's really frustrating and makes everything harder.

No, except at work. It’s still mandated at my hospital for employees but not patients or families. I don’t mask anywhere else. Covid once, summer of last year.

Do you know when that changed? Just took come off FIL’s old correlle….

Would a new paint color help? I think I would try to refresh the space in a way that distinguished it from when your dad lived there. I agree that a hang out/work out room seems like the way to go.

Ah, that's a bummer. That was my lifeblood when I was in the trenches.

I bet this is true. When I was actually homeschooling, I spent the vast majority of my time on the education boards. Now I only visit the chat board.

My youngest is ENTJ and a force of nature. Like the most productive, self-motivated kid I've ever met. The TJ kills me sometimes, though. Dh is also a TJ, so I'm used to it but, yikes, we could not be more opposite in our decision making.

This makes me think that maybe I'm more S. I always tell people I have alligator skin- I'm almost impossible to offend. Which I guess doesn't sound like an F trait but I'm definitely F. I'm very aware of how others might receive interactions and care deeply about others feelings. I guess I've just learned not to take anything personally from others (I think because I can always empathize with how the other person feels?). idk. It's meeee! 100% words over images

I'm either INFP or ISFP. I'm always right on the cusp. I think I might lean just slightly more S, though.

I had a best friend when we lived in Florida and we kept in touch for many years, but at some point I realized that it was ALWAYS me that called her. So last year, I decided to wait and see. I texted her on her birthday but that was it. She texted me on my bday and Mother’s Day. Well she just texted me last week on the eve of a surgery she is having. That prompted a phone call. It has been about a year since we talked on the phone. Idk how I feel about it. I have a lot of friends that I consider close, but we only talk once or twice a year. I think the difference is the rest of them feel much more reciprocal. It is what it is.

How about get separate hampers and everyone washes their own clothes? That’s how we’ve done it for 20 years and it works just fine.

He should absolutely be on anticoagulants. I'm so surprised with his hx that there's any question. He will likely be fine waiting the 11 days but I would push the cardiologist if there's any question.

If you do end up going to Nantucket, the back of Elin Hilderbran's most recent novel, Hotel Nantucket, has her personal travel guide to the island. She's a local.

As a nurse, I personally know 2 nurses who have foster-adopted former patients. Nurses do have professional boundaries but that doesn't mean there isn't a rare circumstance where something extraordinary happens. As long as these nurses are working within the system set in place, I see nothing wrong with it.

I believe that putting property into trust will also protect it from recovery.

If you haven't already, there's an elder care club on here. Look for my posts about FIL. Spryte wrote out some very helpful and detailed responses.

My MIL hired an elder care lawyer who filed for institutional medicaid while FIL was in the facility for rehab. Once she filed, we were under strict instructions not to allow them to discharge him to us (long story, she doesn't live in our area- FIL lived near us even though they were still married). She had to pay out of pocket for about 6 weeks of care once the insurance stopped paying for rehab but he did get approved for medicaid and she was refunded back all of that money. From the end of rehab to his death was about 6 weeks. The out of pocket for his care was about 19k. Lawyer cost was 10k. So going the lawyer route saved her 9k. I don't know how the calculation is made because MIL is still working and she makes more than 100k a year. I know most of her personal assets are in trust. FIL had very little income and only about 10k in his account when he went into the hospital. The paperwork was immense. I don't think we could have successfully navigated it all without the lawyer.

I mostly feel ok about this statement but I'm also in a healthy relationship. As a couple who has recently launched all of our kids, I can say that in the end, those kids go do their thing. It's dh and I here- this is absolutely my most primary relationship. I can probably say that with freedom because it's not like he's ever pitted himself against the kids, which I know some immature men do to their partners.

My kid went on multiple ps trips and this seems extreme. I would have a very hard time abiding.

I think you did ask it in a non-threatening way. You dodged a bullet, friend!

Dh wins because he has chronic nerve pain. Whatever temp he needs, that's where we set it. I like it cooler but he doesn't keep it that warm (67 in the day and 65 at night)

I like Native but I think with all of these, they work for some people and not for others. You just have to try them out. I got a sample pack the first time I tried Native and that was a good thing because some of the scents smell sour on me. I need a specific type of scent. Native also didn't work at all for one daughter but did for the other. I think it's a personal chemistry thing.

Some of the treatments Dh got at the pain clinic: high dose topical capsaicin- went spectacularly bad Stellate ganglion block- really helpful but short lived. Had some hope that treatments would build but his 3rd or 4th treatment went really poorly so dh discontinued 5 day ketamine infusion- didn't have any long term benefit. I think I'm missing some other treatments...they tried a variety of prescription meds Dh found his best relief through psychotherapy (though it wasn't specifically aimed at pain management). As he states it, therapy helped him to learn how to live with the pain by helping him process what the pain was taking away from him. As an outsider, I would also say that exercise and keeping our home at an overall warmer level also helped. He's also a motorcycle rider and he experiences a lot of pain relief from that (something about the vibration + stress relief). He hasn't been on opioids for years, though I'm grateful for the role they played in his recovery. When he needed them, he really needed them. His pain is nerve pain, but he does spectacularly bad on Neuro meds and has not been able to tolerate any of those.