Keep in touch with your director. If she jumps ship, you might be able to work for her again in the future. This is how job movement works IME.

I'm looking for recommendations of online companies that sell grave markers. FIL passed away on the first. I'm working on arrangements and didn't realize that the plot he owns is also where his grandparents and mom are interned, which is very sweet to me. Makes me want to go buy a whole bunch of plots right next to each other. Anyhow, I'm looking for something flat and classic (probably granite?).

As an aside, this has been really fun to watch. You did the thing! It’s really too bad we won’t get as many details on the new gig but I’m excited for you!

Full fat cottage cheese mixed with egg and mozzarella does the trick. Not cottage cheesy at all.

That cousin shirt thing would make a great Christmas tradition

They're a new year's tradition here!

I posted here about this phenomena with my daughter and basically got shamed by everyone for dismissing her. It’s a real problem.

Just so you are well-informed, c-diff is something that can be acquired but not make you sick for a long time. SIL and FIL likely DO have c-diff. All it may take is a round of antibiotics for something as benign as a sinus infection and they could end up with a full blown infection (milder antibiotics kill everything else and then c-diff takes over). My FIL's c-diff was probably acquired from his wife's infection about 10 years ago. He didn't present as infected until he was put on a new medication that gave him diarrhea. As soon as his gut was off-balance, the c-diff took over and made him very sick. It's a time bomb.

I’m really glad hospice is working out. FIL told me that the hospital misdiagnosed him with a stroke because his speech and movement weren’t effected. He told me this with slurred speech, from his rehab bed that he couldn’t get himself out of. The human capacity for denial is unrivaled.

TBH, this is exactly why I wouldn't be able to keep my mouth shut. I'd be calling her out day and night.

You are doing a great job of threading the needle here. I think there's some of us (including myself here) who are more...forward in our interactions and would probably burn the whole thing down. But I think we all also recognize that you have a marriage to protect and part of that is honoring your dh's wishes in this process. And your dh is right, silence speaks. I've never been good at silence so I'm glad your dh has you!

I’d be tempted to suggest residential care again just to get kicked off the text thread. Your sil is out of her mind.

I had that happen once and I asked the lady which kid she would like me to get rid of.

My FIL is dying and we’re his main caregivers. If he makes it to 2023, which I think he may, that will dominate things for awhile. We would like to move closer to both of our jobs next year. The market stinks but our house will always go for more than where we’re moving so that will help. I need to get my life habits (eating and exercise) back into balance.

One of the kindest things my mom has always done when visiting is to help with the laundry. No one folds as neatly as she does! And she loves doing it. The only difference with my MIL is she would “help” by deciding that I didn’t have anything organized correctly and she’d move all of our things. One year she even poured out and switched the salt and pepper shakers! As for your poll, there’s a difference between family helping and just a random house guest. Family and my close girlfriends I would welcome the laundry help. Other house guests, I would not.

That’s what we’re doing with FIL now. But they still can’t watch him 24/7. I think you‘ll only get 1:1 care if you hire privately.

OMG I just realized my mistake, lol. This deserves both a pole and a poll.

(((hugs))) Dawn. Make sure they're taking good care of his pain control. Sometimes anti-psychotics are helpful at this stage.

This deserves a pole

This was my impression too, but I also hesitate to throw diagnoses out. But first impression sounds like an acute psych episode.

She sounds in need of professional mental health care.

Yeah, my whole family is on find friends and I find it to be a healthy convenience

It seems like a normal request to me. Dh and I do this for each other all the time. I would be really hurt if I was person A.

Yes, thanks for posting about this. Was just thinking about my word for next year. Last year's was mercy. We had a rough, rough start to the year but I really can see His mercy in how our year is ending. Nothing turned out how we planned but I feel really blessed by where we're at now. I think next year's word is Connect. I've been in a bit of a school hidey hole for several years now. I'm really feeling the need to make new connections with people and push through tiredness/introvertedness.

FIL had cdiff in October and I still wear gloves when I go to his apartment (and I wear my hospital shoes), if that tells you anything. He never made it home (stroke, he's in a SNF now). We're moving his stuff out right now. This is after I already went through the whole place with bleach.