Dmmetler Posted January 2, 2023 Share Posted January 2, 2023 My mother's long time best friend, who was also the mom of my long time best friend and basically my second mom died last night/early this morning. I know I've had some normal holiday seasons, but it certainly seems like every year I am dealing with hospitals, funerals or both. 42 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
itsheresomewhere Posted January 2, 2023 Share Posted January 2, 2023 It was a sad end to the year for us too. Someone we used to be close to until they moved years ago was murdered by their adult child and attacked the other adult child. The child is going to have a very hard road ahead if they recover. 22 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted January 2, 2023 Share Posted January 2, 2023 I’m sorry for your losses, @Dmmetlerand @itsheresomewhere. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted January 2, 2023 Share Posted January 2, 2023 11 minutes ago, Spryte said: I’m sorry for your losses, @Dmmetlerand @itsheresomewhere. I am too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katy Posted January 2, 2023 Share Posted January 2, 2023 I’m sorry for your losses. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Faith-manor Posted January 2, 2023 Share Posted January 2, 2023 I am sorry! I have a theory because I have seen this often. It seems like some folks are holding on for one last Christmas, and then are ready to let go. Hugs! 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grace Hopper Posted January 2, 2023 Share Posted January 2, 2023 I remember years ago reading an article about this time of the year seeing statistically higher rates of mortality. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dmmetler Posted January 2, 2023 Author Share Posted January 2, 2023 It really feels like a curse at this point. It doesn't help any that my FB memories are full of tragedies past...including daily updates from ICU at this time last year. Having said that, my mother fighting to get to church for one last Easter, and her friend getting through one last Christmas both seems on brand for them. It's hard to imagine my childhood church without either of them. And it makes me really nervous about the other long time Circle folks... 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiewindmomma Posted January 2, 2023 Share Posted January 2, 2023 I think a lot of people hang on through the holidays and then let go. I also think cumulative stress from the holidays factors into a lot of DV and stress. There’s a reason Jan-Feb tends to be peak season for divorce filings. But, it totally stinks for those grieving lost ones to have deaths tied to the holidays. We cope with that here and it’s hard. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Granny_Weatherwax Posted January 2, 2023 Share Posted January 2, 2023 I'm so sorry. Sending gentle hugs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 Yeah, today is the anniversary of my moms passing. We got the call on NYD and she passed on the 2nd, 12 years ago. One last Christmas… 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyoffive Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 @Dmmetler I am so sorry for your loss. Sending some hugs to you. @itsheresomewhere I am so sorry for your violent loss. Sending prayers to the child who is hurt and the whole family. Tragic. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forget-Me-Not Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 (edited) 7 hours ago, Grace Hopper said: I remember years ago reading an article about this time of the year seeing statistically higher rates of mortality. I was just thinking yesterday that it seems we always lose a few high profile people right before the new year. @DmmetlerI’m so sorry for your loss 💙 Edited January 3, 2023 by Forget-Me-Not 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 Hugs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 @DmmetlerIt is so hard when the older generation of not only parents but parents friends, church folk, all the folks start to die. I have a friend who moved recently. Before she left we walked through the cemetery so she could say goodbye to her old friends. Find ways to remember them. Lots of hugs for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resilient Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 I'm sorry for all the loss. We have one of our own this time. A factoid: when you look at the "graph" for times of death, there are spikes around birthdays, the major religious holiday of the culture (used to be Easter in the US), Thanksgiving, Christmas, and the "big" birthdays especially (90, 100, etc.). This has been borne out in my experience, not perfectly, but statistically. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 8 hours ago, itsheresomewhere said: It was a sad end to the year for us too. Someone we used to be close to until they moved years ago was murdered by their adult child and attacked the other adult child. The child is going to have a very hard road ahead if they recover. @itsheresomewherebeing in the club of knowing someone murdered by friend or family is just so shocking and sad. I'm there with you. Many hugs. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resilient Posted January 3, 2023 Share Posted January 3, 2023 9 hours ago, itsheresomewhere said: It was a sad end to the year for us too. Someone we used to be close to until they moved years ago was murdered by their adult child and attacked the other adult child. The child is going to have a very hard road ahead if they recover. This is the worst. I am sorry for this ... it is more than a loss because it is outside the way of the world. It is very hard to deal with, and I am sorry it is part of your life. :0( 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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