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  1. 95% sure not. Lots of reasons, none of which related to DH, who is a good man and a good husband. 90% sure dh would remarry, and that would be great. But he is older than I and so it is not likely to happen. I have all the variables covered (said they wouldn't but did; VV, said they would but didn't and VV) and all that says to me is "never say never." Thus, the 5% on my own bet. When I was young, all my friends and I said, "When I hit my 50s/60s, I'm going back to school and get my master's degree!" Now, I couldn't be less interested. When you look at future possibilities, you have to remember that you will be a different person by that time. You don't get old in a 35yo body. You don't get over being a couple by suddenly being alone. I told my longest-term friend that if DH precedes me in death, the very first thing I am going to do after I get my bearings is sell this house and buy a condo "over there." (Specific condo complex.). I told her this so that when I do it, I won't get a ration about not making major decisions for the first year after a death. This will not be the case because I have already decided it. I hope I don't have to act on it. Remembering my own dictum, maybe by the time it happens, I myself will have changed.
  2. The joke around the school I was familiar with is that kids ask each other, "What color is your BMW?" There is pressure on parents to give a lot of money, to contribute mightily to auctions. Kids can be shut out of group activities if you don't set aside some money for that purpose--ski weekends, for example. School uniforms were a big equalizer as far as wardrobe goes. The educational aspect made it worth it but it's not without its challenges.
  3. I am ASKING, not recommending. But I wonder if a device like this would be of help in finding and storing the photos. I'm ASKING for a friend. https://www.thephotostick.com/pages/shop-thephotostick-omni-for-computers-and-mobile-devices?f=16iOBHM5eW8j&n=16iOBHz71llO&ts=0tXRWF1nMBVT&campaignid=12512050726&utm_medium=119873828100&utm_source=1992-AdWords-Search-0192&matchtype=p&network=g&var1=REPLACE&utm_campaign=12512050726&ad=534732849083&kw=photo stick&placement=&target=&utm_content=534732849083&utm_term=photo stick-&adgroup=119873828100&adposition=&gclid=CjwKCAjwruSHBhAtEiwA_qCppi0NGn-WB5hyC4AhwhntY1gUi7i5PIuUtf6GA33tcQUcqngT2rBD2xoCOogQAvD_BwE&vid=fyRlxjpY2I5Xhr9IIHe6zOcExx
  4. Every single one of my parents/in-laws had it, and it was a HUGE benefit to them, immediately, and very little trouble. The hardest part was for one of them who needed help to put in the eyedrops (arthritis) but that was it. I'm sorry that it went badly for your child, though.
  5. We got a Dacor range; it has electric lights around the dials to let you know the burner is on, but it is otherwise just like a good old gas stove. Note that we got a $4000 range for $1500 because Dacor was changing the model*, so they were letting the appliance guys sell them half off. THEN we got more off because of Scratch and Dent. It's akin to this one. https://www.bestbuy.com/site/dacor-30-gas-pro-range-professional-style-natural-gas/6431945.p?skuId=6431945&ref=212&loc=1&ref=212&loc=1&ds_rl=1260669&ds_rl=1273104&ref=212&loc=1&ds_rl=1273104&gclid=Cj0KCQjw6NmHBhD2ARIsAI3hrM2OB8RTukSbI5HToKoVVUJ3ejBI-j19H9-lnY6xmtmtGishkmEPM9YaAoTkEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds *Round handle on oven becoming square. It makes me roll my eyes to think of THAT being so dramatic. Apparently, it is.
  6. We got a non-electronic professional-grade range and I am glad about that for this reason. Electronic panels fail and they are expensive to replace. However, most professional cooks use much higher temps than us normal people...so on the dial, from High to Medium to Low, I get to use about 20% of it. Low to low-medium. That's it. I can use Medium with a large pot to boil water...but cooking? No. So I say no to Professional. Get the high-end appliances, but without electronic controls, if possible.
  7. 70% for county. The county is really diverse and enormous though, so I'd be more interested in knowing the rate in my city or a few zip codes.
  8. At the rate things are going, the Tokyo Olympics will be held without either spectators or athletes. Yikes.
  9. There are a limited number of "beds" for pure-Medicaid pay. Most places accept Medicaid after there has been a period of full-pay (18 months to 5 years in our experience). We have had to deal with this and in the end, the better option was getting dialed in to a LOT of home health care while the elder stayed in low-income housing. That took a lot of effort, follow-up and involvement from us. The home health care people were absolutely wonderful. And the elder was not distressed by ending up in "one of THOSE places." In the greater metro area where we live, there were 5 (FIVE) places that accepted Medicaid-only from the start, and they had long waiting lists. One thing you CAN do to get a jump on this is get an exam by an MD and have the MD recommend home health care or assisted living. IF you find an assisted living facility, THEY will have to do another assessment and then they can accept or reject. The Medicaid rules and processes vary by State, so get dialed in to your state's resources.
  10. To use one example: Forgetting that a fob can be used to take open a garage door is somewhat normal (people your aunt's age grew up without fobs). Forgetting how to do it is ... same. But insisting that the wrong way to do it in the face of the evidence that it isn't working is a different--and worrying--kind of thing. (From my life). Forgetting how to make coffee in the coffee maker...that's a bit concerning. Thinking you make coffee by pouring water in the toaster...that's really bad. One of the clearest examples that helped us from a website: Forgetting where you put your car keys--relatively normal for aging. Forgetting what a car key is for...dementia. One of the other worrying signs is belligerence in the face of being corrected. Dad, you don't put water in the toaster to make coffee. YES YOU DO I HAVE DONE THIS ALL MY LIFE AND IT JUST ISN"T WORKING BECAUSE IT IS A STUPID BROKEN MODERN NOT LIKE THEY USED TO MAKE THEM COFFEE MAKER. WHIPPERSNAPPER!! I can sort of make light of it as it is 15 years or more ago that it happened. But 15 years ago...it was really difficult and scary.
  11. We hit 113º in the shade... And it IS breaking now. Down 3º in an hour. Tomorrow is set to be in the low 90s. A 25-30º swing.
  12. Jean, a lady in my neighborhood has offered to take in critters. Isn’t that great?
  13. This is a weather dome which involves the confluence of three events, each of which is extremely rare…so all three together is really odd. There’s areas of the country where you prepare for snow, or extreme heat, but this is not one of them. So if we get snow that is normal in Colorado, of course we aren’t prepared. Same with the heat. It’s almost like preparing for a tornado or a hurricane. WE prepare for earthquakes. 😏
  14. They are rare partly due to geology but partly because the cost to build vs return is very low on basements in this part of the country. Developers get a lot more ROI on a second story and have for about 30 years.
  15. Probably everything and everyone! The 5 stories is hard. But it does make a difference to hose down brick. Mea culpa for missing the 5 stories part. :0(
  16. We have people who have work to do sitting at spots all over our house. And the third rotation of families through the pool. I have told anyone I know who doesn't have AC they can come here and study. I'm not going to hostess--bring your food and beverages, feel free to swim, and don't expect a lot of convo. I have things to do, as well....but you need not roast in your apartments. Yesterday we had 16 young adults in the pool. Friends from church, son's friends...I was so happy. We came back from church and The Remnant was sitting in the AC. :0)
  17. Frances, this is what I have been told is the main reason for no-basement building. My contractor said that he was never able to recoup the cost of building a basement, whereas adding a second story was a lot less expensive as a way to add square footage. I grew up in a house with a basement (another part of the country) and it was great...only one disaster when the sprinkler system installer screwed up. But our last house's wonderful daylight basement flooded, and after $50,000 left the wallet, we were dry and waterproofed again. And we said no more basements when we moved. Our contractor also told us that concrete's waterproof nature fails after about 40 years. I had not known that. I also suspect that the earthquake-proneness of this area is another bummer for the basement situation.
  18. As I mentioned upthread, DH gets A/C the minute we close on a new house. I have always thought it ridiculous ... until I didn't. Here is something to consider: the fires that burned in WA, OR, CA last year put tons and tons of ash into to air. It was difficult for many people to breathe when they were outside or relied on "natural" ventilation. (I am all in favor of natural ventilation--don't get me wrong. I prefer it...except...) A/C also provides a lot of air filtration. In our house and our cars, after last years fires, the air filters were completely shot...black. All of them had to be replaced. Better that than my lungs.
  19. They are rare partly due to geology but partly because the cost to build vs return is very low on basements in this part of the country. Developers get a lot more ROI on a second story and have for about 30 years.
  20. If you or an elderly loved one of fragile in this heat, consider getting a hotel room. One with A/C. With a little kitchenette you can eat-in if you bring some basics and aren’t too picky for two or three days. It’s a Staycation. Check room availability soon because they can go fast. Make sure elders stay hydrated. They don’t like to because it means they have to use the bathroom more and that is a lot of work for the very elderly. Gatorade might be a good idea.
  21. We have found some temperature reduction by hosing down the roof from time to time during super hot days. We also hose down the patio and pool deck. Then we curse the flippers who painted the house black. We have A/C. It is the first thing DH buys when we get a new house.
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