LauraBeth475 Posted April 18, 2018 Share Posted April 18, 2018 I am going to lose it with a whiny, self-pitying 10 year old. Everything in her life in unfair, no one appreciates her, anything that requires consideration for anyone else is unreasonable. I know it’s hormonal (she was the sweetest child until this year), but man this is trying. *screaming* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravin Posted April 18, 2018 Share Posted April 18, 2018 Yes, I keep hoping my 14 yo. will outgrow it. No sign of that any time soon. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scholastica Posted April 18, 2018 Share Posted April 18, 2018 I’m sorry. It’s a tough age. You could try the Jimmy James reply “If life were fair, there wouldn’t be rich people.” or another (more harsh, less genteel) favorite “Suck it up, Buttercup.” or slightly darker, “Life is hard, then you die.” 3 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rebcoola Posted April 18, 2018 Share Posted April 18, 2018 I commiserate my 11yr old is driving me batty I used to think I was patient. 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted April 18, 2018 Share Posted April 18, 2018 I'll scream with you, if that will help. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bibiche Posted April 18, 2018 Share Posted April 18, 2018 We found this book helpful: What to Do When You Grumble Too Much 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Murphy101 Posted April 18, 2018 Share Posted April 18, 2018 As a mother of her 8th 11 year old, I will always believe this crap is why Joan Cleaver greeted her husband with hard liquor every day. 8 16 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tanaqui Posted April 18, 2018 Share Posted April 18, 2018 It's like toddlers all over again. A snack and a nap... and a little bit of chocolate hidden in the freezer for Mom! 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted April 18, 2018 Share Posted April 18, 2018 It’s a trying time for sure, but I’ll tell you- it’s SWEET when your kid has her own kid who is EXACTLY like her. Oldest dd was definitely a challenge for a few years. And her almost 11 year old has entered that stage...almost daily dd sends a text telling me her dd is driving her crazy. Which is usually quickly followed by a text apologizing for acting the same way when she was that age. Middle and youngest dds were even more challenging...and so far both have declared they aren’t having kids. Too bad. g But for real, sometimes just acknowledging that life is hard (in a sympathetic way, even when you want to roll your eyes at how ‘awful’ they think their lot is) diffuses it. It was really good practice for when the kids became adults. You have to go to work even though you have a cold? That sucks. (what I really want to say is that when I was your age I worked sick and came home to take care of little kids and work on my college coursework, too. Not helpful or relevant . So I stick with ‘that sucks’.) 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scholastica Posted April 18, 2018 Share Posted April 18, 2018 59 minutes ago, Annie G said: It’s a trying time for sure, but I’ll tell you- it’s SWEET when your kid has her own kid who is EXACTLY like her. Oldest dd was definitely a challenge for a few years. And her almost 11 year old has entered that stage...almost daily dd sends a text telling me her dd is driving her crazy. Which is usually quickly followed by a text apologizing for acting the same way when she was that age. Middle and youngest dds were even more challenging...and so far both have declared they aren’t having kids. Too bad. g I keep apologizing to my dh for a particular child's demeanor. So much like me as a teen. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted April 19, 2018 Share Posted April 19, 2018 Hang in there, this too shall pass. hugs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katilac Posted April 19, 2018 Share Posted April 19, 2018 It gets better. Until then, there's day drinking. 2 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cintinative Posted April 19, 2018 Share Posted April 19, 2018 My 12.5 and 10.5 year old are simultaneously in this phase. I feel your pain. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted April 19, 2018 Share Posted April 19, 2018 48 minutes ago, Arctic Mama said: My mom has been crowing over this for several years now. She is thrilled I get to suffer like she did, apparently. Normally I wouldn’t gloat about someone else’s trying times but dd is totally cool with it- she completely understands what a difficult tween/teen she was. I hope your mom is not mean spirited about it. That’s not nice. But dd is exactly like I was and I am like my mom was...so it is what it is. G 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PinkTulip Posted April 19, 2018 Share Posted April 19, 2018 Echoing others, I will say that it does get better. There were so many days when my kids were younger that I wished someone could give me a hug and tell me that my kids are going to be ok, and that they will eventually be pleasant to be around. So hugs, it’s going to be ok, and she will eventually stop driving you crazy! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted April 19, 2018 Share Posted April 19, 2018 my friend's mother used to answer her children's whine of "life isn't fair" by agreeing, "life isn't fair, and you don't want it to be." (iow; shut up kid, you have it better than you 'deserve') 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScoutTN Posted April 19, 2018 Share Posted April 19, 2018 Right there with you. My almost 11 yo ds is impossible lately. I am spoiled because my almost 13 yo dd has not been a terrible tween (So far, anyway. Actual teen years may prove different. My mom says I hit it about 14.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Murphy101 Posted April 19, 2018 Share Posted April 19, 2018 49 minutes ago, gardenmom5 said: my friend's mother used to answer her children's whine of "life isn't fair" by agreeing, "life isn't fair, and you don't want it to be." (iow; shut up kid, you have it better than you 'deserve') “ I deserve ...” is met with “No one gets what they deserve in this life. And most folks need to be grateful for that.” 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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