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They are driving me crazy,

 

They are 12, 10, 8, and 5.

 

All are awake.

 

It's been going on like this for two weeks.

 

I can't take it anymore.

Oh my, that sounds hard.

 

Did it start when you got back from your trip?   I can't remember how long ago that was.

Is something else going on?

Are you opposed to using Melatonin?

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My kids are night owls. They are typically up until midnight. I have no answers for you, just following cause I'd love to change this. If I wake them up early they will just fall asleep mid day and wake up with reset clocks to charge through the night with. If I try to keep them from falling asleep they become way overtired and go bonkers with delirium that fuels a 2nd wind. I will wake them at 9 am tomorrow and see if I can get them to sleep by 9pm. It's a constant struggle. I was the same way and still am so I fear it is a hopeless case. Good luck!

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Sometimes I used to have to go to sleep and leave Marek to it. He would come to bed when he was ready. This was bad because we were on solar and the batteries would be flat if I didn't wake up enough to turn them off during the night. Sometimes my brother would show up, expecting to sleep in the car until we woke him up the next morning, but if the light was on he'd come in. Apparently he'd sit there and watch Marek more or less ignore him (playing blocks, priorities and all) until Marek came to bed and he'd turned the lights off for me. :)

 

:grouphug:  to you. Sleep deprivation is the least fun ever.

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Has it been roughly the same schedule since the trip or was it worse and now getting better?

 

I guess it depends on what you've tried so far. Have you woken them at a regular wake-up time and tried to manage until a regular bedtime?

 

If so, I'd move on to trying to adjust them gradually. Tonight shoot for 2:30, after a couple days, 2:00, etc. About an hour before I wanted them to call asleep, I'd make sure the house was quiet & everyone was freshly bathed and comfy. I'd play calming music. I'd do some mindful relaxation. It might even be worth it to pick up that new book about the rabbit who wanted to go to sleep. Then just leave them to sleep.

 

I know that some of this might be complicated (or not?) By different sleeping arrangements, but gosh, you must be exhausted.

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They are old enough to lie in bed and read until they drop off.  I'd be sleeping but that's because I just don't function without sleep.  If the 5yo can't be trusted to lie down quietly in her own room and look at books until she falls asleep, then I'd suggest a pallet in your room?    

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There are only two methods I've found that work.

 

The first is to heartlessly wake the kids up at a decent time and not let them take any naps. You can do this in stages if you like - wake up half an hour earlier each day (perhaps the first day you wake up 15 minutes earlier than they'd been getting up, and you stick with that waking time a couple of days before moving forward) until they're at a good waking time and, perforce, a good bedtime as well.

 

The second is to go the other route - keep them UP an extra hour every day until they cycle back to a normal sleep schedule. That's, lol, the method I used myself when I was an adolescent!

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There are only two methods I've found that work.

 

The first is to heartlessly wake the kids up at a decent time and not let them take any naps. You can do this in stages if you like - wake up half an hour earlier each day (perhaps the first day you wake up 15 minutes earlier than they'd been getting up, and you stick with that waking time a couple of days before moving forward) until they're at a good waking time and, perforce, a good bedtime as well.

 

The second is to go the other route - keep them UP an extra hour every day until they cycle back to a normal sleep schedule. That's, lol, the method I used myself when I was an adolescent!

I've actually read your second option as a strategy suggested by sleep specialists. Iirc, the article was more specifically about teens, whose natural rhythms cause them to want to stay awake later, then sleep in. For teens who fall so far into this routine that they're missing morning school, the advice was to have them pull an all-nighter, then go to bed at the reasonable desired time the next evening (no naps!). Follow that with a stricter wake up/bedtime schedule.

 

Sorry umsami, no sleep is a real bother.

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I would get them up by 10 and take a nice long hike today. Tonight, I would set them up with audio books, melatonin and chamomile tea. No napping, and dial back wake up time every day. Goal for tonight would be asleep by 12 or 1.

 

Out of likes, but yes, I did wake up everybody at 10 a.m. this morning.  Am planning on a long hike as well.  LOL  

 

Will stop by and pick up some melatonin.

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There are only two methods I've found that work.

 

The first is to heartlessly wake the kids up at a decent time and not let them take any naps. You can do this in stages if you like - wake up half an hour earlier each day (perhaps the first day you wake up 15 minutes earlier than they'd been getting up, and you stick with that waking time a couple of days before moving forward) until they're at a good waking time and, perforce, a good bedtime as well.

 

The second is to go the other route - keep them UP an extra hour every day until they cycle back to a normal sleep schedule. That's, lol, the method I used myself when I was an adolescent!

I ruthlessly do the first method on each Trans pacific trip and upon our return. Works like a charm. I don't feel heartless about it at all. I'm like that though.

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