Georgiana Daniels Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 This year we're moving (hopefully one month from yesterday, if there are no glitches) so our spending has been reduced. In years past, we bought not only for our immediate family, but also for nephews, friends, and a small gift for coaches, etc. This year--not happening. I feel bad, but we need the cash for appraisal/inspection/moving expenses. Who do you buy for? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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TammyinTN Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 We buy for our children, grand-children, parents. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nakia Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 Our children, my parents, my fil, my niece, and some years DH and I buy for each other, if we have the funds. We make gifts for some teachers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-M- Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 This year we're moving (hopefully one month from yesterday, if there are no glitches) so our spending has been reduced. In years past, we bought not only for our immediate family, but also for nephews, friends, and a small gift for coaches, etc. This year--not happening. I feel bad, but we need the cash for appraisal/inspection/moving expenses. Who do you buy for? I'll list the folks to whom we give gifts, but I want to say this first: Do *not* feel bad. Nearly every family experiences years of plenty and years of... decidedly *not* plenty. *wry grin* Best wishes on your move! This year's list: Our daughters Our mothers My sister The current swim coaches The old coach The piano, guitar, and violin teachers The USPS carrier and UPS delivery person The garbage hauler Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wendi Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 We buy for: our ds each other our moms siblings and siblings-in-law* nieces and nephews great-niece (new this year!) This year, I also bought a gift for our horseback riding instructor. Ds and I have been taking lessons since June, and we love it. She's a great teacher and a really sweet person. *This year, my mom, bro and sis-in-law, adult nephew and his wife, and sis-in-law's dad all decided to draw names instead of buying gifts for everyone. So that was different. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HomeschoolMamaOfTwo Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 We do the following: DH - Stocking only DD & DS - Gifts & stocking My mom - gifts My dad - something small, like pics of the kids, a photo calendar, mug, etc. that is all he wants MIL - up to DH, but he generally does nothing, so I usually try to get a little something small that I think she will like FIL - up to DH, but he generally does nothing. If I ever saw FIL I'd get him something, too, but he never comes around even when invited. Sometimes I get my godmother something, just depends. That is it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Georgiana Daniels Posted December 19, 2012 Author Share Posted December 19, 2012 I'll list the folks to whom we give gifts, but I want to say this first: Do *not* feel bad. Nearly every family experiences years of plenty and years of... decidedly *not* plenty. *wry grin* Best wishes on your move! This year's list: Our daughters Our mothers My sister The current swim coaches The old coach The piano, guitar, and violin teachers The USPS carrier and UPS delivery person The garbage hauler That is really generous to include USPS and UPS! I don't know ours anymore. My hubby is a Schwans man and several people give him a little something. We are always grateful. PS. Trying really hard not to feel guilty! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomtoCandJ Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 Something small for dh Gifts and stocking for dd Dmil yearly gift of fuzzy socks Dfil thermal socks (dmil and dfil gifts from dd) Dh's nieces and nephews (10 Walmart gift card each) DB something he can use for school My mom, nieces, nephew and other DB get their gifts at tax time when my mom comes down here to shop :) Anyone else depends on money Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathryn Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 Our children and occasionally each other. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
athena1277 Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 We buy for our dc, the grandparents, nieces and nephews. I baked some pumpkin bread for ds's speech teacher and will make some for dh's brother and sil. Some years we have done a little something for friends, but we haven't had the time or money for that this year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matryoshka Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 My 3 kids My nephews and niece My brother and SIL My parents Best friend & her dd (my goddaughter) MIL Dh's brothers and we don't exchange via mutual agreement Dh and I don't exchange much. He usually gets me earrings (inexpensive ones). He's impossible - I've gotten him things like winter boots, or coat, but he doesn't need those every year and I'm stuck. Oh, and I usually get something small for the music teachers, but have never gotten around to any other outside teachers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 children dh's immediate family (mother, sisters and their grandchildren. their children are adults, so I don't buy them anything.) a few close friends/other I send fudge or cookies (or such) to other people I wish to gift. can you do a plate of homemade cookies or fudge? (or something simple. a bottle of sparkling cider - you can buy a three-pack at costco.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KRG Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 our children my 2 nieces my 2 sisters and bil my parents my grandpa ourselves Most years I make good friends/dh's co-workers cookies/candy or a meal but that did not happen this year and I don't have time to worry about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justLisa Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 Kids, grandparents, a few friends, and I donate a lot. We sort of adopt a few families each year without them knowing it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MeaganS Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 This year I bought for: My girls My DH My MIL My SIL (they do a sibling switch thing, so only one of them a year) My Brother My DD's therapists (3 of them) My DD's dance teacher. Even with all this though, our entire Christmas budget fell below $225. I do some fancy chocolates for the teachers/therapist, a $20 gift for both SIL and my brother, and most of our money goes to our kids, although we do sometimes get a nice-ish family gift (this year it is a Roku). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlmiraGulch Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 It varies. This year, DH and I bought for: Kids (4) Each other My parents His parents (he has 2 sets, but his mother made me SWEAR not to buy her anything this year. she was adament, so I didn't) My ex-husband (from the kids, until they have their own money...they usually pick out or make something of their own to give him, too) His ex-wife (from the younger kid, until she has her own money....same caveat as above) My brother, his wife and their 4 kids, including sending gas money so they can afford to drive from Oregon to central California to visit our other sister and her family One of my great nieces My niece's step-daughter My sister's boyfriend's 2 daughters White Elephant gifts for the big family Christmas party One of my sisters and I usually buy for each other but this year we gave everything to our brother and his family, as they've had a rough couple of years. Sometimes other siblings buy for each other, sometimes not. If we are going to actually see any of the young nieces and nephews, we'll buy for them. If not, we usually don't. We also don't typically buy for the nieces and nephews once they're out of high school. I did not buy any teacher gifts this year, although I usually do, including the bus driver that I adore. I just didn't get around to it, and DD hasn't asked about it, so I let it go this once. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jilly Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 I buy for my children, my parents, and two of my brothers who are not married. I decided this year I was no longer buying for nieces and nephews or married siblings. It was becoming too much for me, and I felt the need to pull back. I am happy I made that decision. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeannie in NJ Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 neither dh or I have surviving parents. We have adult nieces and nephews and we do not buy for them but we do buy for their dc which includes 1 great nephew and 4 great nieces all under the age of 6. My dd picks out their gifts, usually spends about $20 each. We don't buy for anyone else except for our dc. Dh's siblings buy our dc gifts and so do the adult nephews and nieces. Years ago the entire extended family decided to only buy for the children in the family. When ds was in school I would bake cookies for his teacher and also his bus driver and aide. Ds was on the special bus and the bus driver would not only pick up ds in front of the house but if it was snowy or ice, he would come to the front door and actually carry my ds to the bus so he got a big bag of cookies for Christmas. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sukale Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 We buy for our 2 girls and we always get a name from the angle tree. That's it. I bake some cookies for neighbors/coaches too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Georgiana Daniels Posted December 19, 2012 Author Share Posted December 19, 2012 children dh's immediate family (mother, sisters and their grandchildren. their children are adults, so I don't buy them anything.) a few close friends/other I send fudge or cookies (or such) to other people I wish to gift. can you do a plate of homemade cookies or fudge? (or something simple. a bottle of sparkling cider - you can buy a three-pack at costco.) I do wish I could offer homemade things, but right now half my kitchen stuff is packed. (Never unpacked after last move, thinking we'd be in a home before now.) In general, I think homemade goodies are a wonderful idea! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stacia Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 each other the kids my family (parents, sister & her dh) 2 adults in dh's family (because the adults draw names) nieces & nephews (3 total) some friends some of the kids' friends some teachers/coaches/helpers Toys for Tots (or similar like an angel tree, children's charity, etc...) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 children my parents dh's mother (fil is deceased) nieces and nephews (6, spending 20-30 each) SIL announced that a college graduate was too old to be included so she was telling her dd she was not participating in the gift exchange. I haven't done, but I will buy her a small something for her apartment as her adult send off--I told SIL this. I brought up this topic with my brother and he said no one over 18 should get presents. I felt a little whiney, but I pointed out that I've been giving his dd's presents 5 years too long (one is in med school, the other in college); my dc are all younger. Anyway, we sort of agreed on an arbitrary age of 24 to quit including nieces and nephews in child gift exchange. A little old, but we were a little late on this convo I guess. Probably 22 or 23, giving time to finish college and start a career would be better. DH wants to keep giving to all of the nieces and nephews forever. It's a stretch to do what we do do every year, but he doesn't want to stop. I told him it would get awkward after a while. And very expensive once they started having families. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted December 19, 2012 Share Posted December 19, 2012 Always: our kids I buy for dh, he buys for me my parents dh's parents one niece one nephew my sister and bil plus various exchange gifts from different groups I'm involved with Homemade goodies: neighbors and friends Sometimes: Other relatives if we see them. like my cousins kids, as I could never show up somewhere on Christmas and not have something for a child. Usually a book or game. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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