AlmiraGulch Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 .....I, of course, am battling guilt. Not because she's back in public school, but maybe because I didn't have her there previously. This child, who was so bullied, so left behind, so depressed, so struggling academically that I pulled her out of public school for three years, has been excited and animated the past two days coming home from school. She took the initiative to get to the library to finish an assignment yesterday that isn't due until next week. My Aspie child who has no friends is excited about THREE different clubs she wants to join. And this daughter, who would sleep all day and doesn't shower unless I remind her, has gotten herself out of bed, showered, dressed, put on makeup, done her own laundry without prompting, and gotten herself out the door to the bus stop two days in a row. Early. I know it's early in the year, and I know that the enthusiasm will likely fade, as it does even for those who have always liked school. I'm HAPPY she is excited about it so far. But still, I can't shake that nagging feeling that maybe I kept her out too long; that in the interest of protecting and helping her I actually sheltered and harmed her instead. Sigh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Girls' Mom Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 To me it sounds like you did a great job getting her through a tough spot in her life, and prepared her wonderfully for heading back to public school. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Michelle* Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 To me it sounds like you did a great job getting her through a tough spot in her life, and prepared her wonderfully for heading back to public school. :grouphug: :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 Sounds like she's making a good transition back to school. Don't let yourself feel guilty. Bringing her home was the right thing at the time; now it sounds like she's ready to be back, like she's more comfortable finding her way. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlmiraGulch Posted August 15, 2012 Author Share Posted August 15, 2012 To me it sounds like you did a great job getting her through a tough spot in her life, and prepared her wonderfully for heading back to public school. :grouphug: I sincerely hope that's the case. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 Don't feel guilty! My youngest is eerily similar. In 4th grade he asked to be separated from the other kids as he couldn't stand them. By high school he's a social butterfly and loves school. Skipping those years gave him time to mature socially. I doubt it would have been the same if he'd stayed in. I suspect it's the same for your dd. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2bee Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 That's not a big deal or a problem. There are TONS of children (and teens, and 20-somethings believe it or not) Aspie and non-Aspie, who don't practice the upkeep they KNOW they are supposed to practice until it becomes "relevant". Its a matter of human psych, I guess that many people don't shave, shower, launder (or do any work, etc...until they feel it is relevant. How many times have people allowed their houses to fall into disarray only to make it sparkle and shine when they have guests coming over? How many times during your own school days did you procrastinate or daydream until you realize the teacher was coming? Sounds like she needed the break that you provided her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 To me it sounds like you did a great job getting her through a tough spot in her life, and prepared her wonderfully for heading back to public school. :grouphug: Exactly! Good job. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matryoshka Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 This child, who was so bullied, so left behind, so depressed, so struggling academically that I pulled her out of public school for three years, has been excited and animated the past two days coming home from school. She took the initiative to get to the library to finish an assignment yesterday that isn't due until next week. My Aspie child who has no friends is excited about THREE different clubs she wants to join. And this daughter, who would sleep all day and doesn't shower unless I remind her, has gotten herself out of bed, showered, dressed, put on makeup, done her own laundry without prompting, and gotten herself out the door to the bus stop two days in a row. Early. Don't feel guilty!!! That sounds wonderful. My oldest two start public school (high school) for the first time ever in two weeks. These are the kinds of thing I'm secretly dream will happen (I've seen glimmers in other situations that hint that maybe they'll be motivated to be punctual and neat for others where they won't for me) but can barely dare to hope that they really will. So yay!!! This is the appropriate response: :party: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nono Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 Only a woman would take clear evidence of something "gone right " and turn it into something she may have "done wrong!" :grouphug: Well done! :party: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
REv1053 Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 I truly hope that my son does the same thing in a few weeks. Be glad your DD is doing so well! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 You have been through so much with her I cant stand the thought of your worrying about mistakes you might have made now that she is doing well, lol. You deserve to enjoy this time with her, I'm glad she is doing well.:001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim in Appalachia Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 To me it sounds like you did a great job getting her through a tough spot in her life, and prepared her wonderfully for heading back to public school. :grouphug: :iagree: You did what you needed to do. Now she is ready to soar on her own! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 It sounds to me like you successfully got her ready! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 It sounds to me like you successfully got her ready! :iagree: This is what I'm telling myself now that my dd14 has started high school. I've got some regrets too. And fears. It seems there are several of us who have kids going from homeschooling to brick and mortar high school. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kalypso Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 It appears to me that you put her back in school at precisely the right time. :) I hope she continues to enjoy being back. I know it has been a rough road for you two the past couple of years. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathryn Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 To me it sounds like you did a great job getting her through a tough spot in her life, and prepared her wonderfully for heading back to public school. :grouphug: :iagree: it sounds like you did a WONDERFUL job! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 We can all second guess ourselves and often do, but if she is doing well right now be happy! She's a teenager and so you will have more bumps in the road before raising her is over. She's still a work in process, heck we all are. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlmiraGulch Posted August 16, 2012 Author Share Posted August 16, 2012 Thanks, everyone, for your kind words. It is SO hard not to second guess every single thing. I'm trying. Tonight I did have to remind her to do her homework, so at least I feel a bit of normalcy. :) Still, 3 whole days in and she's still positive about it. I'm cautiously optimistic that it won't fall completely apart..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted August 16, 2012 Share Posted August 16, 2012 I don't think you should feel guilty. Calvin needed to be out of school for the time he was home educated. When he went back it was the right time for that too. Best wishes Laura Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trez Posted August 16, 2012 Share Posted August 16, 2012 I agree with everyone else. I think that you did a great job in instilling self-confidence so that she feels comfortable in finding her own way. She is willing to step out and try different things/people without worrying about what others might think/say. :thumbup1: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
besroma Posted August 16, 2012 Share Posted August 16, 2012 To me it sounds like you did a great job getting her through a tough spot in her life, and prepared her wonderfully for heading back to public school. :grouphug: :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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