gardenmom5 Posted January 15, 2023 Share Posted January 15, 2023 A woman I haven't seen for years, likely a narcissist and social climber - and who was only nice to me at times when she thought I would be useful to her (e.g. i was talking to someone she wanted to meet), just sent me a FB friend request. just - really? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted January 15, 2023 Share Posted January 15, 2023 Is she into multi level marketing stuff? 6 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junie Posted January 15, 2023 Share Posted January 15, 2023 I would just refuse the request and be done. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saraha Posted January 15, 2023 Share Posted January 15, 2023 Yup, reject! Bit knowing me, I would reject, then obsessively think about it for a while 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted January 15, 2023 Share Posted January 15, 2023 I would just ignore the request. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Faith-manor Posted January 15, 2023 Share Posted January 15, 2023 Ignore. 90% chance she is into and MLM and desperate for new prey. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted January 15, 2023 Author Share Posted January 15, 2023 1 hour ago, Ottakee said: Is she into multi level marketing stuff? I would be shocked if she was. She's a nurse and her dh is a corporate lawyer. They moved across the country 25 years ago (out of curiosity I looked her up. Still there), and it's been 15 years since I've seen her. We have one mutual FB friend. (I actually expected there to be more.) It was just a shock. part of me wants to ask: why the friend request when 30 years ago you'd go out of your way to avoid me, but when I was talking to someone you wanted to meet you rushed up and hugged me and spoke to me like I was your long-lost bestie. . . . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arcadia Posted January 15, 2023 Share Posted January 15, 2023 9 minutes ago, gardenmom5 said: part of me wants to ask: why the friend request when 30 years ago you'd go out of your way to avoid me, but when I was talking to someone you wanted to meet you rushed up and hugged me and spoke to me like I was your long-lost bestie. . . . Some people just behave that way. I had ex-classmates in college being all chummy when they see me chatting with guys they have crush on. One did honestly said she wanted to get to know more (handsome in her view) guys and she felt “tagging along” with me would improve her chances. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teachermom2834 Posted January 15, 2023 Share Posted January 15, 2023 I usually assume someone has started selling Plexus (or similar but it seems to usually be Plexus). However, there have been some people I have had friend request me and I’ve rolled my eyes but gone ahead and added them half out of curiosity and half out of general politeness because we run in the same circles or have mutual friends. I figure I’ll just delete if they annoy me. Sometimes I never hear from them again and they hardly post. I do think usually it is MLM when these people come out of nowhere but I do think there is also a phenomenon where someone gets bored and gets on FB some night and just starts adding people with no ulterior motive. I’ve had people come out of the woodwork and thought surely they wanted something only to add them and never hear from them again. 🤷🏼♀️ 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted January 15, 2023 Author Share Posted January 15, 2023 4 minutes ago, teachermom2834 said: I usually assume someone has started selling Plexus (or similar but it seems to usually be Plexus). However, there have been some people I have had friend request me and I’ve rolled my eyes but gone ahead and added them half out of curiosity and half out of general politeness because we run in the same circles or have mutual friends. I figure I’ll just delete if they annoy me. Sometimes I never hear from them again and they hardly post. I do think usually it is MLM when these people come out of nowhere but I do think there is also a phenomenon where someone gets bored and gets on FB some night and just starts adding people with no ulterior motive. I’ve had people come out of the woodwork and thought surely they wanted something only to add them and never hear from them again. 🤷🏼♀️ What is plexus? never heard of it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teachermom2834 Posted January 15, 2023 Share Posted January 15, 2023 Just now, gardenmom5 said: What is plexus? never heard of it. Some kind of weight loss product/vitamins/supplement drinks. I don’t know but if you try it, it will change your life for sure. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne Posted January 15, 2023 Share Posted January 15, 2023 12 hours ago, gardenmom5 said: What is plexus? never heard of it. A friend of mine with Crohn’s disease has been bombarded by people who swear it will cure it…. 🙄🙄 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted January 15, 2023 Share Posted January 15, 2023 13 hours ago, gardenmom5 said: part of me wants to ask: why the friend request when 30 years ago you'd go out of your way to avoid me, but when I was talking to someone you wanted to meet you rushed up and hugged me and spoke to me like I was your long-lost bestie. . . . Some people are what I call "FB friend collectors." 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted January 15, 2023 Share Posted January 15, 2023 4 minutes ago, QueenCat said: Some people are what I call "FB friend collectors." exactly. I just ignore most friend requests because I like to keep my friends list small. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted January 15, 2023 Share Posted January 15, 2023 14 hours ago, gardenmom5 said: I would be shocked if she was. She's a nurse and her dh is a corporate lawyer. They moved across the country 25 years ago (out of curiosity I looked her up. Still there), and it's been 15 years since I've seen her. We have one mutual FB friend. (I actually expected there to be more.) It was just a shock. part of me wants to ask: why the friend request when 30 years ago you'd go out of your way to avoid me, but when I was talking to someone you wanted to meet you rushed up and hugged me and spoke to me like I was your long-lost bestie. . . . She sounds like someone who has little self-awareness or understanding of how she treats people and how it affects others. So she very likely doesn't even remember herself as someone who was trying to avoid you, etc. Your name probably popped up on her Facebook friend recommendation feed due to a mutual friend or other link, and thought why not? It fits the pattern of how you remember her. Ignore and try not to give it anymore thought! 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted January 15, 2023 Author Share Posted January 15, 2023 5 hours ago, QueenCat said: Some people are what I call "FB friend collectors." I think this is most likely. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted January 15, 2023 Author Share Posted January 15, 2023 18 hours ago, teachermom2834 said: Some kind of weight loss product/vitamins/supplement drinks. I don’t know but if you try it, it will change your life for sure. There is someone in dh's business networking group that sells something similar. He will have me do the research on it because I know more about this stuff than him. Some of them, are *really good at* HIDING what's in them! The lower the quality of the ingredients, the harder it is to find. oh - their energy drink! it's so wonderful! it's basically highly caffeinated sugar water, but they pretend it's improving your health and that's why you have more energy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halftime Hope Posted January 15, 2023 Share Posted January 15, 2023 Delete the request...done w/o any more time or emotional investment. It's really that simple. 😄 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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