LMD Posted December 21, 2018 Share Posted December 21, 2018 What do you buy for a couple who: 1. Have enough money/stuff 2. Have lived together for years (ie don't need to set up a home) 3. Who are very very dear, but relationship is complicated 4. We are not exactly flush with cash ourselves, but willing to spend a decent amount They have asked for gifts towards a honeymoon fund, which I'm not entirely averse to, however they holiday internationally regularly anyway and the kind of contribution we could afford to make would not go that far and be quite forgettable iykwim. I would really like to do something special to mark my love and joy for this couple who are dear to me, who have been through a lot, and for whom this wedding is quite a momentous mark of their 'new/adult lives' Any ideas? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted December 21, 2018 Share Posted December 21, 2018 I have to say - a couple who are living together and travel internationally already have rather a lot of chutzpuh asking others to contribute to a honeymoon fund. . . . a gift basket of meats/cheese? a restaurant gift certificate flowers to be delivered - some services will do plants to put in the garden/pot. something homemade my friend's brother is a very . . . successful lawyer. she sends him homemade divinity. the year she didn't - he was very disappointed. 2 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted December 21, 2018 Share Posted December 21, 2018 In that situation I would choose some favorite household things. "These are a few of our favorite things!" (I have even wrapped them in brown paper with string!) "This is our favorite cookbook especially the stew on page 24!". etc. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mlktwins Posted December 21, 2018 Share Posted December 21, 2018 I would do a larger gift card to one of the meal's in a box thing (like Blue Apron). I did this for a wedding shower gift and included embroidered Mr. and Mrs. aprons, a good bottle of wine, some new kitchen towels, and a couple of nice wine glasses. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted December 21, 2018 Share Posted December 21, 2018 Do they have a yard and like plants? A small tree (fruit tree perhaps depending on climate) or a nice indoor plant? I have also ordered plaques for niece & nephew weddings at Etsy. They have some ornamental element on wood or other material and then the name, sort of like this: Mary & Joe Miller December 21, 2018 https://www.etsy.com/listing/554465346/personalized-wedding-gift-last-name?gpla=1&gao=1&utm_campaign=shopping_us_LaserWoodworker_sfc_osa&utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=google&utm_custom1=0&utm_content=16324257&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIp-SUko6y3wIVWJ7ACh07AwCxEAQYBCABEgKTdPD_BwE 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bambam Posted December 22, 2018 Share Posted December 22, 2018 Maybe a nice tablecloth + table decoration (flowers in a short vase - so that you can leave it on the table while eating but still be able to see over it) House plant? Maybe a small indoor herb garden if they cook Etsy has lots of cool things if they would like mementos of the day/time/new name Maybe if they don't cook, you could put together some easy tasty recipes in a recipe book for them along with matching empty recipe cards for them to fill in later (of course, this might be old-fashioned. I still use some old favorites, but I often just print off a recipe to use anymore. ) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted December 22, 2018 Share Posted December 22, 2018 My go to gift lately is a nice set of crystal wine glasses. I bought a set for my best friends second marriage and 20 years later she said they are still her favorite set. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluegoat Posted December 22, 2018 Share Posted December 22, 2018 What about something like a really nice (or, s nice as you can afford) box of local wine or craft beer? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LMD Posted December 22, 2018 Author Share Posted December 22, 2018 1 hour ago, gardenmom5 said: I have to say - a couple who are living together and travel internationally already have rather a lot of chutzpuh asking others to contribute to a honeymoon fund. . . . a gift basket of meats/cheese? a restaurant gift certificate flowers to be delivered - some services will do plants to put in the garden/pot. something homemade my friend's brother is a very . . . successful lawyer. she sends him homemade divinity. the year she didn't - he was very disappointed. Haha yeah, I admit I did balk slightly at the money for honeymoon thing, though I believe it's more a case of giving guests the option rather than a cash grab. They would truly be happy with no gift. They don't garden. They are foodies, so I could do something like that but they're more likely to get better for themselves as a matter of course! 🙂 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bootsie Posted December 22, 2018 Share Posted December 22, 2018 I would probably do a restaurant gift card or something consumable (nice olive oil and vinegar, set of jams and jellies, nice wine) or something seasonal like a nice Christmas serving piece that they do not have out all of the time but would occasionally bring out and remember the gift 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluegoat Posted December 22, 2018 Share Posted December 22, 2018 As far as serving stuff, I sometimes get gifts from a potter who lived down the street from my old house. She had some great stuff that usually no one has. Once I got a perforated berry bowl for storing soft fruit in the fridge - the juice can sep through the holes and collects in an attached saucer, so they don't get mushy. And she also made salt pigs which are really useful for cooks. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LMD Posted December 22, 2018 Author Share Posted December 22, 2018 You guys have got my mind buzzing, thank you! Here are some thoughts so far: Nice bottle of wine from the wine region that they're getting married in. Personalised label. Nice blanket/throw from wool from the region that I live in. Beautiful herbal teapot/infuser set with a bunch of teas 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted December 22, 2018 Share Posted December 22, 2018 5 hours ago, gardenmom5 said: I have to say - a couple who are living together and travel internationally already have rather a lot of chutzpuh asking others to contribute to a honeymoon fund. . . . Yup. ITA wholeheartedly. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beth S Posted December 23, 2018 Share Posted December 23, 2018 (edited) I don't sweat wedding gifts. I just write a check, with a extensive note in the card, sharing a memory or something. My second preferred gift is photos. You could probably get some photos of them off FB & make a collage, or something. Yes, it could be considered clutter. 🙂 Or give something that is obviously returnable (e.g. anything at Bed Bath & Beyond). Edited December 23, 2018 by Beth S 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momto6inIN Posted December 23, 2018 Share Posted December 23, 2018 A really nice frame for a wedding portrait? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted December 23, 2018 Share Posted December 23, 2018 We get wedding pasta bowls or salad bowls from here (personalized): http://www.farmhousestoneware.com/1973.html You have to scroll down the page quite a bit to see them. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LMD Posted December 23, 2018 Author Share Posted December 23, 2018 Aww I feel like I've painted them in a bad light! They are genuinely lovely people, and definitely not the type to grab for cash! This is more a case of 'we really don't need gifts but people feel like they can't go to a wedding sans gift so this is an option' - it's also much more normal in her dh-to-be's culture (my dh's heritage culture is the same about weddings - they give a lot of cash) I'm not necessarily opposed to cash, but I'd like to do something a bit more special. I like that stoneware idea Kassia. I can probably find something similar here (Australia) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LMD Posted December 23, 2018 Author Share Posted December 23, 2018 Ooh actually, just had an idea. There's a real specialty charcuterie place near here, using beautiful local produce. I can get them to put together some of those items for me, maybe I'll get a nice stoneware platter to go with it. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Faith-manor Posted December 23, 2018 Share Posted December 23, 2018 I always buy a beautiful picture frame. You'd be surprised how many couples get wedding photos and then never get around to having any of them framed. We always do 8 x 10 which is a standard size to order. We've received many thanks that it was a great idea. LOL, I went into my nephew's house one time and five years post wedding, their photos were still on the mantle with sticky tack! That was my inspiration for buying frames as gifts. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted December 24, 2018 Share Posted December 24, 2018 If they are foodies then I give a gift card to a spice shop (Penzies has an online store if they live rural). Or....a gift card to a meat market or wine store. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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