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  1. I'm good at encouraging and emotional support and reading between the lines. I can keep kids alive, but not plants, so hopefully someone with a green thumb would need a lot of emotional support in this scenario 😉
  2. DH for sure. He says he likes hearing all the interesting stuff going on in my head and is disappointed when I keep quiet. I have several other friends/family members who - divided among all of them - probably know everything worth knowing about me (the good, the bad, and the ugly)
  3. My female GSD came home at 3:30pm after being spayed last month and instantly ran around the yard and was back to normal. I have no idea if that's normal or not.
  4. We spent a week in the Cancun area and scratched snorkeling off our bucket list.
  5. I had a half German shepherd half Golden Retriever who was black with short hair and looked a lot like a black lab.
  6. I did exercises prescribed for several weeks after 1 in person consult. The consult was ... weird and involved things like "squeeze my finger" 😬🤪 The exercises actually made leakage worse for me, so I stopped doing them and never went back.
  7. My 4 year old frequently says, "Mommy, I want you!" even when she's on my lap or otherwise getting my attention. Usually it's her expressing a desire for more closeness and comfort with the only words she has for that need. She doesn't say it repeatedly though.
  8. Me too, except in my case it only took about 5 days lol DH took a week off work to spend with me and as soon as I realized that he was going back to work and I was going to be left entirely alone with this tiny human who I loved desperately but had no clue how to keep alive and I hadn't slept more than an hour at a time in a week, I called in reinforcements. Luckily she had a flexible job and could take off at a momen't notice. She stayed for a week til I felt a little more on top of things. She did laundry and cooked and cleaned and enjoyed looking at me holding her grandson and gave me adult conversation. She also cooked several meals and put them in the freezer for me to get out after she went home. She held DS of course and probably changed a diaper or two but she didn't really do "baby care" as her role. She did recognize the signs of postpartum overwhelm and sent me outside for a walk when I looked like I was almost ready to panic. Each subsequent baby she did the same, adding in child care for older siblings to her job description. I was always very grateful, even though by baby #5 and 6 the older kids were old enough to help a lot more with laundry and cleaning and I didn't need her as much. As for DH, we both regarded his role as doing whatever it took to make me able to mother. That first week when he was off work he heated up meals that people from church had dropped off and bonded with me and baby (and older sibs). We are also very fortunate that our church family sends meals - usually there are enough people to send meals that I don't have to cook at all other than pulling things out of the freezer and warming them up for the first 6-8 weeks.
  9. I can totally commiserate with you being annoyed. I would be too. My parents do a lot of things for my brother (financially and otherwise) that I don't think are wise. It's not because I'm jealous. I just think it's a bad idea. But unfortunately I don't think there's much to be done about it. So I guess just say "cheers!" 🥂 and smile and grin and bear it.
  10. The Wingfeather Saga has been a huge hit here in addition to many I've seen mentioned above.
  11. Bombas are expensive, but they are so comfortable that I'm kinda spoiled and won't wear any others
  12. Mine weren't frequent but were spectacularly heavy and I was anemic. They did an ultrasound and I had very thick endometrial lining and they suspected a polyp underneath. They did a D&C and then an ablation (they were right about the polyp and removed that too). Now they are less heavy but not gone. Frequency hasn't changed but flow has.
  13. Your first is always hard because your world is rocked and you have no idea what you're doing. For us #3 was the hardest. I joke that we had to switch from a man to man defense to a zone defense and that transition was difficult 🤪 After #3 the rest just folded in to the family routine easily, even if they were individually difficult babies. If you can have 3, you can have 6. My sil who has 12 agrees and says if you have 3 you can have 12.
  14. I use Forever but you have to buy/download their software called Artisan. They used to be Creative Memories back in the day when paper scrapbooking was a thing but now ut's all digital of course. You don't need Historian (their photo editing software) unless you heavily edit most of your photos before putting them in a book. Artisan will do light photo edits.
  15. It looks about right to me. Kids may push back but I always remind them that the more they complain they longer it takes and if they do it with a good attitude it goes faster.
  16. We get the kids each 1 gift from us under the tree and 1 in their stocking (usually a book but not always). The kids all exchange names with each other so they also get 1 gift from one of their siblings. DH's side of the family is huge so the cousins all exchange names also and they get 1 gift from one of their cousins. DH's parents usually give a small day outing of some kind to the whole family. My parents historically overdo it and I've been trying to rein it in from the get-go when 1st DS actually stopped opening gifts and wandered off to play because he was bored from opening so many presents from them at his first Christmas. Since then my mom has morphed more into getting big expensive gifts and/or larger extended trips together. It's not as many in quantity but it's still too much imo. If my mom didn't overdo it so much it's possible we would give more gifts to the kids than we do.
  17. Alfred's All in One Adult Course - there are 3 volumes.
  18. Good points - I was thinking more of the hygiene factor and didn't consider that angle. Ftr, I don't think very many people (any?) are buying used toothbrushes. It was just an example of used things given above that I also wouldn't buy 😊
  19. To all of you who wouldn't buy a used mattress - and I promise I'm not being snarky, just genuinely curious - do you also avoid hotels/airbnbs/vrbos/etc? There's not much I *wouldn't* buy used - underwear and toothbrushes certainly. There's all kinds of things I *don't* buy used - mostly because it's so much easier to go buy it or order it myself new. But that's because I have the luxury/privilege of having more money than time at this current point in my life. I have not always been so fortunate. Once you wash things - even things like underwear and toothbrushes - it's really just the ick factor, not the real cleanliness of the item that's the issue. There's really no difference between putting someone else's clean silverware in my mouth at a restaurant and using someone else's washed toothbruth or between sitting on a toilet seat (which I have advocated for on this board lol!) and wearing someone else's washed underwear - so I realize that my preferences aren't really logically consistent at all.
  20. Momto6inIN

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    https://www.cbsnews.com/news/israel-babies-killed-hamas-terror-attack-kibbutz-kfar-aza-first-responders-say/ First responders on the scene claimed they saw the bodies of beheaded infants. If anyone is trying to "walk that back", I would put them in the same category as a Holocaust denier.
  21. 🤣 DH told me during #4, "You're not dying, that means you're almost done! You always say you're dying when you're almost done!" At the time I didn't appreciate it because dang it, I was really dying this time 😜 but in hindsight it was very perceptive of him.
  22. I prefer to labor and deliver on my back. My labors are so fast and I have no rest in between contractions and it just feels like I cannot possibly move or get up and do anything else except breathe. The one time I was on my hands and knees was because my water broke, baby literally sped down the birth canal (I could feel her head moving down in a rush), and her heart rate slowed and they were worried for a minute that her cord had come out so they had me turn onto my hands and knees. I hated every second of it and was so glad to go back to my back. Anyway - back to pushing - 1st baby - Induced with cytatek (not pitocin) because of low amniotic fluid. Epidural was ordered when I was a 5. By the time the anesthesiologist was done putting it in I told the nurse I had to push and she didn't believe me because it had only been a little while, but sure enough she checked me and I was a 10. It was odd to me that even though it had never happened to me before I *knew* I had to push. I pushed for about 10 minutes with him. He had the cord around his neck and needed oxygen, but was fine within a minute. I was a clueless enough first time mom that I didn't know this wasn't normal til my 2nd birth. 2nd baby - Labor was less than 2 hours start to finish. Barely made it to the hospital in time, no time for an epidural. Nurse told me to wait to push til the dr came and I just ignored her because there was no stopping it. Dr walked in and caught the baby, but barely. This was my best and easiest labor by far. Also my smallest baby 7.5# 3rd baby - Induced with cytatek when I was about 1cm and immediately got an epidural. Went to sleep and woke up a couple hours later and said I felt a lot of pressure. Pushed her out in 2 pushes and never felt anything other than pressure. 4th baby - Biggest baby at 8 # 6 oz (still not big). No epidural. Labor stalled and I was stuck at a 5cm for a couple hours but the entire labor was still just 4 hours long. Pushed her out in just a couple minutes. I felt like I was an upripe peach being split in two, it was horrible. 5th baby - This is the one where her heart rate slowed and I had to go on my hands and knees. Dilated 4cm all at once literally while the nurse was checking me. Got an epidural but it never worked and I felt no relief from it. Pushed for just a couple minutes. 6th baby - I was 45 with this baby and I was just all around tired. My heart/BP and my uterus just did not play well together and it felt like the rest of my body was shouting at me too. I just did not feel up to this ordeal at all. I got an epidural at about an 8 and it helped me feel able to manage the pushing without breaking down, but I was not able to push as effectively as usual. Dr told me, "You're going to have to do better than that." She was/is kind of short, and I had the very clear thought that, "Woman, your head is right by my foot and I will kick you in the face." 😂 I still only had to push about 10 minutes.
  23. My very conservative and overwhelmingly religious IN town would not consider that woke. At all. In fact, the people I know who are most allergy conscious are some of the most conservative homeschoolers I know.
  24. I think the reason that child care is devalued in our society is because society devalues children, not women. I have felt misogyny (definition = the idea that women are inherently less valuable than men) from a very few individual men in my lifetime, but not from an institution or a system.
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