SKL Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 I mean the one where they actually realized what s*x is. I just had the talk (unplanned) while driving my kids to dance. We covered body parts, periods, sex, pregnancy, birth control, VD, adoption, and sexual morality all with them looking at the back of my head. :P And then I dropped them off to contemplate all of that during dance, gymnastics, and the Christmas horse parade. No, this was not how I always visualized it, but I must say I'm glad I took the plunge. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 It wasn't one talk. So there were a lot of places where we had it - in the car, on walks, in our house, with a mouse. . . (wait, not that last one). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tanaqui Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 We haven't had "the talk", but an ongoing conversation from the beginning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 There were lots of little talks leading up to it, but I guess the "big" talk was just sitting around the dining room table, after eating. When it was our oldest children, the younger children were off playing. When it was our younger children, our older kids were there too so they could add their input. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dmmetler Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 Pretty much all serious talks happen in the car. I think it's because DD doesn't have to look at me, so she asks all her tough questions then. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigMamaBird Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 I had the talk with Dd in the play room. It was anti climatic, I was expecting a lot more . . . I don't know . . . more of a reaction. "So, you and Daddy did that?" "Yes." "Oh." And she went right back to playing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dory Posted November 30, 2014 Share Posted November 30, 2014 ours is an ongoing talk. Although last week I realized that my oldest still thought babies were made by kissing. I told him that wasn't quite right and he got really confused. He wasn't sure how else a couple would get the sp*rm to the egg. Time for more information. But again, it will just be a constant conversation where more gets added to what he knows. The same as everything else in his life, I just build onto what he already knows. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 It was an ongoing conversation but I'm fairly certain it was all in the car. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gentlemommy Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 I took my oldest to her riding lesson and we took the scenic route back home and had the talk. I think the car is a good place, simply because she was in the back and could ask me questions without feeling embarrassed. As it turned out, the only question she had after my (imo) talk was how many feet were in a mile. Lol Oh! I just remembered, she learned about sperm and eggs at Barnes and noble lol. I was sitting by the train table with my littlest and she brought me an anatomy book and asked me to read it. So we did, and she learned that then, just not HOW it happens. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 The car is a great place for lots of big talks. We never had one big talk but many over the course of time. I do think though that kids often feel safer asking questions in the car as it isn't a face to face, make eye contact type of place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kewb Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Ongoing conversation. I guess the big ball rolling one started in the living after ds was no longer satisfied with babies come from mommy's uterus. He wanted to know how it got there. Out came my copy of "where did I come from" and we have been talking ever since. A lot of it happens in the car or at bedtime. It is easier to have hars conversation when someone has to be keeping an eye on the road or in the dark. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sara in AZ Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 We start at age 8 with a special birthday dinner at a restaurant of their choice. They'll probably never want to go back to those restraunts again for the trauma! After that it's anytime anyplace. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 I sort of subscribed to the 200 Small Talks approach. There were a couple that were pretty pointed, at about age 10 and 12. My dh says he had The Talk with our son when the boy was 6 months old. DH says DS took it like a man. Doesn't understand what the big deal is. :0) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
73349 Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 He came out and asked at dinner one night when he was five, "How does the sperm actually get in...?" I said, "Oh, we have a book about that. I'll read it to you later." And we did, on the couch. I already had the book because a year and a half before, he had asked, loudly and in a public place of course, about anatomy. So I bought the beginner boys-and-girls-have-different-parts type of book, and while I was at it, I bought It's So Amazing because we'd need it sooner or later. There are still sections we haven't talked about much, but he's got the main idea. I love books. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kerileanne99 Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Well, dd is almost 5 so I plan on having many more talks, but we recently had a VERY involved one one the dining room floor under the table:) This is where I found her reading an extremely detailed book I had purchased for us to read together. I am pregnant, so it is of course very interesting to her at the moment. We had previously had lots of talks and books on animal reproduction, and she knew that mom's eggs must be fertilized by dad in order to actually grow into an embryo...but we had this far not discussed in detail just HOW that happened. And I am not honestly sure I would have gone into that much detail. One of the few drawbacks of having a child who can read whatever she wants AND insists on knowing right now, lol. The second half of the discussion was centered around having these types of discussions only at home...I have horrible visions of her sharing her knowledge at her part-time preschool! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myfunnybunch Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 The car is a great place for lots of big talks. We never had one big talk but many over the course of time. I do think though that kids often feel safer asking questions in the car as it isn't a face to face, make eye contact type of place. This. We actually covered the basics during a human body study. We studied the reproductive system right along with other body systems. But each of my boys has only remembered what they were ready for at that time, so we've had several talks in the car, initiated by me or by one of the boys. Cat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hyacinth Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Lots of talks here, too, but I vividly remember reading a book with my boys that was very specific about what goes where. We were on the couch. DS--then about six or seven--deadpanned: "I did not. know. that." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 We were on one of our morning walks, and I have answered a few questions in the car, too. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 Oh sorry. I missed the WHERE. In the car. The most pointed question being asked seconds before I was at the drive-thru order microphone. 😠Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doodlebug Posted December 1, 2014 Share Posted December 1, 2014 At the dinner table two months ago. That initiated a LOT of questions, which I now usually field in the car. Last week's question was if people die during sex, and if that's awkward. I love my job. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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