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  1. The OP said the student has good scholarships and grants, "so there's minimal debt." This may be a reasonable assumption, but debt comes from a lot of directions that none of us can accurately assess from outside of the situation. I prefer to assume parents are trying to give some good advice, but stink at it.
  2. Debt is the issue, not the dream. When future freedoms are being leveraged against present fulfillment, the choice will necessarily undergo more scrutiny. Not because the dream is a bad dream, but because of the cost to a future you. I have to believe this is what most parents are about when the issue of choosing a program arises, though they may not articulate it well.
  3. But from a parent's perspective, she's taking on debt to become a teacher. She's taking on debt to become a teacher in the midst of a teacher shortage and educational crisis in our country. And, she is going into a field that gets cut first when budgets need tweaking. I dislike a purely utilitarian approach to college education - I have my MA and am thankful for it - but I agree with Maize. The landscape has changed significantly and is forcing this issue. N.B. That anyone should have to take on debt to become a teacher right now is wild to me.
  4. I'll play a bit of devil's advocate here b/c there's a brand of Super Senioring on the rise in my community and I only hear the benefits, not the cost. Here's what I'm seeing - in/around the spring of a high school student's 10th grade year, a family decides to pursue a super senior year. Immediately, some academic pressure is relieved, but socially it creates difficulties kids/parents aren't anticipating. The assumption is that everything stays the same for the student and there's just an extra year to enjoy friends, athletics, and do all the academic stuff. But, the social landscape changes dramatically in high school as seniors leave. Moving through those goodbyes and first-time college experiences with your anticipated class is a huge support. This is the time of year the reality dawns for many students that life is moving on and *their high school experience* has an expiration date even if they stay an extra year, b/c nothing stays the same. I also have concerns about the pressure Super Senioring places on the parental/adult child relationship. Families with the best of intentions can slip into enabling a young adult's comforts and preferences to a point that is not in the young adult's best interest. The general concern I have with Super Senioring is the increasing mindset that there's some inherent value in extending high school and adolescence - one more year at home will give the child what they need to succeed. Without substantive goals and a plan that the young adult is genuinely committed to, the natural drive to discover personal responsibility/independence suffers.
  5. Kids! 🙃 DH and I have no military background and this kid started telling me at 13 he wanted to go to USAFA (still waiting on news there). But USMA is an incredible place with an awesome program DS is keen on. It’s so wild!
  6. DS was just appointed to the US Military Academy at West Point!!! He’s hoping Air Force Academy may have good news in a few weeks, but looks like he’s definitely going to basic this summer!
  7. I think doing some fourth year math is helpful esp where ACT is concerned - it keeps the math brain primed. DS (senior) pulled out two extra points in the math section this past Oct and I don't believe that wouldve happened had we dropped a fourth year math.
  8. Hi, there! Im on my phone and can’t type well, but wanted to offer encouragement. I am mom to an only and am at the end of our 14 year homeschooling journey! I wouldn’t trade it! It was wonderfully special. I have found many families in homeschooling who may have large families, but a caboose kiddo, or large gap between siblings, which created an “only” dynamic. So you’ll find more people than just one kid families trying to solve the same puzzle. Social relationships are going to be important for you and your dd. And, they take work. However, keeping that need in perspective is important. Social relationships should not come at the expense of a child’s safety, family culture, and education. But, they will cost you time, effort, and convenience - a cost well worth paying! We joined a once/week coop I wasn’t completely sold on academically, but which met the need of the moment with the least cost to other spheres of family life. You make it work. I have no regrets! My kid is happy and well adjusted. I hope that is encouraging to anyone with an only considering homeschooling!
  9. Your mil has pancreatic cancer? That changes a lot in terms of the support I would expect from my dh. And that would change the expectations I have of myself/ homeschooling. Too, family farming is a unique family culture dynamic and dils have a tough row to hoe! The right boundaries are important, and I think they look more personal - getting serious about carving out time for you to be you with your family, friends, interests. This cultivates a sense of freedom instead of feeling trapped. But it does require personal agency, consideration, and planning.
  10. DS usually forwards me the emails he knows are important, but that is the problem - he’s not always clear on what’s important! Lol. I was lamenting to dh yesterday about how much of my time is spent communicating with ds about emails. Who sent what, who he responded to, who he needs to follow up with, etc.
  11. @Clemsondana My kid found the same for our state tech school and Embry Riddle - once accepted, all emails are through their system. He added each email to his outlook account, which at least pulls all the emails to one screen. Not his preference, though.
  12. Frustration is understandable. My 17 yo commutes an hour to a university where his instructor routinely cancels class 20 minutes prior to start time. DS is frustrated, but knows the only thing he can do at this point is drop the class or simply work for what he needs. This week, that included an email to the instructor letting her know his unique situation as a commuter and the difficulty he is experiencing surrounding last minute class cancelations. The instructor may not give a flying flip, but my priority for DS as a 17 yo who is leaving home next fall is is that he gains experience problem solving and communicating. WRT office hours… Inquiry is the means for discerning grading criteria or if an instructor is utterly unreasonable, in which case, dropping the course would be clear. I press on this issue b/c most students, in our DE experience, take a passive approach to their education and never engage with their instructors. So much so that when DS calls his calculus instructor, or shows up at office hours, it has always always been to his benefit - but it wasn’t his first inclination. He’d love to stay atop his high horse most days. 😂
  13. As one who came very close to reaching out to a department head over a similar DE issue, I recommend shifting focus. THIS is the greatest lesson your kid will take out of DE - learning to press in with an instructor, call/visit during office hours, ask good questions, follow up, communicate, etc. Ime, pre reqs like comp 1 are aimed at honoring attendance policy, turning in assignments on time, and functional writing skills at best. Students rate this prof highly b/c the bar is low and they walked away with an A, not b/c they were challenged or surprised when final grades were issued. Shifting from content driven focus to that of helping DS hone life skills has been most helpful to me where DE is concerned.
  14. I didn’t read your posts as judgmental @Dianthus I don’t think anyone in this thread has advocated for extremes in terms of social activities. Rather, most recognize the pattern every family experiences periodically of being over extended and needing to re-evaluate priorities and activities. Social activities are great, but mom, relationships, and basic expectations re school are the wheels on the bus, so to speak. Stopping the bus to fix a tire or two is a normal aspect of homeschool family life and not a place to camp out forever.
  15. Being aware that living next door to your in-laws affects things... Being aware, generally speaking, of homeschool abuse scenarios and social needs as represented by your public schooling relatives... I think this represents a lot of fretting that isn't helping you, especially if you find yourself susceptible to suggestion in this stage of parenting. Your oldest runs to grandma's without asking. So, get grandma on board - "Grandma, if it's before 1PM, please send him back home as he hasn't finished school work." Get specific like this about the problem and make a plan. I would encourage you to lay down the "concerns" for a bit and prioritize consistent school times and relationships with your children. Once you have a routine established life is SO MUCH EASIER. As Clemsondana referenced above, when the kids are working with you, that enables you to consider opening your schedule to social activities.
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