ChristineW Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 Please help me figure out who is being unreasonable here. If your due date was Christmas Eve, would you travel 45 minutes (35 miles) for Christmas Dinner with the inlaws? especially since the nearest hospital to the inlaws is five minutes from your house in the other direction? and where it could easily take 90+ minutes to get to the hospital in traffic? And the doctor has told you not to travel more than 20 minutes away from the hospital after 36 weeks because you will probably deliver in the triage room? Obviously, it will all be moot if the baby arrives before Christmas Eve. In Dh's defense, I've been induced in all three pregnancies at term due to complications and have never gone into labor on my own BUT. . . Christine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Truscifi Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 If the doc said not to, I wouldn't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Acorn Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 Yes I would, but that doesn't mean that is the right choice for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheres Toto Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 Yes I would, but that doesn't mean that is the right choice for you. :iagree: I wouldn't expect there to be traffic on Christmas Eve. Although I would probably tell everyone that I reserved the right to cancel at the last minute if I felt "off" on the day. And then I would try really hard to be as honest as possible about how I was feeling that day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 Can't the inlaws head your way if you have not delivered? Just have them prepare/bring most of the meal or eat something simple if it is that important for everyone to get together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hwin Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 Yes I would, but that doesn't mean that is the right choice for you. I birthed at a hospital 60 miles from home so, yeah, *I* would... but I like the idea of chilling with my feet up while the ILs bring me food :) I'm less easy going postpartum, though; all the women in my church are the type to show up for worship immediately after a C-section, and I was still sitting at home two weeks after my far-less-eventful birth, because that's what felt right for me :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susan C. Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 No "but." You have my permission to park it at home. That is what I would do. Everything comes to you, the either very pregnant, delivering, or just delivered mom! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 I would do it, but if you are looking to get out of it I would say you have the perfect excuse. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hypatia. Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 No, I wouldn't. I have a history of precipitous labors (last one was under 30 minutes start to finish), but even without that I would just stay home for this year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AdventureMoms Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 I would, but all my experience is long labors and living at least an hour from the hospital. I also HATE to feel cooped up so as long as I wasn't on bedrest (and in good news at 40wks you wouldn't likely be on bedrest!) I'd want to be doing something to pass the time. If a family member said they couldn't come to Christmas dinner because they were 40wks pregnant I wouldn't think twice about it though. People handle pregnancy differently. I'd also think it completely normal to say that you're coming but change your mind at the last minute if you don't feel up to it. I actually had a cousin do that last year at Christmas and nobody thought it terribly odd. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JennyD Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 (edited) No way. Edited November 14, 2012 by JennyD Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melbotoast Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 Sounds like you doctor expects a fast labor, so no! Everyone should come to you instead. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
somo_chickenlady Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 *I* would, b/c my labor with DS was almost 24 hours, and I didn't get to the hospital for nearly two hours after my water broke, and I still had to be induced the next morning (water broke at 9pm). If you really don't want to go, though, you have a good excuse not to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeacefulChaos Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 Based on everything EXCEPT the doctor telling you not to, I would. But the doctor... I'm not so sure. Maybe I wouldn't. Idk. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pippen Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 Nope. I'd be staying home, with or without the rest of the family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lmrich Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 No. I was due Christmas Day. Family came to me. Santa did not bring a baby... Stay home, why worry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 I'd need more info before I could decide. If you've never gone into labor on your own, what makes him think that you will AND that it'll be a super fast labor? I'd ask the doc if this advice is based on anything specific or if it's standard advice. Way back in the dark ages, (see the ages of my kids) I definitely went farther than 45 minutes from the hospital in the last 4 weeks of my pregnancies. But your history may warrant more caution. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 I would, and I'd be thrilled to have such a short labor that a 90 min. drive is cutting it close. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 I wouldn't expect there to be traffic on Christmas Eve. Apparently, you have never tried to get back to Manhattan from Long Island late at night on Christmas Eve... what a nightmare! (Ask me how I know. :glare:) I guess it depends on where Christine lives -- traffic would definitely concern me, but what would concern me even more is being so far from the hospital. Past history isn't always an indication of how this particular labor will go, and I wouldn't travel that close to my due date. The health and well-being of both mom and baby would mean a lot more than Christmas Eve with the in-laws -- and if they (or her dh) are being a nuisance about it, I think Christine should be quite offended. Additionally, I can't imagine that her doctor would recommend that she go, either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beaners Posted November 14, 2012 Share Posted November 14, 2012 Sounds like you doctor expects a fast labor, so no! Everyone should come to you instead. Well, all the work from getting ready to host Christmas would certainly send me into labor. Maybe you're on to something there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChristineW Posted November 14, 2012 Author Share Posted November 14, 2012 I'd need more info before I could decide. If you've never gone into labor on your own, what makes him think that you will AND that it'll be a super fast labor?I'd ask the doc if this advice is based on anything specific or if it's standard advice. Way back in the dark ages, (see the ages of my kids) I definitely went farther than 45 minutes from the hospital in the last 4 weeks of my pregnancies. But your history may warrant more caution. With DD2, from the time they put in the cervidil to the time she was in my arms was about 6 hours. It took less than an hour after the doctor ruptured my membranes. The girl before her came out even quicker although she was sunnyside up (13 minutes of pushing). My cervix usually doesn't soften on its own--which is why I've needed cervadil with all three, but this time it was shorter at 29 weeks than it was at 39 weeks with the others. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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