Bensmom Posted August 5, 2012 Share Posted August 5, 2012 Let me preface this by saying, this isn't meant to be a racist, condemning thread. I just need to talk. Thanks in advance for listening. After a failed adoption and years of struggle, we are waiting to adopt through dhs. We know a specific child we want to adopt. She is blonde with blue eyes. It has come to light that she may be 1/16th or 1/32 Native American. (If a person is 1/32 one race, then what percentage is NOT that race???) If she is indeed Native, then the Indian Child Welfare Act says that relatives have first adoptive choice (none wish to adopt her), Native persons within the tribe have second priority, Native persons from a different tribe have third priority and only if those are exhaused can my husband and I (non-Native) be considered. The social worker suggested that we consider another child. I understand that it is important to Native Americans that adopted children still participate in their culture. (My hubby and I both have many NA relatives by marriage) DHS says they place the child in the best home for the child. My skin color and heritage say that I cannot be the best for this child that I already know and love. It is frustrating and heartbreaking. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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