Mom-ninja. Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 So what are your tricks of the trade to self control when you really want to throttle your child? I usually send a colorful email to my dh......all in caps. This son of mine *will* learn that bad attitude, whining, and half-@ss efforts are not tolerated by me. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 prayer. Lot's and lots of prayer. :p Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I swivel my chair around and pop on here. Then I know I'm not alone. And this too shall pass. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaT Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I go to my room and take deep breaths. I wait until I can separate myself from the emotion of the situation, then I go deal with it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetMissMagnolia Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 yeah internet time for mom--deep breaths-----walk away--- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassy Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I go and scrub a bathroom. If I'm feeling so bad, even bathroom cleaning can't make me feel worse, and by the time I've finished I've worked off some of my bad temper, and I have a clean bathroom :001_smile:. Cassy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trilliums Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I usually try to joke my way out of it. Humor works wonders for young and old alike. I avoid sarcastic or caustic remarks though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I go and scrub a bathroom. If I'm feeling so bad, even bathroom cleaning can't make me feel worse, and by the time I've finished I've worked off some of my bad temper, and I have a clean bathroom :001_smile:. Cassy You can get mad at my house anytime! :p Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daisy Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 Prayer and a nice cup of hot tea. Fill kettle. Plug in kettle. Pick out a mug. Pick out loose leaf tea. Pack tea. Pour hot water into mug. Put away loose leaf tea. Sit down. Drink slowly. Deal with child. By that point, I'm at least under control. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Faithseed Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 You can get mad at my house anytime! :p :iagree::iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mergath Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 When I feel like that, I tell dd that she has to entertain herself for half an hour or so so that mommy can read for awhile. Or I call her godmother to come over and play with her for awhile so I can regain my sanity. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kertie Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 What I do doesn't work. :glare: No, I have not throttled my child:D, but I have acted like a 3-year-old. I read this blog post last night that I thought presented a good idea...now to find a paper bag...:lol: http://momastery.com/blog/2012/01/24/closer-to-fine/ It reminded me of a year ago or so when I made a sign in the spirit of Wile E. Coyote--one side had a happy face, and one side had a mad face. Instead of speaking, I'd hold up the sign. It's hard to stay mad when you're holding a marker-drawn frowny-face on a stick:D. It also tended to make strong-willed folk laugh instead of digging in their heels;). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cera Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 Jumping Jacks. A few hundred leaves me too winded to yell and takes off enough of the edge that I can deal with her reasonably instead of out of anger. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pretty in Pink Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I'm going to have to try the jumping jacks. I usually go in my room, close the door, and scream at the top of my lungs! :001_huh: It's not helpful, in case anyone was wondering. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elise1mds Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I shut down, get myself a snack or drink, and read for half an hour or until it occurs to the child that Mommy isn't speaking to him/her. I often to have to tell myself to :chillpill: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Durriyyah Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 DD is old enough that I just tell her I need a minute and she needs to find something else to do. She knows that it better be productive, otherwise things are going to get worse. Then I either get a cup of coffee, sit and knit or do something else to occupy my time until I can calm down. Cleaning typically helps, but I have to be in the right mood to be that motivated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bookfiend Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I start counting quetly to myself. For some reason, I find it soothing and it brings my temper down quickly. The boys think I am counting at them, but nothing happens at the end of the counting; I'm just calmer. Next time, I think I'll join Daisy in a cup of tea. That sounds lovely. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myfunnybunch Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I walk out into my husband's office, vent loudly, then return to the battlefield....er, house. He's so patient. He just sits there and doesn't really say anything until I'm done. If I ask him to, he'll get up and go deal with the offender and come back, but usually I just need to let off steam so that I can be calm and rational when dealing with the problem. Or I go into the bathroom and close the door. The boys know that when get up without saying anything and go into the bathroom and close the door, they'd better shape up. They're usually working quite diligently when I come out. They're really good boys at heart. I like Daisy's cup of tea idea. :) Cat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silliness7 Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 (edited) What I do doesn't work. :glare: No, I have not throttled my child:D, but I have acted like a 3-year-old. I read this blog post last night that I thought presented a good idea...now to find a paper bag...:lol: http://momastery.com/blog/2012/01/24/closer-to-fine/ It reminded me of a year ago or so when I made a sign in the spirit of Wile E. Coyote--one side had a happy face, and one side had a mad face. Instead of speaking, I'd hold up the sign. It's hard to stay mad when you're holding a marker-drawn frowny-face on a stick:D. It also tended to make strong-willed folk laugh instead of digging in their heels;). I need a sign. Very fun. I have a tendency to lose it more often than I would like. I am learning instead of yelling to just stay calm and say very deadpan and calmly (but not frightening...I'm more mumbling to myself) "I'm very angry." "This situation is making me very frustrated." "I really want to scream my head off." Just saying that out loud helps to calm me down and refocus with a calm spirit. Exasperated but calm. I think I need a frowny face to go with my self-talk-down from the temper ledge. ETA: I just printed off this frowny face. I'm going to glue it to some poster board and tape it to an extra ruler. I wonder if I should find a happy face for the flip side. ETA 2: Yup. I found a happy face Edited January 25, 2012 by silliness7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom-ninja. Posted January 25, 2012 Author Share Posted January 25, 2012 I like the paper bag idea. And the jumping jacks. I can't eat or drink anything. When I'm stressed or upset I can't consume anything. My stomach lurches and I feel like I'm going to vomit. I've often thought of getting a punching bag. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kertie Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I need a sign. Very fun. I have a tendency to lose it more often than I would like. I am learning instead of yelling to just stay calm and say very deadpan and calmly (but not frightening...I'm more mumbling to myself) "I'm very angry." "This situation is making me very frustrated." "I really want to scream my head off." Just saying that out loud helps to calm me down and refocus with a calm spirit. Exasperated but calm. I think I need a frowny face to go with my self-talk-down from the temper ledge. ETA: I just printed off this frowny face. I'm going to glue it to some poster board and tape it to an extra ruler. I wonder if I should find a happy face for the flip side. ETA 2: Yup. I found a happy face :lol: Love the faces! I self-talk-down, too...although the end of the sentence tends to be louder than the first part:/. Leaving the room to self-talk is best:). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Homemama2 Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I go and scrub a bathroom. If I'm feeling so bad, even bathroom cleaning can't make me feel worse, and by the time I've finished I've worked off some of my bad temper, and I have a clean bathroom :001_smile:. :lol:This is actually a GREAT idea! At least you get some cleaning done.... I also do the cup of tea....but there is only so much tea you can drink in a day. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Excelsior! Academy Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I also do the cup of tea....but there is only so much tea you can drink in a day. :D :lol: Yeah, but you would be a lot less angry after said tea. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyinTN Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 Honestly, I tend to clean. I try extremely hard to think before I speak and cleaning allows me to think and scrub the heck out of something. Then I will usually take it up with the child. I also work really hard not to blow things out of proportion. Child screws up = consequences that are appropriate for the crime.;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 yoga putting my fingers in my ears and humming Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 Jumping Jacks. A few hundred leaves me too winded to yell and takes off enough of the edge that I can deal with her reasonably instead of out of anger. If I did that many jumping jacks, I would weigh eleven pounds. :glare: (Results not typical. Individual results may vary. ;)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 Honestly, I tend to clean. I try extremely hard to think before I speak and cleaning allows me to think and scrub the heck out of something. Then I will usually take it up with the child. I also work really hard not to blow things out of proportion. Child screws up = consequences that are appropriate for the crime.;) Alright seriously now! You ladies who clean when you get mad need to come visit me. I'll make you a nice dinner and then annoy the heck out of you progressively during the meal and when you're nice and hot, I'll direct you upstairs to the mess! :p hehehehe Hey! At least you'd get a meal out of it! :p :lol::lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alpidarkomama Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 (edited) We like to all get up and march around the coffee table and chant, "We're mad! We're mad! We're really, really mad!" while making goofy mad faces and gestures. Puts everyone right again. :) Edited January 26, 2012 by alpidarkomama Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StephanieZ Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 Sometimes it helps to just be RIDICULOUS. If my kids are driving me crazy sniping at each other or other ridiculous behavior, some days I just start BARKING at them. If they start arguing with me, I just BARK at them. As in "WOOF!!" Inevitably, we all start laughing, and I can begin again. Sometimes I just walk away. I let it go. I give up on school work for the moment, and leave it to them to sort themselves out while I go goof off myself. This is what I do when it is the end of the day, and I am just TIRED of hassling them. I begin anew the next day. In GENERAL, the best thing for me has been running. I am just much harder to ruffle when I've run for 10 miles that morning, lol. I am mellow as can be. Cool as a cucumber. I don't really ever YELL anymore since I began running. I really don't think anyone wants me to stop running, lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin M Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 Everyone goes to their rooms for a break until one or the other of us is ready to discuss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sewingmama Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 (edited) What I do doesn't work. :glare: No, I have not throttled my child:D, but I have acted like a 3-year-old. I read this blog post last night that I thought presented a good idea...now to find a paper bag...:lol: http://momastery.com/blog/2012/01/24/closer-to-fine/ I love this and especially this I draw smiley faces on my bags because I know that a large portion of my kids’ mommy memories will include these bags, and I’d like them to be smiley memories. I can imagine me wearing that bag all day long some days :glare: I asked DH to buy me an MP3 player for Christmas -when I'm about to lose my stuff I put in the ear plugs and listen to a really loud "stuff you" type song (Pink writes especially good ones ;)) Edited January 26, 2012 by sewingmama Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassy Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 Alright seriously now! You ladies who clean when you get mad need to come visit me. I'll make you a nice dinner and then annoy the heck out of you progressively during the meal and when you're nice and hot, I'll direct you upstairs to the mess! :p hehehehe Hey! At least you'd get a meal out of it! :p :lol::lol: No, it wouldn't work, you'd have to go out. I find it extremely difficult to get mad around silly people who consistently make me giggle. Best wishes Cassy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted January 27, 2012 Share Posted January 27, 2012 No, it wouldn't work, you'd have to go out. I find it extremely difficult to get mad around silly people who consistently make me giggle. Best wishes Cassy hehehehe Well, then you'll just have to come for dinner and conversation then. :) Do you like Cuban food? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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