2squared Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 a toddler who did this. It is just disgusting. My 26mo loves to play with her poop. If you dealt with this, what were your consequences? My toddler receives an immediate, strong negative reaction EVERY time. I have started giving her a time-out on the toilet while I clean up the mess, and then she has more time-out in her room after I clean her up and while I cool down. She will get it....I think? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 I did not. However, there is plenty of evidence that other people do (language warning). http://www.$**tmykidsruined.com/ (you'll have to fix the first part of the link) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pamela H in Texas Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 Do I want to share this in cyberspace? hmmmmmmmm My nickname was PamelaPeePeePooPooBucket when I was a young child. I went to town painting the bathroom <sigh>. In my defense, I was much younger than your child. My parents took it as an indication I was ready to potty train so I was potty trained. At 26months old, she's definitely old enough. Honestly, punishment isn't likely to work in this situation. This is a supervise and prevent to extinguish situation. I would also make sure she is getting PLENTY of sensory play (playdough, finger paint, shaving/whipping cream, peanut butter in place of those would be good also). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renee in NC Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 Yes, potty train. I don't think that consequences for a 26 month old will last much longer than the time she is in time out. Make it harder for her to get to her diaper as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom0012 Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 My sister had major problems with this with one of her kids. In her case, it was only happening when he was in his room at nighttime or naptime with a dirty diaper. One time she came to get him from his nap and found a horror scene. From then on, she cut the feet out of a sleeper and put it on him backwards so that he couldn't get out of it and couldn't get to his diaper. That worked very well. Lisa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
.... Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 My 2 year-old has done this a couple of times. I don't think it's a thing that warrants any punishment or time-out (and I doubt they have the mental capacity to understand that yet anyway). I think it's a weird phase where they're curious and trying to figure out what the heck it is. :ack2: We're also potty-training right now and 2 yro is afraid to poop anywhere but in a diaper. I just think this is a weird developmental thing. I think the solution is just lots and lots of supervision - try to stop her before she starts. :eek: If it's any consolation, one of our 2 yro's used to go behind the curtain in our living room and poop (this was a long time ago). :D This didn't last long and I have no idea why this toddler thought this was "the thing to do". Two year-olds are just babies who can walk around and talk a little. Who knows what kind of fantasy imagery swirls around in their little minds. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaAkins Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 Two words for you: Duct.tape. Yup..that's it. You could also put her diaper on backwards with a piece of duct tape to secure it. It sounds like it has become a habit for her. Unless you're ready to potty train, then I would suggest making it harder for her to have access to her poop! If you can "redirect her creative energy" to playdough, finger paints, etc, perhaps you can break the habit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2squared Posted June 25, 2010 Author Share Posted June 25, 2010 She is being potty trained, and she is wearing underwear. She is clearly ready and able with the exception of the poop thing. I swear she waits until she has a clear moment, slips away, and does the deed. It doesn't take any time. With three other kids, I am just not available every single second of the day. All it takes is for me to turn my back while I'm getting something out of the oven or wiping my 3yo's butt or washing someone else's hair or..... She even takes off her underwear during her naptime. She is just crazy. She will get it. Since she is usually smiling and having fun after her poop playtime, I have to imagine that a negative reaction will have some impact. This little 26mo is very perceptive for her age. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Geek Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 Um, my little guy was still doing this last fall while sitting on the toilet. :glare: He was 5. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin's Song Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 Yes, my two oldest did this. However, it always occurred in their bedrooms/cribs when they were supposed to be napping. I don't have any advice for your situation...Does it make you feel better that we feel your pain?:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Once Again Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 Yes, I had one that did this. Yuck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 DD3 who has very high sensory needs did this. She would wait until I was in the other room and then go at her diaper. We bought thin fleece pjs, cut the feet and arms off (tank top with legs) and put it on backwards. It was the only way to keep her out of it. Nap time was the worst. I had to clean her crib rails and walls several times around 18mths. She either out grew it or lost interest in trying after about 6mths. She was in those backwards pjs from night until she had her bm daily. Usually in the morning. Then I could put real clothes on her. Then at nap time, she was put back in them while she slept. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
specialmama Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 I have a LOT of experience in this department. The big thing I would say is: NO ATTENTION to it!!!! I would not give a firm NO or anything, as some kids would see that as a fun game and it may escalate or return. ("wow, that got a strong reaction from mommy! I'll have to remember that!") I would methodically go about cleaning with ZERO attention to the child, ZERO emotion on either end of the spectrum. This holds true for potty training accidents of any sort, but have an all-out celebration when it is done properly in the toilet. If the child enjoyed the feeling then it was memorable. I'd allow lots of fingerpainting and playing with playdough, squishing gel, cookie dough, etc. to replace that cool feeling. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 (edited) a toddler who did this. It is just disgusting. My 26mo loves to play with her poop. If you dealt with this, what were your consequences? My toddler receives an immediate, strong negative reaction EVERY time. I have started giving her a time-out on the toilet while I clean up the mess, and then she has more time-out in her room after I clean her up and while I cool down. She will get it....I think? I haven't read the other responses, but my two dds did this when they were 1 y/o and 2 y/o - they are now 31 and almost 30. I put them in their room while I cleaned it up - and explained firmly, in few words, and in a nice tone of voice (mostly to the 2 yr old) that it was to go in the toilet and it was not to be used for fingerpaint. BTW, they did it on my birthday -- like 100 years ago -- while I was cleaning up (buckets of soapy water), a friend of my mom's showed up at the door with a plant for me for my birthday. The irony was priceless - years before when I had been their babysitter, I had forgotten to put 'rubber pants' on one of their dks when I had put her in her crib to sleep. The next morning, when mom walked into her room, dd was covered! My sister told me it is a sign of a creative kid.:glare: Edited June 25, 2010 by MariannNOVA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mynyel Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 My kids did not.....my sisters did. My twin sisters and my youngest sister are only 15 months apart. The youngest did a doody in her diaper and then took it off and all three of them "painted" the bedroom with it. I was 8 years old when that happened and I remember it like it was yesterday. My dad had to come home from work to help. We laugh...a lot....about it now...but then it was...:scared::ack2: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CalicoKat Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 Does she normally poop around the same time each day? My suggestion is to take her panties completely off and play near the bathroom with her until she's gotta go -- reward her successful "poop in the potty" with a big chocolate (what gal can refuse that, huh?!). Once she gets it in the toilet a couple times, with the chocolate reward, lots of hand clapping and yays she'll be on the way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farrar Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 My kids (twins) did this. Oy. For them, they were super well-behaved during the day, but then would go nuts at night and do it (among other destructive behaviors). We took it as a cue that they needed to potty train. But I think in their case that was wrong and may have exacerbated the behavior because originally it happened because they pulled their diapers off and happened to poop. With potty training, they were exposed to the poop even more and that seemed to raise the interest factor while at the same time they weren't really able to potty train fully for almost a year. It didn't work and it took a good, long while to break them of it fully - many months of it happening occasionally (sorry). My kids were under 2 when they did it. I tried to make it clear to them how disgusted I was personally, but not to punish them or lose it at them about it (though it was hard, I admit). I think at that age, it's hard to make them really understand the connection between the punishment and what happened - at least in this case. The pediatrician assured us it was normal - fairly common even. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin's Song Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 DD3 who has very high sensory needs did this. She would wait until I was in the other room and then go at her diaper. We bought thin fleece pjs, cut the feet and arms off (tank top with legs) and put it on backwards. It was the only way to keep her out of it. Nap time was the worst. I had to clean her crib rails and walls several times around 18mths. She either out grew it or lost interest in trying after about 6mths. She was in those backwards pjs from night until she had her bm daily. Usually in the morning. Then I could put real clothes on her. Then at nap time, she was put back in them while she slept. This is what we did since they only did it at naptime/bedtime. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 My oldest one smear and played with his BMs fromt eh ages of 6 months until 4.5 yrs old. Sometimes 2-3 times a day. My ds6 doesn't play with his, but due to his bowel issues he has taken to smearing it on his wall at night. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna A. Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 Well, I feel vindicated. :lol: I've not had this experience with any of my kids, fortunately, but I've known people who did. One friend in particular whose adopted son did this SWEARS it's just because he's adopted. :glare: The thing is, all 4 of her kids are adopted and this one child is the only one who did it. I guess they had some other behavior and learning problems with him -- ALL of which she blames on psychiatric problems due to his being adopted and "angry". And yet, when I relayed that my natural-born dd did many of the same things (though not the poop play), and asked why my dd would do those same things if her son only did them because he was adopted and angry, then why did my dd do them? She couldn't answer my question.... she got angry and cut me off. :confused: And no, I didn't say that to her "accusingly". I sincerely wanted to know what the difference was, and why his being adopted was being pinned as the cause of his poop play. While my dd's have never done that, I've heard of plenty of other kids who have... who are NOT adopted. And if her son was getting counseling from a strictly "being adopted" perspective, then what kind of counseling should my dd receive? I just don't understand the whole "blame it on his being adopted" thought. *I* was adopted, and I never did this! :glare: So are any of you ladies' children who do this adopted? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sarawatsonim Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 My daughter did this several times when she was 2. She pooped down the vent once (thank goodness for the protective liner inside that catches things dropped down the vent). The second time I caught her frying it in her pan in her fake kitchen. I honestly didn't have any words for that one.:001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 My daughter did this several times when she was 2. She pooped down the vent once (thank goodness for the protective liner inside that catches things dropped down the vent). The second time I caught her frying it in her pan in her fake kitchen. I honestly didn't have any words for that one.:001_huh: Um. . . sausage anyone? :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
specialmama Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 Um. . . sausage anyone? :lol: Cooked really well to get rid of E-Coli? :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kym Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 My daughter did this several times when she was 2. She pooped down the vent once (thank goodness for the protective liner inside that catches things dropped down the vent). The second time I caught her frying it in her pan in her fake kitchen. I honestly didn't have any words for that one.:001_huh: :lol::lol: Now THAT'S one I haven't heard before!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 OK - there is a thread asking about sausage right above this one. . . not a good juxtaposition! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna A. Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 I may never eat sausage again. :ack2: :laugh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanceXToo Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 My two younger kids both did this as toddlers, a handful of times each. There were no "consequences"- it never would have occurred to me to punish them for it, they were very young and I assumed it was a pretty normal developmental thing- although I'm sure I did at least tell them it was yucky and that they shouldn't do that. Like someone else said they only did it while they were in bed for a nap or at bedtime. It was gross but it was a very fleeting stage in their lives, fortunately! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elise1mds Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 OK, so my son never played with his poop, but he DID do things like pee under his bed (carpeted bedroom) or down the air conditioning vent or in his nightstand drawer. And once he pooped in the litter box AND BURIED IT. I had no idea it was in there till I was cleaning it out and just *knew* that particular piece of poo didn't come out of a cat's bottom. One of my best friends, however, has a daughter who played with her poo regularly and smeared it on her walls. They nicknamed her... Wait for it... Poo Picasso. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stephanier.1765 Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 My youngest was a classical poop painter.:D Once while reaching through the leg hole to get to his prize a lump fell out, the dog rushed in to grab a bite, and my middle son vomited at the sight of it all. What a day that was! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
helena Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 The second time I caught her frying it in her pan in her fake kitchen. I honestly didn't have any words for that one.:001_huh: I've seen this! I was at a friends house, she was teaching a group of us women how to make sushi, she was so embarrassed when her daughter came in shaking it around in a plastic pan. :lol: One time I was running down the hall, when I realized my little one was standing in her doorway holding a poop, with a BIG smile on her face. I was like "wait a minute....what was that?". :) It's actually a great memory. I wouldn't punish for it. I think I told my daughter that it's gross, and that you can get sick from touching poop. I think it's fairly normal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted June 25, 2010 Share Posted June 25, 2010 My youngest was a classical poop painter.:D Once while reaching through the leg hole to get to his prize a lump fell out, the dog rushed in to grab a bite, and my middle son vomited at the sight of it all. What a day that was! :lol: I bet you weren't laughing that day but it is funny now! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin's Song Posted June 26, 2010 Share Posted June 26, 2010 My daughter did this several times when she was 2. She pooped down the vent once (thank goodness for the protective liner inside that catches things dropped down the vent). The second time I caught her frying it in her pan in her fake kitchen. I honestly didn't have any words for that one.:001_huh: Words fail... :eek: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stephanier.1765 Posted June 26, 2010 Share Posted June 26, 2010 :lol: I bet you weren't laughing that day but it is funny now! Well after we got it all cleaned up, dh and I had a good laugh over it. The gross factor was over the top but so was the laugh. It was one of those times when if you don't laugh you'll cry.:lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babysparkler Posted June 26, 2010 Share Posted June 26, 2010 I'd allow lots of fingerpainting and playing with playdough, squishing gel, cookie dough, etc. to replace that cool feeling. This is my thought too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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