Janeway Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 I feel like a heel, completely. I do not like being a flake at all. I also worry daughter will change her mind. Here goes. Every time you ask her how preschool is, she says she does not like it. The preschool got sold and it appears that they are not doing any music anymore and they have a calisthenics style PE class. They dropped drama and added in Spanish. Daughter gets in trouble most days for not sitting still and paying attention. We checked and we can pull her out as of the end of the month. We won't get our deposit back, but we won't be held to any sort of contract. My only big worry is that once she has been out for a couple of weeks, she will get sad and just want to go back so she can see her friends. The preschool is in another town and I have not had a ton of luck making playdates. So, my husband tells me this is just a big waste of money. And that she will learn to hate school from this bad experience. I suspect daughter is not developmentally ready to sit still and that the preschool has changed to expect more sitting still time. I feel so stressed. I hate making this decision. And my husband says to just pull her out. I feel awful about telling them she is leaving and I am so anxiety ridden that it will turn out to be a mistake. But I guess we are pulling her out. I am hoping for words of wisdom. I do not know any other kids her age so this is hard. Ok..the people she was friends with who are near her age are in kinder this year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 Be positive and upbeat about your decision. She is only 4 and won't be scared for life. Plan some fun field trips and home activities. Enjoy. 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 Pull her out, then cross the "bridge of regret" IF and WHEN you come to it. Don't eat the whole elephant in one bite. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rachel Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 I pulled my son out of a moms day out because it wasn't working for us. He didn't miss it for several months then randomly wanted to know why he wasn't going anymore. It's been 5 years, I don't regret the decision at all. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 (edited) Really, the only thing I needed to read from your post is that a preschooler gets in trouble for not sitting still and not paying attention. That is all I need to know that the expectations in this preschool are not developmentally appropriate. That would be a sufficient reason for me to pull my kid out. She does not need to be made feel like a failure in preschool already. ETA: Be upbeat about the decision. Don't make it about "no preschool anymore" - she just GETS to do preschool at home, yay! Edited October 25, 2016 by regentrude 27 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janeway Posted October 25, 2016 Author Share Posted October 25, 2016 Really, the only thing I needed to read from your post is that a preschooler gets in trouble for not sitting still and not paying attention. That is all I need to know that the expectations in this preschool are not developmentally appropriate. That would be a sufficient reason for me to pull my kid out. She does not need to be made feel like a failure in preschool already. ETA: Be upbeat about the decision. Don't make it about "no preschool anymore" - she just GETS to do preschool at home, yay! At home, she is learning how to read. Which she really wants to do. At preschool, they are doing coloring pages and are supposed to sit still and pay attention. Seems to me to be the complete opposite. Why do they think kids who are only ready to color pictures are ready to sit still like that? And how long can any child just sit still and color? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 About five to ten minutes around here. Seriously, preschool is kind of useless if the kid isn't having fun. That's the sole purpose - friendly interactions, guided play, and a small bit of structure to keep young children busy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katy Posted October 25, 2016 Share Posted October 25, 2016 It's a bad school. Yank her and research other preschools around if you like, but there is no reason at that age that half her day shouldn't be jumping off big rocks. Getting her in trouble for being normal is not a good experience. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AK_Mom4 Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 If you need ready-made excuses (yeah I know that No is supposed to be a complete sentence but I'm a wimp), I love the Hectic Holidays reason. "Our schedule is so crazy through the Holidays, we need to stop preschool for a while. After the holidays are over, we will take stock and see what works for us." And if you don't specify Which Holidays, you can stretch that through the 4th of July for you and your 4yo.......... 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 My DS went to pre-school one year and LOVED it. He had an experienced teacher who was great at classroom management while keeping things fun. The next year, different teacher, he hated it - it was too loud, too chaotic, and not fun. He wanted to quit. So, we quit. I have zero regrets, and he was quite grateful he didn't have to go back. Childhood is too short to pay money just do your kid can be miserable and get in trouble for being a kid. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
.... Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 Don't waste any energy feeling bad about it!! My daughter (#4) went to preschool for 3 months before I pulled her out. It really was a waste of money. When you're homeschooling a house full of older kids, there's more educational stuff going on at home than there would be at a preschool. I was doing so much more with her at home than they were (and preschool was difficult to swing - financially). I don't think Kid #5 will go to preschool at all. Don't feel bad. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
.... Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 At home, she is learning how to read. Which she really wants to do. At preschool, they are doing coloring pages and are supposed to sit still and pay attention. Seems to me to be the complete opposite. Why do they think kids who are only ready to color pictures are ready to sit still like that? And how long can any child just sit still and color? She's probably bored! This was our preschool experience, as well. When I picked her up from school, they would tell me they were surprised by how advanced she was. Maybe because we are a big homeschooling family, they figured the younger ones were feral or something. They were shocked (or appalled - whatever) mine knew how to cut with scissors. Um, how is she supposed to cut things? Of course she knows how to use scissors! :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 It sounds like a lousy place. I agree with remain upbeat and matter of fact about the whole thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lmrich Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 If you regret it, you can a more appropriate pre-school. Can you use the monthly tuition to sign up for a gym or ballet class that she would like and then, maybe, meet some little friends for her? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamiof5 Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 Our kids never went to preschool and they are fine. There's so much to do at home at her age! I think she'll be fine :) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
73349 Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 My kid didn't like preschool either. He didn't miss it when I stopped sending him. She'll be fine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shawthorne44 Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 At home, she is learning how to read. Which she really wants to do. At preschool, they are doing coloring pages and are supposed to sit still and pay attention. Seems to me to be the complete opposite. Why do they think kids who are only ready to color pictures are ready to sit still like that? And how long can any child just sit still and color? But, if they can it is really easy on the teacher. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyinTN Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 (edited) Our daughter just took our grand daughter out 2 weeks ago...the school wasn't doing nearly the stuff we were paying for and our preschooler was bored. She's back home with us and happy as a clam. She goes outside daily to play..we put in a swingset and lots of fun outside toys, she has lots of creative time to paint, draw and build and there isn't any regret here...also saves us 530 a month...that goes along way in fun activities :) SaveSave Edited October 26, 2016 by TammyinTN 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lecka Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 My daughter went to play-based preschool. A lot of the preschools here are not as play based at all. My older son was only 3 years older (he is 11 now) and many programs got less play based. Believe it or not a director told me they were losing kids for playing too much, and they changed to respond to parents. I think or hope they were not to the point of kids leaving sad or getting in trouble for not doing a worksheet, though! That is outside of my experience and I would be very bothered to hear about it happening whether it was my child or another in the class. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted October 26, 2016 Share Posted October 26, 2016 At home, she is learning how to read. Which she really wants to do. At preschool, they are doing coloring pages and are supposed to sit still and pay attention. Seems to me to be the complete opposite. Why do they think kids who are only ready to color pictures are ready to sit still like that? And how long can any child just sit still and color? Her preschool is not using a developmentally appropriate curriculum. Sitting for more than 5-10 minutes without some sort of movement should not be expected. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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