popmom Posted January 18 Share Posted January 18 (edited) Decided to delete details. Pray for my youngest dd who has experienced a lot of loss over the past few years. Pray that we would find a good counselor for her. We have tried a couple and it just hasn't been helpful. Not dd's fault. It's just hard to find good counselors. I'm better qualified than dd's last counselor. Seriously. But she needs someone other than me to process this stuff. If you are feeling extra generous pray for good friends for dd. One good friend. Okay...maybe just one mediocre friend who doesn't do her harm maybe. Edited January 18 by popmom 1 22 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
popmom Posted January 18 Author Share Posted January 18 (edited) deleted. just say a prayer for my youngest dd. thanks. She's hurting due to death of classmate. Edited January 18 by popmom 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted January 18 Share Posted January 18 There's probably not much you can do but wait it out. ((hugs)) Sometimes isolation mode is useful and necessary. Stoicism isn't always unhealthy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
popmom Posted January 18 Author Share Posted January 18 (edited) 11 minutes ago, Rosie_0801 said: There's probably not much you can do but wait it out. ((hugs)) Sometimes isolation mode is useful and necessary. Stoicism isn't always unhealthy. Thank you. I really appreciate that perspective. I agree with that. I certainly don't want to force anything. I'm just sad. Time for me to go to bed. Going to spend some time meditating and praying. I do appreciate and covet prayer for her. TY. Edited January 18 by popmom 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted January 18 Share Posted January 18 There is plenty to be sad about, huh. 😞 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hannah Posted January 18 Share Posted January 18 (edited) Do you have any access to trauma debriefing with a counsellor? It is good to process feelings within 24-48 hours of a traumatic event and useful to do so with someone with whom you do not have an emotional connection. Here we an organisation called Lifeline where well-trained volunteer lay counsellors do this - you can make an appointment for a walk-in session. They will refer if they need to. ETA: I may be using the wrong terminology. We have psychologists and registered counsellors here, but the word lay counsellor is also used. Edited January 18 by Hannah 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
popmom Posted January 18 Author Share Posted January 18 Just now, Hannah said: Do you have any access to trauma debriefing with a counsellor? It is good to process feelings within 24-48 hours of a traumatic event and useful to do so with someone with whom you do not have an emotional connection. Here we an organisation called Lifeline where well-trained volunteer lay counsellors do this - you can make an appointment for a walk-in session. They will refer if they need to. I do not unfortunately. I will call her psychiatrist tomorrow, but I seriously doubt I could get her in with someone that quickly. I will specifically ask her dr about this when I call. Our public schools probably have resources but we homeschool. Thank you for the ideas. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
popmom Posted January 18 Author Share Posted January 18 @Hannah I saw your edit. We have the same terminology. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ausmumof3 Posted January 18 Share Posted January 18 Im so sorry 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted January 18 Share Posted January 18 I'm sorry too. Thinking of your dd and sending prayers for her and a big hug for you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted January 18 Share Posted January 18 Sending positive thoughts and hugs for your daughter 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovinmyboys Posted January 18 Share Posted January 18 (edited) I saw your post earlier, but I didn’t respond because I have nothing to offer. The same thing happened to my son this year and it is just awful and sad. I have no helpful advice. He is in school, so had the option of talking with the counselors (and the school brought in some outside help). He declined doing that. I will pray for your dd and you. It is so hard when our kids are hurting. Edited January 18 by lovinmyboys 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheReader Posted January 18 Share Posted January 18 praying for your dd. I'm sorry she's hurting. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saraha Posted January 18 Share Posted January 18 Praying 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KSera Posted January 18 Share Posted January 18 I’m really sorry. Praying for your daughter during this time and for finding both a counselor and friends. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scholastica Posted January 18 Share Posted January 18 I’m so sorry. Praying for your dd. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
popmom Posted January 18 Author Share Posted January 18 (edited) thank you for praying. I decided to call a counselor one of my older dds used to see--years ago. She is accepting new patients again. I really think this will be a good fit, and dd is definitely willing. Dd talked about this classmate earlier. Good memories. Otherwise, she has been playing her guitar all day. We are praying for the family. Praying for the teachers at co-op, too. Tuesday will be hard. They are having classes today, and the admins have said they will be available to talk, cry, or whatever the students need. Dd only has classes on Tuesdays. Edited January 18 by popmom 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyoffive Posted January 18 Share Posted January 18 I am so sorry your dd is going through this. Heartbreaking. I am so sorry. Sending lots of prayers to your dd, her friend's family, and everyone in the community. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hannah Posted January 18 Share Posted January 18 1 hour ago, popmom said: I decided to call a counselor one of my older dds used to see--years ago. She is accepting new patients again. I really think this will be a good fit, and dd is definitely willing. This is very good news! I hope they work well together. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
popmom Posted January 19 Author Share Posted January 19 (edited) Today she said, “What did I do to deserve to live another day? Why do I get to still be here?” My heart. Edited January 19 by popmom 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted January 19 Share Posted January 19 She is aware of the term 'survivor's guilt?' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
popmom Posted January 19 Author Share Posted January 19 (edited) 7 minutes ago, Rosie_0801 said: She is aware of the term 'survivor's guilt?' Yes. She is. Psychology is one of her special interests, and she will study it in college. So she is actually grappling with the things that she has studied and read about. It’s completely different to experience it vs reading about it. She’s actually taking an AP psych class at this co-op this year. I think there’s more to it than that though. She’s very spiritual. Edited January 19 by popmom 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WildflowerMom Posted January 19 Share Posted January 19 I missed the first post and I'm not sure exactly what's going on, but I've been praying and will continue to pray for dd. (((Hugs))) for her... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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