bettyandbob Posted December 29, 2017 Share Posted December 29, 2017 A few years back I had these two boys multiple times over a few seasons in my swimming classes. I got to know the dad and mom a little bit. The boys are about 3 years apart in age. They also attended the same daycamp for two weeks one summer with my ds. They were very nice to ds. My ds has intellectual disabilities so this is a big deal. It was just a regular community program, not something advertised as "inclusive." So that's my connection to the family. I haven't seen them in a couple years. I changed jobs so I don't know if they continued swimming--the older one would have aged out by now. However, I know quite a few people who know them. During the time I regularly saw them the mom had cancer and then had a recurrence. I since heard her cancer was back again last year. She died 12/23. The funeral is this morning. I'm thinking about going to the funeral. Is this weird? They are a really nice family. I always enjoyed those kids. Once I ran into the mom in the store and she told me her kids didn't get into my class. This was just when her second round of cancer started. I went into work saw how long the wait list was a requested my class be over enrolled to the point where her boys would get in. She was happy, but I was too because I liked having them in class. Anyway, it's been awhile since I've seen them. Should I go? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xixstar Posted December 29, 2017 Share Posted December 29, 2017 I do not think it is weird at all. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angie in VA Posted December 29, 2017 Share Posted December 29, 2017 I don't think it's weird at all. Seeing how many came to my mother's wake and/or funeral meant an awful lot to me and to my father. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
East Coast Sue Posted December 29, 2017 Share Posted December 29, 2017 Yes, you should go. All who attend the funeral can comfort the family by honoring her life and family. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted December 29, 2017 Share Posted December 29, 2017 Not weird at all. At my father's funeral, some people we didn't know showed up. Turns out they were guys he'd had breakfast with sometimes. They must have seen the obituary. It was nice of them to be there. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cave canem Posted December 29, 2017 Share Posted December 29, 2017 You remember this woman because of kindness to your son, which was a form of comfort to you. By attending her service you are acknowledging that and also reciprocating. I am certain the family will be touched to see you there. I am touched just reading about it. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneStepAtATime Posted December 29, 2017 Share Posted December 29, 2017 Not weird. I would go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted December 29, 2017 Share Posted December 29, 2017 Not weird. The family will be touched that you came, really. I hope you can tell the boys how much it meant to you that they treated your ds kindly. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Selkie Posted December 29, 2017 Share Posted December 29, 2017 Not weird at all. It would be lovely of you to go. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted December 29, 2017 Share Posted December 29, 2017 Definitely not weird and I think it would be appreciated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theelfqueen Posted December 29, 2017 Share Posted December 29, 2017 Not weird... kind and sweet. Sent from my SM-G930V using Tapatalk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debbi in Texas Posted December 29, 2017 Share Posted December 29, 2017 I think it would be very kind of you to go and the family will appreciate it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PinkTulip Posted December 29, 2017 Share Posted December 29, 2017 Not weird at all. My father died when I was 25 and I still remember with great love the people who came to his funeral. Some of them only knew him tangentially, but it still really meant the world to me, and those people still hold a special place in my heart 20+ years later. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthwestMom Posted December 29, 2017 Share Posted December 29, 2017 You should definitely go! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted December 29, 2017 Share Posted December 29, 2017 I don't think it's ever to weird to go to someone's funeral, unless your presence makes the family uncomfortable. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wintermom Posted December 29, 2017 Share Posted December 29, 2017 I think it would be very kind of you to go to the funeral to show your support and friendship to the family. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mama Geek Posted December 29, 2017 Share Posted December 29, 2017 Not weird at all, the family will appreciate all the support they can get. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted December 29, 2017 Share Posted December 29, 2017 I know this is a day late, but adding my voice in that I don't think it would be weird. I think they'd really appreciate the gesture. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted December 29, 2017 Author Share Posted December 29, 2017 Just got home. Thanks. Glad I went. 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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