Popular Post LucyStoner Posted September 26, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted September 26, 2015 Why has this turn of events taken place? Is it the fact that her grandsons are doing really well? Is it that my younger son, the reluctant reader, is now reading with gusto? Is it that our son with serious social difficulties relating to ASD is now happily navigating his tween years with friends? Nah. It's because she's discovered that The Pioneer Woman homeschools. Thanks. I think. :P 71 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ashfern Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 :lol: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bambam Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 lol! Well at least she has warmed up! Aren't people funny? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted September 26, 2015 Author Share Posted September 26, 2015 We had a tense moment a couple years back when her husband was like "we think (older son) is smart enough to go to actual school". I excused myself from the table while my ever patient husband explained that yes, smart kids can homeschool. 11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimm Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 We had a tense moment a couple years back when her husband was like "we think (older son) is smart enough to go to actual school". I excused myself from the table while my ever patient husband explained that yes, smart kids can homeschool. Ooh, talk about straining your self control to a breaking point. :) 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slache Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 We had a tense moment a couple years back when her husband was like "we think (older son) is smart enough to go to actual school". I excused myself from the table while my ever patient husband explained that yes, smart kids can homeschool. I think I might have landed myself in prison after that. 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 Why has this turn of events taken place? Is it the fact that her grandsons are doing really well? Is it that my younger son, the reluctant reader, is now reading with gusto? Is it that our son with serious social difficulties relating to ASD is now happily navigating his tween years with friends? Nah. It's because she's discovered that The Pioneer Woman homeschools. Thanks. I think. :P Not only that, but if you want extra points you can tell her Ree used to visit this board, before her blog took off. 13 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bambam Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 Sometimes I wish it were acceptable to post SAT/ACT scores, letters of commendation, etc on Facebook and tag those people who expressed doubt that we would be able successfully homeschool our children through high school. Naysayers, hello - look these scores are *much* higher than the average scores at your local high schools. Oh, looky here - wait they are high enough to get her in any college she wants. What were you saying again, folks? Wanta say that *maybe* you were wrong now? 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted September 26, 2015 Author Share Posted September 26, 2015 Not only that, but if you want extra points you can tell her Ree used to visit this board, before her blog took off. No way. Then she might find this thread. ;) I've maintained a cordial relationship with this woman for 15 years. This is not always easy and relies on a mutual understanding that we stay out of each other's way. I love her and she's nice but we are totally different people. In a family picture with my inlaws, I am the the odd item out of the "one of these things is not like the other, one of these things does not belong" song. 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 Hey, whatever it takes, you know? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luckymama Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 Sometimes I wish it were acceptable to post SAT/ACT scores, letters of commendation, etc on Facebook and tag those people who expressed doubt that we would be able successfully homeschool our children through high school. Naysayers, hello - look these scores are *much* higher than the average scores at your local high schools. Oh, looky here - wait they are high enough to get her in any college she wants. What were you saying again, folks? Wanta say that *maybe* you were wrong now? The petty me frequently fights this desire! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tsuga Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 TV is like the perfect convincing machine. I think that's why Internet ads still cost less. I'm happy about your MIL... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted September 26, 2015 Author Share Posted September 26, 2015 I think I might have landed myself in prison after that. There would be a reason I excused myself from the table. We were at a restaurant and I just suddenly had to go to the restroom...which I was, of course, only able to find after three or twenty laps though the restaurant garden. And my husband, who is truly the find of a lifetime for me, ordered me a strawberry margarita while I was gone. 22 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slache Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 There would be a reason I excused myself from the table. We were at a restaurant and I just suddenly had to go to the restroom...which I was, of course, only able to find after three or twenty laps though the restaurant garden. And my husband, who is truly the find of a lifetime for me, ordered me a strawberry margarita while I was gone. Smart man. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 26, 2015 Share Posted September 26, 2015 No way. Then she might find this thread. ;) I've maintained a cordial relationship with this woman for 15 years. This is not always easy and relies on a mutual understanding that we stay out of each other's way. I love her and she's nice but we are totally different people. In a family picture with my inlaws, I am the the odd item out of the "one of these things is not like the other, one of these things does not belong" song. The typewriter amongst the violin, guitar and cello? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kristie in Florida Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 We had a similar experience with my mother in law when we finally told her that we were homeschooling. After she asked us questions for hours she finally said, exasperated, "Okay, the Pioneer Woman homeschools too. Okay." 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kewb Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 I am glad your mil warmed up. The only thing that would make my mil warm up to homeschooling would be if her daughter decided to homeschool. Both of her kids are now in college so that ship has sailed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted September 27, 2015 Author Share Posted September 27, 2015 The typewriter amongst the violin, guitar and cello? No. More like the paper plate among the flowered gold rimmed Wedgwood china plates. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slojo Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 Why has this turn of events taken place? Is it the fact that her grandsons are doing really well? Is it that my younger son, the reluctant reader, is now reading with gusto? Is it that our son with serious social difficulties relating to ASD is now happily navigating his tween years with friends? Nah. It's because she's discovered that The Pioneer Woman homeschools. Thanks. I think. :p Really, I've run into a few people who've thought it was okay to homeschool for the most random reasons. One woman approved of it because my kids "get to do P.E." - she seriously thought THAT's what they'd be missing out on (as if PE in most schools is this great thing that leads the majority of youth down a path of lifelong health habits and physical activity). Another thought it was okay when my 4th grader could answer all of her "times tables drills." Of course my second grader, who's not quite gotten the idea of tact down, says, "Well, it only makes sense that he could answer all those questions because he's doing pre-algebra this year! I can answer all of those questions!" :001_rolleyes: I guess my children have heard me quote Chris Rock too much - "what did you expect, you 'low-expectations having' purveyor of mediocrity! You 'spose to be able to do your times tables in fourth grade..." (Not that I give a big flip about times tables, but it is a fairly low bar for demonstrating mathematical competence.) I think that homeschooling is so out of many people's experience base that they can't even latch on to direct evidence that it works or can work, so they end of "approving" of homeschooling based on odd, idiosyncratic reasons that have nothing to do with the actual process of homeschooling. Including MILs. Mine doesn't get it -- doesn't get why one would want to do it, and has a 30 year old model in her head of this one woman she met once who was kind of weird and homeschooled. That's the only thing she's said to me about it -- somewhere that "one woman's" children are roaming the earth -- at this point, they are my age. I said to her, "I met a guy from Iowa once - about 10 years ago -- he was weird, too. Think those two people are related?" No way. Then she might find this thread. ;) I've maintained a cordial relationship with this woman for 15 years. This is not always easy and relies on a mutual understanding that we stay out of each other's way. I love her and she's nice but we are totally different people. In a family picture with my inlaws, I am the the odd item out of the "one of these things is not like the other, one of these things does not belong" song. This sounds like my MIL - this is our exact relationship. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 My mother decided she was ok about homeschooling because a friend of a friend (of a friend?) homeschooled their kids and they had manners. My father decided it was ok after I assured him I would be teaching maths and my aunt told him it was an <expletive> good idea. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valley Girl Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 And my husband, who is truly the find of a lifetime for me, ordered me a strawberry margarita while I was gone. He's definitely a keeper! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reign Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 My mom also came around after listening to a celebrity. One of the radio talk show advice givers. Maybe Dr. Laura? She also decided she likes being Able to get together with the kids during the day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AHASRADA Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 My parents have always been great about homeschooling. In their eyes, I'm smart, educated and capable, and are proud that I am investing this much time and energy into my kids. It is also fairly common where they live. My ILs, who live overseas and had never heard of homeschooling, thought it was weird, but OK, because I'm a teacher. I had to coach the kids how to respond to people when we lived over there for a year: "My mom is a teacher, she teaches me at home, and I'll do my exams when I go back to the US." Somehow, since I was a teacher, and they would be doing exams (just at-home standardized tests for our own records, but whatever), they could then wrap their heads around it. At middle school age, I got the feeling MIL thought they should be in real school by now. I went through a long explanation of how, in the area we had now moved to, schools are used as instruments of social engineering, to assimilate immigrants and alienate them from their culture and religion of origin. That changed her mind. Now that they're in HS, she really is perplexed by them not being in school, but she has chalked it up to just a thing that a lot of us crazy Americans do (I try to make it seem like a fairly common choice). It doesn't help that she personally was over - burdened raising her dc, and most women in her country start sending their dc to "school" at age 2 to give them an academic head start, but mainly to get the little devils out of their hair. The idea of wanting and choosing to keep my kids home when there are other options is an anomaly for her. But, she's kind and respectful and doesn't bring it up. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jerico Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 When my husband told his mom we were homeschooling she said, "are you $&!))!@" me?" (Direct quote). Two years later, "i wanted to homeschool but [insert fil name here] didn't want to." Insert eye roll here. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 My inlaws just don't talk about homeschooling, so we just guess that they disapprove. They don't ask what the kids are doing, and if we try to bring it up the conversation just dies. My husband and I figured out that they want our kids to be just like everyone else's kids. And, they'd love our kids more if our son was on the high school football team and our daughter was a cheerleader. They are very conventional people and anyone who does anything out of the ordinary bothers them. I don't think they are malicious; they just don't get it. Sometimes I wish they would verbally disapprove so we could get it out in the open but I guess after all these years they won't. We live far enough away from them that it's not a big problem. But it's too bad my kids don't feel fully approved of. My mom was all for homeschooling, but she died when they were pretty little. (My dad died before I was married.) Would have been nice to have one approving grandparent! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Strawberry Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 My ILs were iffy about it until they figured out that it meant a standing weekly lunch date with the kids ( and me) and overnights in the middle of the week. You get a discounted room at the casino on Thursday? Sure. Swing by and pick them up. I've been lucky. They said, "If anyone can do it, it's you." :001_wub: My parents afterschooled me, so they weren't super surprised. I believe they said something, "Whatever. It's your kid." In the most loving way. :lol: 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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