Harriet Vane Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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unsinkable Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 I'm so sorry, Tap. You're on a tough road and I wish you all the strength you need to get through it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen500 Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LostSurprise Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 :grouphug: I'm glad you feel open enough to tell us, TAP. It's important for SN parents to have somewhere they can vent their frustrations. We care about you, and some of us are in a similar place. You're not alone. We do the best we can with what we're given. Some of us have a lot fewer choices. We try new things and look for what will help, even a little bit. I hope and pray this change will be a help for your child. It's okay to mourn when we're forced to make changes. We live with enough insecurity. I wish you time to mourn, strength to love and follow through, and hope in the morning. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elisabet1 Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 (((((hugs))))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 so very sorry. I'm glad you're talking about it ..it can be helpful for you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim in Appalachia Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 :grouphug: I'm sorry :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TeacherZee Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 ((Hugs)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FloridaLisa Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 :grouphug: Lisa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimm Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 I'm so sorry for all you're dealing with. It sounds like you are doing everything you can, and that's all anyone can ask of you. Don't feel like a failure. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 Things are just getting worse and worse with her. Daily Huge tantrums at school, being restrained daily, and now yet another suspension. This is all with an IEP for behaviors, so they don't punish her for things that NT kids would get in trouble for. Today, it took 3 adults to wrangle her into the quite room and in the process she drew blood on 2 and bruised the 3rd. They are getting ready to move her to the program in the area that houses the worst of the worst for behaviors. Nothing like hearing your kid is getting moved out of the special needs program because they are too mean to be there, to make a parent feel like a failure. It is overwhelming and exhausting. I haven't even told dh that she was suspended yet, because I can't deal with him on top of everything else. I will tell him in the morning when she doesn't leave for school. She didn't even bother to ask to go outside when she got home, she knows she is in trouble and really doesn't even care. Don't know why I am posting this, I guess I just needed to throw it out to the world so I can let it go a little bit. I am sorry. I totally get not wanting to tell DH, because that dynamic happens here sometimes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 Coming in late. Where are you? Clearly the setting and support is not working. Do you need help with advocacy? Every state has a Protection and Advocacy agency (some are state agencies and some are nonprofits). Some P&As are better than others. In my state the P&A does not make a lot of progress for clients, but state next door has a P&A that is amazing (I've referred people to them and had calls back saying schools bent over backwards to do everything once the P&A was mentioned). So, it's a state by state thing, but getting in touch with them may help you get some resources. I think you are in Washington State:Disability Rights Washington www.disabilityrightswa.org Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stephanier.1765 Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I wish I had something more than hugs to offer. I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted November 6, 2014 Share Posted November 6, 2014 :grouphug: You poor momma, I know you have been braving this road with her for years. Some days are exhausting, but In my heart I hope the new course helps the two of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sweetstitches Posted November 6, 2014 Share Posted November 6, 2014 I have been there. (((Hug))) it was the beginning of 5th grade for DS, (he's 23 now) and he had been been in a classroom for behavior and emotional disturbed students with an IEP and behavior plan. His dx's are FAS, somewhere on the autistic spectrum, bipolar and ADHD. He as too verbal to be in the multineeds needs room or autistic room, and too out-of-control to continue in a regular classroom with a 1-1 aide. When they kicked him out, they wanted to do a private placement, up to 1 1/2 hrs from our home. And they made it sound like a horrible place (in hind sight, I don't think they really wanted to pay.) Thus began our homeschool journey....which I am grateful for, esp. For all the kiddos that came after him. However, we moved school districts during his teen years, and when he turned 18 we decided to enroll him again, since he could attend to the day before his 22nd b-day. Our new school dist. Allowed us to very very involved in the decision and let us visit several schools. The school he ended up going to was WONDERFUL! I can't say enough good things about his experience there. And to be honest, it made me kind of sad that he hadn't had that experience all along. So even though this feels like a sad, traumatic, turning point, it may turn out to be the best thing ever. Feel free to pm me if you like. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tea 4 Three Posted November 6, 2014 Share Posted November 6, 2014 Maybe you have already seen information by Dr. Ross Greene, but if you haven't, his website http://www.livesinthebalance.org has an amazing amount of helpful information including some excellent audio presentations. Hang in there...It is just so hard some days. I hope you find the support you need. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted November 6, 2014 Share Posted November 6, 2014 No advice, just :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted November 6, 2014 Share Posted November 6, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I am so sorry. You must be exhausted. I hope your whole family gets some relief. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
raptor_dad Posted November 6, 2014 Share Posted November 6, 2014 If you are looking for advocacy resources... WrightsLaw has a page on Behavior Problems and Discipline http://www.wrightslaw.com/info/discipl.index.htm I've found their other advocacy stuff helpful... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted November 6, 2014 Share Posted November 6, 2014 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted November 6, 2014 Share Posted November 6, 2014 Sorry to hear you are still struggling so much. Sounds like you have a very involved psychiatrist..........otherwise I might suggest a hospitalization and med wash to see if you could get a better handle on things that way. I know in our area many kids do very very well in the type of school you mention. The staff is better trained and able to handle their needs and they can really progress. Hopefully it will be a very positive experience for her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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