beaners Posted September 15, 2013 Share Posted September 15, 2013 Did I cross the line from helpful to creepy and weird? We just started attending a new church. It's pretty small, and there was a meeting this morning, so there were only about 15 people in the second service. One woman asked for prayers for her daughter because her baby is breech and she wants to avoid a c-section. At the end of the service, I introduced myself and suggested her daughter might want to check out the Spinning Babies website if she hadn't heard of it. I said that I had used it for a couple of my pregnancies and she may or may not be interested, but I thought I'd mention it just in case. In retrospect, I wonder if I sounded like a nut. Going up to a stranger to offer a suggestion is *way* outside my comfort zone, and I tried not to sound pushy at all. I asked my husband and he said it sounded fine, but he isn't burdened with my need to over-analyze every single thing I say. So am I now the weirdo everyone will be avoiding? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scrub Jay Posted September 15, 2013 Share Posted September 15, 2013 I don't see why that would be weird when she offered up that info to the group. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Belacqua Posted September 15, 2013 Share Posted September 15, 2013 I don't see why that would be weird when she offered up that info to the group. I agree. She brought it up, so it wouldn't seem she finds it an especially private topic. If she'd mentioned it privately and you'd announced it in church, I'd think differently. But you were fine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigMamaBird Posted September 15, 2013 Share Posted September 15, 2013 No, it sounds like you tossed an idea out there and didn't push it (pregnancy humor, bu-dum-dum ching!) If you had hounded her about it or if you approach her multiple times asking about it, that would be annoying. But just throwing a suggestion out there, something that worked for you, is generally harmless. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted September 15, 2013 Share Posted September 15, 2013 She asked for prayers for a solution to a problem and you presented her with information in a helpful manner. Don't worry another minute! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommy22alyns Posted September 15, 2013 Share Posted September 15, 2013 Nope, not at all! That was very nice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted September 15, 2013 Share Posted September 15, 2013 Sounds like you could have been the answer to her prayer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beaners Posted September 15, 2013 Author Share Posted September 15, 2013 Thanks guys. I figured it was less weird than passing on my emergency music tape, but since it was so far out of comfort zone I wasn't sure how it might sound. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jewellsmommy Posted September 15, 2013 Share Posted September 15, 2013 sounds like a perfectly normal conversation to me. In fact, I'm kind of disappointed. :tongue_smilie: I'll have to go put the popcorn away now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted September 15, 2013 Share Posted September 15, 2013 I don't think that sounds inappropriate. You shared a resource, and she's free to research it further or ignore it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
planner Posted September 15, 2013 Share Posted September 15, 2013 I think you're fine. You shared information. You didn't force it on them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted September 15, 2013 Share Posted September 15, 2013 Agree--you're fine. Not creepy and weird at all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted September 15, 2013 Share Posted September 15, 2013 I don't see why that would be weird when she offered up that info to the group. I agree. I think it's fine to give helpful information to people who asked for help at church. Maybe that website is the answer to a prayer, and you were just the conduit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted September 15, 2013 Share Posted September 15, 2013 Sounds like a perfectly reasonable and thoughtful thing to do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted September 15, 2013 Share Posted September 15, 2013 Nope, not weird or creepy. I agree that you may have been the answer to the prayer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyinTN Posted September 15, 2013 Share Posted September 15, 2013 I think you did perfectly. :thumbup1: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cammie Posted September 16, 2013 Share Posted September 16, 2013 Makes me realize how different we all are!! I would have gone up, told her about the website, given my name and phone number, taken her daughter's name and phone number, gone home, called the daughter, introduced myself, shared my experiences, probably arranged to meet for coffee and followed up with her later to see that everything turned out ok. And I would have done all of that wihtout wondering if I was become "that" person!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
skeeterbug Posted September 16, 2013 Share Posted September 16, 2013 Not inappropriate at all. It will also be just fine for you to ask at some future point whether her daughter has had the baby and whether she had to have the c-section. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
houseofkids&pets Posted September 16, 2013 Share Posted September 16, 2013 I think you were being helpful. I am always introducing myself to others when I find out they have a child newly diagnosed with autism. I have "been there, done that" and know how important outside support can be. If this woman was uncomfortable with sharing personal info, I don't think she would have mentioned it at church. I hope she and her daughter can find some useful info on the website. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freeindeed Posted September 16, 2013 Share Posted September 16, 2013 No, you did not become "that" person. You did a nice and helpful thing. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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