bobbeym Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 DS's wedding is 1 month from today and I really need help figuring out what to wear. The bride already lives with us (she's the DD in my sig) and there's a very high chance that nobody from her family will be attending. It's a daytime semi-formal church wedding with reception following at the same location. The bride is wearing a floor length, strapless gown w/o a train. The groom is wearing a zoot suite with purple vest and tie. The best man is wearing dress blues. The maid of honor is wearing a dark purple knee-length dress. The ushers and FOG are wearing dress pants with a white shirt and purple ties, no jackets (I don't think). I have a pair of black palazza pants like these, which I absolutely LOVE. Do you think anything would think oddly of me if I wore pants paired with a dressy blouse, something like this or this? DD doesn't care what color I wear, or really even what I wear, as long as I'm happy with it. I'd like to go with something neutral in gray or silver or a light shade of purple. My budget is $50-80. I should add that I absolutely *hate* dresses. I'm pretty sure the last time I wore a dress was at my own wedding. Work your magic please, Hive, and give me some more suggestions! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
itsheresomewhere Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 I think it will look great. I would wear it and have a great time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unicorn. Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 Absolutely. I think the second top is much more appropriate, and would look better w/ the pants. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 Sure! Especially if future DIL doesn't care! That will look great. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
applethyme Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 I think the pants would be fine. I like the second blouse better but either would look nice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SorrelZG Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 I love them. Totally appropriate and you'll look awesome. I need to take fashion tips from you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
msjones Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 I love the pants and the tops are both just gorgeous. I think the first top would be a bit more flattering -- it gives you more of a waist which will balance out the full pants nicely. You will be a very classy, elegant, and comfy mother of the groom. Have fun! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest inoubliable Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 Unless it's a nudist wedding, I'm pretty sure pants would be okay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer3141 Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 If the bride lives with you, why don't you ask her? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vonfirmath Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 We had a fairly formal wedding and my best friend/surrogate mother wore slacks and a shirt. No one said anything that I can recall. Although, she wasn't in the pictures. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Candid Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 Your situation is more unique, but in truth the answer is still the same: whatever the bride wants you to wear. If you have time take her shopping with you, show her the pants. Buy whatever she wants you to wear and don't give the slightest hint you don't like it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plateau Mama Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 My mother wore a pantsuit. I approved it. The only persn that had an issue with it was my MIL and, well, she was looking for things to have issues over. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 I cannot see why this wouldn't be ok unless you are in a dress only church. I would have never thought to dictate what my mom and mil wore. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 DS's wedding is 1 month from today and I really need help figuring out what to wear. The bride already lives with us (she's the DD in my sig) and there's a very high chance that nobody from her family will be attending. It's a daytime semi-formal church wedding with reception following at the same location. The bride is wearing a floor length, strapless gown w/o a train. The groom is wearing a zoot suite with purple vest and tie. The best man is wearing dress blues. The maid of honor is wearing a dark purple knee-length dress. The ushers and FOG are wearing dress pants with a white shirt and purple ties, no jackets (I don't think). I have a pair of black palazza pants like these, which I absolutely LOVE. Do you think anything would think oddly of me if I wore pants paired with a dressy blouse, something like this or this? DD doesn't care what color I wear, or really even what I wear, as long as I'm happy with it. I'd like to go with something neutral in gray or silver or a light shade of purple. My budget is $50-80. I should add that I absolutely *hate* dresses. I'm pretty sure the last time I wore a dress was at my own wedding. Work your magic please, Hive, and give me some more suggestions! Generally, IMHO, dresses are still more appropriate for weddings than pants, because a wedding is just that special. :-) However, given the attire of the FOG and ushers, I think the kind of pants you have are fine. The second top you linked is dressier; I'd go with that. FTR, you are under no obligation to get the bride's approval. :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JuanitaL Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 I love those pants! Can you find some less expensive ones for me? I had no idea what MOG could mean - sometimes my mind wants to think of some far out there explanation for the thread titles and I just draw a blank. Not enough imagination. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bolt. Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 Those type of pants are formal wear, and will be fine -- try to be a little extra dressy in terms of jewelry and/or hairstyle just to put the cherry on top of the 'these are not my everyday pants' look. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 Go for it. Those pants are likely to look like a long skirt in the photos anyway. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hunter's Moon Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 My mother wore pants to my wedding and I could not care less. She wore a very nice blue sweater. I think the second shirt looks more MOG-ish. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bobbeym Posted April 11, 2013 Author Share Posted April 11, 2013 Thanks y'all. It's nice to feel validated and not overly strange for a change. I did ask the bride what she wants me to wear and her response still remains the same: whatever you like and want to wear. She won't even tell her maid of honor/best friend what to wear, other than that her dress has to be purple. She did tell DS that she had veto rights on his outfit b/c he's a little odd so that made sense. (She did approve of his suit with an eye roll.) At one point I had made a comment about *not* wanting to wearing purple since the bridal party will be in purple, and she looked aghast that I wouldn't wear something in my favorite color simply b/c it would match them! :lol: My mom called me to meet her for a lunch time shopping spree and I found a cute blouse from K&G. I'll have to take a picture to share since it's not on their website, but it's a short sleeve tunic with shirring that's made out of the same fabric as my dress pants. The tag said it was 'lavender' but it's really more of a light purple taupe so it should compliment well. I think it'll do just fine if I dress it up with some chunky sparkly jewelry and heels. If not, I still have a nice blouse for work and time to find something else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 I did ask the bride what she wants me to wear and her response still remains the same: whatever you like and want to wear. She won't even tell her maid of honor/best friend what to wear, other than that her dress has to be purple. She did tell DS that she had veto rights on his outfit b/c he's a little odd so that made sense. (She did approve of his suit with an eye roll.) At one point I had made a comment about *not* wanting to wearing purple since the bridal party will be in purple, and she looked aghast that I wouldn't wear something in my favorite color simply b/c it would match them! :lol: Clearly, your future dil was brought up properly. :thumbup: This bodes well for your future grandchildren. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Candid Posted April 11, 2013 Share Posted April 11, 2013 I would have never thought to dictate what my mom and mil wore. I would like to believe that you are the norm, but there is evidence to the contrary. Some brides can be very controlling. It sounds like this one is not which is an excellent sign for more things than just the wedding. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bobbeym Posted April 12, 2013 Author Share Posted April 12, 2013 Clearly, your future dil was brought up properly. :thumbup: This bodes well for your future grandchildren. :D I would like to believe that you are the norm, but there is evidence to the contrary. Some brides can be very controlling. It sounds like this one is not which is an excellent sign for more things than just the wedding. DD is an absolute doll. She grew up in an overly harsh, abusive, manipulative household as a young girl. She got away from the physical abuse, but the emotional abuse and manipulation continued until last year. Her mom used to think it was funny to hide the pain meds she used to have to take for severe back problems. :cursing: <--That was me when she lived there. But even through all that, she has turned into a beautiful and sweet young lady with a heart for the Lord. She and DS met when they were 11 and started "dating" when they were 12. Even at that age, it was obvious there was something special there. She moved away to CA when she was 14 and both kids were *devastated*. All I could do was hold my own boy in my arms while he cried on my shoulder, telling him if it was truly meant to be they'd find they way back to each other. By the time they were 15.5, they had reconnected and spent the next 2.5 years texting non-stop as they solidified their friendship. I remember one month DS had 55K+ texts on his phone bill and 99% of them were to or from her. We made plans for her to move in with us once she turned 18 (I wouldn't have put it past her mom to charge us with kidnapping had we moved her down sooner) and flew her down for DS's high school grad last year. She's lived with us since 5/31/12 so she KNOWS what she's getting herself into by marrying into this family, but she still wants to be one of us. :hurray: I absolutely adore her and have considered her one of my own since before I even picked her up from the airport. P.S.: Here's the picture of my new blouse. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted April 12, 2013 Share Posted April 12, 2013 Love the blouse. What a terrible life for your dil, and what a blessing you are to her!!! It is apparently your training and not her bio-donors' that is making her into such a well-mannered young woman. Congratulations, in more way than one. :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted April 12, 2013 Share Posted April 12, 2013 Absolutely. I think the second top is much more appropriate, and would look better w/ the pants. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SunnyDays Posted April 12, 2013 Share Posted April 12, 2013 The pants are lovely, any of the tops will look fabulous, and it sounds like not only is DD lucky to have your family, but you are blessed to have her as well! Enjoy the wedding and best wishes to ALL of you! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crimson Wife Posted April 12, 2013 Share Posted April 12, 2013 Personally, I think it would depend on the material of the pants. There are dressy pants that would look fine paired with the blouse and there are pants that are too casual for a wedding IMHO. I have a pair of dressy pants that I wear with a silver cardigan similar to the one in your original post . OTOH, I have several pairs of black pants that I wouldn't wear to a formal event because the material is more casual-looking. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JennyD Posted April 12, 2013 Share Posted April 12, 2013 What shoes are you going to wear? Dressy, strappy, heels with pants and a blouse can be a great look for a formal event, IMO. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bobbeym Posted April 12, 2013 Author Share Posted April 12, 2013 What shoes are you going to wear? Dressy, strappy, heels with pants and a blouse can be a great look for a formal event, IMO. Most likely a silver sandal. Unfortunately, I wear a 9-9.5 wide and can't wear above a 3" heel so the shoe seach won't come easy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyinTN Posted April 12, 2013 Share Posted April 12, 2013 I think you will look lovely in the pants and dressy top. Congratulations to your kids! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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