Heather in Neverland Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 I just need to vent, whine, cry... Whatever. Trying to get an immigrant visa for my daughter has been such a long and emotionally draining experience. The paperwork, the money, the obscure details... I am so over it. Every time we think we are near the end, the U.S. government throws us another curveball. We have an appointment on Jan. 10 at the embassy for her "interview" and if all goes well we "should" get a visa for her so we can go to the states for a visit and she will FINALLY get to meet her family. But before she could get this appointment she had to have a BOATLOAD of vaccinations...not just the regular schedule, but a whole bunch of the ones that are usually optional for a child. She has been stuck so many times. And we had to cram them all in a much shorter time than I would normally do. I have been so scared that she would have a negative reaction from all these shots but luckily, she has been ok (although she did get a really high fever from one of them). At any rate, we finally got them all and took her to the embassy-approved doctor for her final check up and he tells us that the U.S. has now added ANOTHER vaccination to the schedule. I know it isn't the end of the world but for some reason it was all I could do to not burst into tears right there. ANOTHER vaccine?!? And another follow up visit. And more paperwork. And more money. And more waiting. I just can't bear to see her little face scrunch up with tears AGAIN. The last time we took her she started crying as soon as we pulled into the parking lot. She has had so many shots in the last 6 months. It makes me sick to my stomach. I know it isn't the worst thing. I know people face worse problems. I know it will all be worth it in the end. BLAH BLAH BLAH I don't care about all that right now. All I care about is my poor little overly-vaccinated baby girl. I need this to be over. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Amber in AUS Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 Oh Heather, I can truly sympathise Possum has had at least 1 needle every month this year, 4 just last week! It sucks, big time! I really hope that the VISA comes through for Natalie. Hugs, it is such an emotionally charged time, to be so close but still so far away. Thinking of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freerange Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hikin' Mama Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 :grouphug: I'm so sorry they are making this so difficult! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen in PA Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alessandra Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 :grouphug: I hope it works out in the end and you get your visit before too much more time passes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dana Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 I am so sorry this hasn't been settled by now. :grouphug: What a major pain in so many ways. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Lucy in Australia Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 Oh, I feel for you :crying: Praying that this is the last hurdle. And an extra :grouphug::001_wub: for your beautiful girl. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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JessReplanted Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 That sounds so frustrating, and absolutely exhausting. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 my poor dd had all kinds of vaccinations in China. They even left scar tissue, and there were a LOT of tiny hard balls of scar tissue. We got back to the states and they wanted to vaccinate her. I said NO WAY, check her titers. She had NOTHING in her system and had to be vaccinated all over again, and at an accelerated rate! I remember that pain, all those needle sticks, all the crying, the fevers. It was AWFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Her TB vaccination given in China was an open, oozing wound for almost a year after I got her. I feel for you. It is SO hard to watch a tiny little one go through all that pain. But I know it has to happen. We had to sign papers saying we would vaccinate in order to adopt. My dd is fine now and doesn't fear doctors like she used to. She's almost 9. I'm sure your dd will also lose her fears. She'll forget all of this! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teachin'Mine Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 :grouphug: Do you have a sympathetic doctor who could write a note that another vaccine isn't advisable at this time as she spiked a fever recently from a different vaccine? Not sure if there's any legal way out of it, but I sure wish there was. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 So sorry. I know how hard that "one more 'little' thing" can be :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EKS Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 :grouphug: (I just looked at your blog for the first time since you adopted your daughter and was amazed to see that you no longer have a baby girl. She's gotten so big! What a beautiful family you have!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 :grouphug: (I just looked at your blog for the first time since you adopted your daughter and was amazed to see that you no longer have a baby girl. She's gotten so big! What a beautiful family you have!) Forget the kids...everyone should go look at Heather in a sari! You look amazing!!! I hope everything works out with your DD! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 I am so sorry...it does sound so very close, now!! I know a little about the long and very, very frustrating visa/immigration process. My son married a young lady from Canada, and once she applied for her visa, she was not even allowed in the U.S. for 1.5 years (even for a quick visit), until it was approved. My son had to go through so many hoops to get that visa. And this is just from Canada! My daughter is marrying a wonderful young man from Costa Rica. He tried to get just a tourist visa, twice, to come up for a week and visit my husband after he'd had his stroke. He was denied, even though he had a good job in Costa Rica, a home, etc. (In other words, he wasn't at risk to try and immigrate here illegally.) I can't imagine how difficult it will be for him to get a residence visa to live here... We've heard it will take years! Our daughter-in-law was granted her visa on the same day as her final interview; hopefully it will go the same for your sweet daughter! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in Neverland Posted December 10, 2011 Author Share Posted December 10, 2011 Forget the kids...everyone should go look at Heather in a sari! You look amazing!!! I hope everything works out with your DD! :grouphug: Thank you! But I have to give my amah the credit... She designed the sari, bargained for the price and dressed me. I can only imagine the tangled mess I would have been if I tried to put that sari on by myself! :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in Neverland Posted December 10, 2011 Author Share Posted December 10, 2011 :grouphug: (I just looked at your blog for the first time since you adopted your daughter and was amazed to see that you no longer have a baby girl. She's gotten so big! What a beautiful family you have!) She will be two this month on the 26th! Hard to believe how fast time flies... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 My dd is a teen, but she arrived having had only 4 vax. I was afraid it was gong to be a lot more. Things have changed! I hope this gets set soon and you can show off your babe to family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nakia Posted December 10, 2011 Share Posted December 10, 2011 ARGH!!! How frustrating, Heather. I am so so so sorry!!! :grouphug: for you and :grouphug: for sweet Natalie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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