Heather in Neverland Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 So the failed adoption hit me pretty hard and I have spent the last few days feeling really sorry for myself...wallowing in my sadness...I couldn't even bear to come on here and read about how you were all praying for me because it was just too hard. They have decided to give the baby to a hindu family. My prayer now is that somehow that baby will hear the truth of Christ sometime in her life even though she will be raised in a non-christian family. So it is time for the pity party to be over. I do not know why this happened except perhaps to open our family's heart to the possibility of adopting while here in Malaysia. It was not something we had really considered before and now we know that it is a real possibility. The original call about the baby through us for a loop. I was excited, dh was apprehensive but excited. We both had a lot of what-if and how-will-we questions. But in the end our hearts said yes to the idea of a baby. So we have informed the orphanage that we would like to be considered for other opportunities if they should present themselves. Until then, we will continue to help and minister to these orphanages in any way we can. This has been a lesson in trusting God and we want to glorify Him with our response to this situation (my pity party was NOT the way to do that). The Lord gives and the Lord takes away. Blessed be the name of the Lord. Thank you for all of your kind words and prayers. And anyone who would like to continue to pray with me that God would send another child to our family, I would appreciate it. Blessed Be Your Name In the land that is plentiful Where Your streams of abundance flow Blessed be Your name Blessed Be Your name When I'm found in the desert place Though I walk through the wilderness Blessed Be Your name Blessed be Your name When the sun's shining down on me When the world's 'all as it should be' Blessed be Your name Blessed be Your name On the road marked with suffering Though there's pain in the offering Blessed be Your name Every blessing You pour out I'll turn back to praise When the darkness closes in, Lord Still I will say Blessed be the name of the Lord Blessed be Your name Blessed be the name of the Lord Blessed be Your glorious name You give and take away You give and take away My heart will choose to say Lord, blessed be Your name Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CAMom Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 Big :grouphug:, Heather... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
muffinmom Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Let not your heart be troubled. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PineFarmMom Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 :grouphug::grouphug: I'm humbled by your Christ-like response and the choice to praise God even while hurting!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 I'm so sorry. I know your heart was open and welcoming this child, this blessing. You are in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
********* Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 James 1:2-4 My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing. Heather, I can *so identify with your desire to have another child. My boys and my stepdaughter are the delights of my life. Still, I long for another. And because of a foolish decision my dh and I made before we were saved, having another biological child is very unlikely. Bless you, dear Sister. The Lord hears your cries, and will answer them in His way, in His time. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adrianne in TX Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I have not posted much and not to you directly, your love of God is a beacon for all that follow the Lord-human weakness allows us to stumble, God picks us up, but a part of that is allowing God's will and you do that in all you live.....We pray for you, for her and your family Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
susancollins Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 I will pray for you and your family. We have one daughter and two sons. We would love to have another child and my daughter wants a sister. We have also been considering adoption. If you need someone to talk to you can PM me. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1bassoon Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 :grouphug: to you, dear one. Prayers, too. Thank you for glorifying Christ. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denise in IN Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 :grouphug: Praying that God will provide for your family in His perfect way and time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Inna* Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garga Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 Oh, I do so hate gut-wrenching disappointment. It feels so bad. So so so bad. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickenpatty Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 :grouphug: And thanks for sharing the words of that song. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newbie Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dayle in Guatemala Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 :grouphug:Heather, God hears the cries of our hearts. He will answer. I'm going to continue to pray. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 :grouphug::grouphug:Heather:grouphug::grouphug: That news makes me sad too. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovemywhirlygirls Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 I will definitely continue to pray for you, your dh and your sons. I am so sorry for the unbelievable pain and disappointment, but I am struck with your passion to come alongside this orphanage and to hope for a daughter. My pastor always says (not sure if it's "his" or if he borrowed this from someone else)... "If you can't follow God's hand....trust His heart." That certainly doesn't explain why this happened the way it did, but I think it's right. I also think of the C.S. Lewis quote in The Lion, The Witch and The Wardrobe...about how God isn't "safe", but He is good. Thank you for sharing this part of your life with us. It's a privilege to ache with you and to pray for you. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hillfarm Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 I have prayed for you regarding this situation. When you mentioned in a previous post how you just didn't understand why God had allowed a situation that got your hopes up only to have them dashed, I was reminded of myself. I was experiencing a similar crisis a few years ago when it finally came to me after weeks of prayer and meditation that perhaps sometimes the things that happen to me are not about me. Perhaps in those cases I am merely an instrument that God chooses to use to work at that time in someone else's life. Possibly associated with something not at all related to the thing on which I am focusing. You mentioned that you are praying that this child may someday hear the Gospel and her family also. This might have been all about her and them and God wanted your intercessory prayers to be the aroma that started the chain of events that will bring that to pass. Just a thought. HTH Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JenniferB Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 Heather, That is the song that ministered to me the most when our 4th child died in my womb. Blessed be His name. I'm so sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amber in AUS Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 My thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katemary63 Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 It's okay to have a pity party...for a time....for a little while...to grieve and to be sad for yourself. But then you move on and look for the lessons and toward the future and that's what you've done. God bless you. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tex-mex Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 No words for you, hon... just hugs. :grouphug::grouphug: Hang in there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sugarfoot Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 Praying for you and your family. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted December 31, 2009 Share Posted December 31, 2009 I'm not the praying type, but I send my best wishes and hopes anyway. :grouphug: Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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