No Scarlett, but IMO choosing to put a space between drug addicted family members and elderly family members is not shutting them out in the cold. It sounds like they want to help but do not want responsibility for a pit bull or drugs (and the people they attract) on their property. In my family we had a similar but different situation. Grandson moved in with disabled grandpa who was unable to walk and had full time caregivers. It was to " Help him out" and the only requirement was he mow the yard. DH and I found out he was selling drugs out of the house. Having druggie people in and out all hours of the night, putting grandpa and caregivers in danger. We called the aunts and uncles, but no one wanted to "hurt the feelings" of the one struggling. Long story short- cops came, big mess, he moved out. Eventually he got cleaned up and now he's a decent guy with a job, a wife, and two kids. It's okay to choose to help but put up boundaries. I think it helps TO have those boundaries. Asking for drugs and the company they bring to not be on your property isn't saying they want this young man to be out on the street. Clearly they want to help and so do Scarlett and her DH. The question is how to help but not enable. There is also the question of keeping everyone else safe. They shouldn't be put at risk to help this young man. Right now drugs are an epidemic in our country. I don't know a single family who hasn't been touched by them. We both have cousins who are addicts. We don't let them around our children or in our homes. We wish they would get clean and stay clean! But we cannot force that to happen.

Thinking of you today 🩷🙏

I consider is a multi-generation family farm ;) I live one one, too. I know lots of families who do. It works out great as long as everyone is pulling some weight. It can even be helpful when a loved one gets into a rough spot to help them get back on their feet. Drug use on the property would be a hard NO from me. Person would be asked to leave. Of the options you've mentioned, I would move the RV to an RV park. This still let's mom and other family members help, but gets him and the dog off the property. Drugs and mental illness are hard. I don't know that there can be any help until he wants to get clean.

Make it into 2 distinct sections- bedroom area in the corner, work or Reading area where the dog crate is. This is a lot of doors- can you block any off with a chair? I would keep decor light and probably add some lamps.

Mine just moved in yesterday and starts class tomorrow. I'm really excited for her- no tears! She's not too far away and her campus is small and homey. I think she will come home most weekends for now- not a lot going on on campus and it's going to be 100+ all week, so probably too much time in her dorm (she's a farm kid used to being outside).

I have two boys about the same age and I don't think they currently have any goals beyond a video game level or being rich one day 😆 I think that's totally normal! When I talk about goals I usually talk about stepping stones. No one gets across a creek with just one big leap, but most people can get across by using stepping stones and each step represents progress.

I think what you did was fine, but it would also have been fine to speak to her. I would assume she wants a little closure with you, a way to say that she's sorry it didn't work out and she still likes you. Either way- no offense on anyone's part that I can see. Dating is a time of getting to know each other and kids change soooo much at this age!

I wouldn't say I have a favorite, but my kids think I do. She's my easy one! The one who doesn't get into trouble. That's not to say she's perfect or never in need of a talking-to. It's just that usually she listens and changes her behavior- often times with just a look or a word. I think they assume she's my favorite just because she's rarely in trouble. I also have one that has been more difficult her entire life. I love that kid! Soooo incredibly much! But she makes it so hard on everyone. I wish it were different, but I'm starting to give up hope. I'm sad that our relationship will have space. I'm really sad that her siblings have sort of written her off in a lot of ways. I wanted them to be close, but personality wise its just won't happen. It isn't a rift really, just a space. I hope that as she matures (currently 20) she will realize her behavior pushes everyone away. I don't think she does it on purpose, it's just her first instinct. Always has been. It's hard to be a parent- you want to treat kids equally, but equality is a myth. Each kid comes to you with a different personality, they need different types of structure, discipline, and correction. Some are much easier than others. Some are difficult babies, then terrific toddlers. Some are easy babies and difficult preschoolers. Some teens are easy, some really butt heads. We just have to do our best. Having a favorite isn't helpful. I think we need to try to give each kid what he or she needs- and that's different for each kid at each stage.

I keep checking in for your updates. Praying you get answers and help soon- sounds like this team is prepared! My heart aches for your boys and DH as well- this has to be so hard on them.

I have been putting stuff back as I'll have 2 or 3 in college the next 6 or 7 years. I would send a set of 2-4 of each item.

You have so much on your plate! If you didn't have to Teach, I'd say sign up and see how it goes. This one seems like a bigger commitment than you want to make. Can you sign up, try to see how it goes, and if it doesn't work out just quit or skip quite a bit?

This just went into my Amazon cart! My kids would love this game, sort of like Apples to Apples.

Happy you are home and recovering. School.starting a month late will not be any problem at all, so I suggest you not even try. This last year I had to quit about 3 weeks before my planned date due to medical stiff in the family. It happens. I'm not suggesting you stop schooling, just put off the date until you are better. Another suggestion is to watch educational TV together and just read.

Oh no! Hoping Covid I'd over quickly and you can get the right medical care! This is so scary.

Have you asked your local Health Department? Ours did one for very cheap. They don't file with insurance, but it was so cheap I didn't care. Plus you have to go 2x- once fir the injection and once for them to see the skin.

My husband always says better that they know you make love than to have them hear you fighting! I would ignore that it ever happened.

Continuing to check on this thread and pray for you and your family.

Maybe I will come across as a book banner, but I have thought for a LONG time that books should have ratings just like movies and video games do. Every program on TV will give the rating and why " Rated P-13, nudity and violence " so then parents can decide if that's okay or not. Why are books not the same? I have picked up books before and was totally disgusted- I wish they had a rating to warn me! I don't want to read a gay romance book- not my thing. Knowing in advance, I wouldn't have picked it. I don't have time to look through every book my kids read, I don't even preview my own books. I tried to check on the Good Sense Media website with my oldest, but she would read 15 books a week! In my book-rating program, I would also have categories for different levels of violence- like Hunger Games or Matilda- both include violence, but one is very cartoonist, the other realistic. I don't think this would prevent kids from reading inappropriate books, but it would give parents and schools a place to start from. Plenty of kids are still watching horror movies and playing that Auto Theft game with the prostitutes in it, but at least there is a warning on them for the parents paying attention.

Both mine waited until Sr year to have scheduled hourly wage jobs. They did do odd jobs, like cleaning houses, elder care, and babysitting - those jobs they arranged the timing around their school and activities.

I'm sorry it's taking so long. I do wonder if the current state of things is cooling the market. I wouldn't pull it off quite yet- give it another week or so. FWIW I have a few realtors on my FB page and I consider any post with a house on it as free advertising- your house is getting more views.

I would (and did) go with a real laptop. There is usually information on the school's website about tech requirements. You may want to look at the individual colleges or degree areas for more info. If she is just going to be doing Gen Ed's, she might not need anything for a while. With my oldest, who was juggling degree ideas, we sent her with an older laptop until she knew what she needed. Ended up with an iPad and a gaming quality laptop by Christmas. Second already has a gaming laptop for her hobbies (editing, videography), and recently got an iPad. For most Gen Ed classes an iPad will do anything she needs.

For my math-hater I sat with her for one hour every day all the way through 11th grade. I'm not going to say it was fun, and she does hate math, but she's proficient. I remember that suddenly things that were challenging did click in middle school- like a brain wiring thing. I always tried to make math a thing you just have to know to adult- no options. For some years we used a white board- I worked the problem, and so did she, and then we compared. I think this really helped. I also did a lot of talking out my thinking. "I'm looking for surface area. That means the area of all the sides of the object. This object has 8 sides. (Writing out) Top, Bottom, Side 1, Side 2, Side 3. Top and bottom are an equilateral triangle- (find area- write in correct space). " and continue until I had every part of the problem. If possible, I would draw a picture- that seemed to help a lot. Slow and steady! We just stayed on Grade level, 9th grade was Algebra 1. That's not behind, that's average and still gives plenty of time to learn high school math.

I've used Oak Meadow with my older 2. This year I'm teaching it at co-op and I'm still working on the syllabus, but hope to cover: 1. Basic body systems- problem solving how different activities affect your body's functions. Going into greater depth with a bit of chemistry. 2. Basic first-aid, CPR, vital signs. What medications do in our bodies, basic medications people use. 3. Mental health awareness, when to get help, positive habits 4. Nutrition- how food is broken up and used in your body. How it's stored. Importance of specific vitamins and minerals in keeping you healthy. 5. Exercise- (I Doubt I have enough time for this) focus on cardiovascular health, easy routines to implement, importance of strong muscles in preventing injury.

Word Roots by Critical Thinking Company or Wordly Wise would be my suggestion instead of Spelling, especially for a kid who excells at it. As for diagramming, is there a reason she still needs to? I usually skip grammar in 9th grade and focus on writing. Then do a grammar review in 10th grade, with a focus on how it relates on standardized tests. If Fix It gets s bit of grammar in daily, she likes it, then just stick with it. I've got a 7th grader who insists on grammar and spelling every year, even though she could easily skip those subjects, so I keep the books light so they only take a few minutes a day.

I wish I could answer, but it really depends on the school. The math score is low, but the others are really good! I would probably have my own kid re-take after a few months of math prep. You do have a bit of time to prep- but will your kid actually prep, or is she just over it? Sometimes Seniors have just moved on. A few other thoughts with that score- she will still need to pass College Algebra, no matter the degree. I would encourage Math Sr year. If she is close to a merit cut-off, a few points could be worth a lot of money. Some schools allow you to keep testing to up your score for merit. Best of luck!