OP, thanks for the photos; I loved them esp. the jar of hot dogs.

My mom loves pickled bologna. It's disgusting, but she loves it; when we were station in KY it was her favorite B-day gift ever.

Oh, you poor dear. It is pretty awful to fear a stylist. I forgot to mention that my cut is totally different on each side; it's like I have two different hair cuts, but I'm chicken to go have it fixed.

I think the cut looks great on you btw. In fact I'd like to grow my hair out to that cut, but it will take some time. I'm here growing out my worst cut ever, ever, ever :scared: . It was April 9th and for weeks, I was stunned to actually hate my hair. It was a short, freaky layered cut, that a new girl textureized to death and did I mention it was crazy short. She styled and curled it before I left (it looked ridiculous, like I laughed when I looked at it) and I like an idiot thought it was the fact that she curled it. (I have straight hair and never curl it btw.) The guy that regularly cuts my hair moved to another salon :confused1: . I found him and he fixed it, but it was pretty much beyond fixing; it needed time to grow out. So, it's been a long 77 days and now my hair is chin length. Now I can look in the mirror without crying or laughing.

Don't worry about button up shirts, for the most part, just avoid sports or college teams. Any base-ball cap will stick out pretty much btw.

Loved the pic. Congratulations!

Ecco has some funky colored tennis shoes that would be comfy, last a long time and look at home over seas. (I'm mentioning this, because sometimes, you just need a sport shoe.)

I love Ecco shoes because they are so darn comfortable, even after wearing them all day. Clarks are my second fav, but they don't feel as good at the end of the day.

I agree with the others, just tell him you love him.

Hi, Jann :seeya: . What a wonderful mission.

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Congratulations...He is adorable.

I'm another one who would have said something and insisted on watching them swim myself if the parent wouldn't. I do try to be kind with my words and say something about my concerns. I'm often surprised at how so many people think accidents are somehow planned or only happen to non-obedient children.

I don't thinks shorts are appropriate for a wedding. I'd go with a light weight khaki and a button down or polo.

Rude, rude, rude. I'd be tempted to pull out a book and read or tell them I'll catch them later when they're free to focus. Oh, and I don't think it's rude to quickly take family calls or work things, but they should be short and sweet.

I would have offered to help and not taken no for an answer. That is dangerous.

Cool, thanks for the link.

Vinegar can work. I've used it with baking soda and let it foam, then rinse. (Try a spot to be sure what ever you use doesn't pull color from the carpet.) A can of Lysol is another option.

Both names are beautiful, but reading Clare Bernadette...I like that one.

Senior services may have the information you need for your state; I'd check on-line first and go from there. When you get to the meeting stage, prepare your heart for the spouse not to agree with your findings. A neutral third party is a very good idea along with an agenda to keep the conversation focused. There is a possibility the spouse is correct and it isn't dementia; the evaluation will help the loved one either way and that's the goal. The spouse might be open to you writing up the symptoms and concerns; then you might be able to e-mail them before hand to the office, eliminating the worry of remembering them during the visit. This would also allow the doctor to prepare for the exam and lessen the stress on your parents. (I'm thinking this is your parents and sorry if I'm wrong.)

Oh, I hope I didn't add to your stress here; I believe your heart is in the right place. :grouphug: I've had experience working within the family dynamic of a spouse burying their head in the sand, while their loved one needed medical treatment. Even with the best of intentions, the spouse often will not cooperate if they don't feel in charge and that just leads to more heartache and problems for everyone. The medical system is set up to put the spouse in charge (in most cases) and getting them on board just makes life easier all around.

I would have a meeting outside the home with the spouse and family first and focus on helping them reach out and get help. I'd bring information and go out of my way to be reassuring and offer to help with questions, medical appointments and calls. Going around the spouse is likely to cause additional stress in the home and family' I would only go this route after working with the spouse. :grouphug: Dementia is awful. I think addressing the driving issue wouldn't be that difficult. Call the DMV or even the non-emergency police and get their recommendations.

You might try a combo of fabrics. I'd run a few small tests with a quilt-block sized prototype and a glass of warm water. Double make the bed once you find the right dry-pad. That way you or he can just strip the top layer of bedding and have a dry set already on the bed for the night.

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I think your son is blessed to have you able to speak honestly with kindness of his father. So many kids suffer under the burden one parent places on them for loving their own parent. I also think minimal information to your son is all that is necessary.