Oh, he's a beauty... "Now listen to your mom little one and turn into the perfect birth position soon."

I'm pretty shocked they would have that question on the application. Victims of abuse go through so much throughout their lives and this just feels so wrong to even ask.

:grouphug: I agree with sending a card care of your dad, and asking him if you have any questions.

It's almost summer, is there any chance of hiring a mothers helper? Any possiblity of moving the nap time to when your dh gets home or him running in for lunch and allowing you a short rest time? :grouphug: Remember this too shall pass and find time to rest up when ever possible.

It's just heartbreaking. My thoughts and prayers go out to everyone in the area.

I think your DVD gift idea is probably the best option.

:grouphug: I was blessed with one early bird, and one that never like mornings; that worked out for the best around here.

It sounds like you may have to close the door to discussing your educational and privilege choices you and your dh make for your ds. The book, BOUNDARIES by Cloud and Townsend - is such a great tool for setting healthy limits with extended family. Imo, it also helps you/me with not feeling guilty for wanting them. I'm sorry to hear about your dog, and that your dad choose that conversation to push his agenda.

I don't know the answer to your question, but my state is already pretty darn regulated; it rates pretty high on HSLDA's site or at least it did way back when I checked.

I think it depends on how close you are. If it was someone I didn't know very well, I'd go with asking a generic question as to how she is, but if we were close, I would definitely say I was sorry and ask what I could do. One of my dear friends divorced this year, and I was very sorry because I knew and loved her, and had been there for her while she was trying to save her marriage. Your friend hasn't changed her status and that leads me to think she may not be ready to open herself up to fielding inquiries at this time. The best thing to do would be to listen to what she says and just follow her lead.

Well, my local Target had a decent selection of them; everything from wire, no-wire, lift, to soft cup and they were all $16-16.99. They were labeled by Warner, right on the top of the store hanger/liner paper cover and tag. I picked up one in my size, and will try it on tomorrow. In all honesty, it looks pretty much exactly like the others I've paid more for. Tip...Kohls, often has sales of Warner of up to 30% off and with a store coupon, they can be taken for around $20-24.

Wow, you just made my day. I am going to go to Target right now to check them out.

I think the counselor's advice is pretty good and it gives you a little reassurance that you are making the best choice for your ds now. Your ds has a lot to deal with and the more maturity he gains before getting into the middle of her chaotic life the better. Maybe knowing he is going to be mad at you and your dh at first can prepare you for his temper-blowup to try to manipulate you to his side. Ill be praying the discussion and his acceptance goes well. Some days being a good parent is really, really hard. :grouphug: I agree with keeping a record of her calls, emails etc is a very good idea. And I also hope your ds, can find some understanding and acceptance of her limitations and mental illness to know that she isn't able to follow through on many ideas or promises, and that he can honor and love her without giving in to her.

Rose, can you talk to the counselor alone and get some advice for how to proceed? I'm with you questioning the summer trip. I know it may not be ideal, but flying the mom into a neutral place or your city might be a better option or simply delaying a trip. He comments about her time is a very big red flag to me.

:grouphug: I missed this, but hope you find yourself with excellent care and pain relief soon.

Oh, Rose...I'm just so sorry. It doesn't sound like they have his best interest at heart, and I hope he doesn't end up getting hurt by their requests and lack of empathy for his overall situation. I think not purchasing the ticket is the right decision as well as accompanying him there. Hopefully with time and a lot of love he can come to peace with everyone. I'll be praying for you guys here. :grouphug:

:grouphug: I'm happy to hear the surgery is over and went well. Continued prayers for complete healing.

:grouphug: Big hug for you, and a Shrug for her... Every child I've ever known has gone through growing pains regardless of where they get their education. If your ds was having the same issues and in ps; I'm 99.9% positive no one would suggest pulling him out and home schooling or private schooling him. My advice (fwiw) take a deep breath and soldier on. Also expect as your children get older, more and more people in your life (even people at Walmart) will happily offer their unsolicited advice and opinions. You may need to develop a rhino-skin. kwim?

I think admitting how you feel will be fine. Hopefully he could have a qualified full time helper-assistant to ensure he does fine. (His mom or dad could easily fill this role or may have ideas of who would.) Personally, I'd much rather hear a difficult truth or speak it than have a child end up in danger. :grouphug:

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:grouphug: I'll pray here. :grouphug:

I think you sound like a wonder help. Don't forget the bathrooms; they're easy to clean and she'll just think you take a while in there.

:grouphug: prayers :grouphug:

The woman was rude, I would never be offended by boys in the ladies room. Personally, it depends on the kid and the restroom.

It doesn't sound like she is actually a friend to me. Personally, it sounds like your friendship died a long time ago regardless of the other woman. Listen to her actions, not her text and allow yourself to grieve and move on. I'm really sorry this has been so hurtful to you. Congratulations on that new baby...I would hold it btw, and you would have to ask to get the little one back. I miss babies.