lewelma Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luckymama Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 Good lord!!!!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ethel Mertz Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 Yikes! I'd be mad too! I can see this conversation happening about our DS as well. I think you did well at keeping your cool during the conversation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arcadia Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 That sounds very judgmental on a teen. Does she expect him to be dating? :huh: He can get a job at CERN :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quark Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 :cursing: :cursing: Seriously, some people don't have any filters do they? Ugh. But how lovely for that neighbor of yours? So sweet of him. :001_wub: She was totally inappropriate. :ack2: Hugs to you guys. I wish I could have you guys over here you know. You must PM me if you are planning a trip to CA. I think we'll have a whale of a time. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Woodland Mist Academy Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 ((Hugs)) Someone did something similar to us at a funeral, of all places.... So rude! ((Hugs)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arcadia Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 ((Hugs)) Someone did something similar to us at a funeral, of all places.... :grouphug: beyond rude Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hornblower Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 Thank heaven for people like this because otherwise comedy script writers would be at a loss. The clueless person who asks inappropriate nosy questions & keeps going in spite of all "Stop here. Road Ends. Danger. Cliffs Ahead." signs is a lot of fun to write....Awful to be on the other end of it though.I'm SO twitchy about this stuff now that we rarely answer any questions about my kids or their education or their plans. "oh you know, they're keeping busy, keeping options open, such fabulous kids & so creative with their opportunities..." I keep saying stuff that means nothing & then immediately ask them a question about their house/vacation/work/pets/mother's illness ... I have no clue what people think & how they try to fill in the blanks because we give out as little info as we can possibly get away with. My kids are also pretty good at deflecting & prevaricating.A few years ago I got sucked into what I thought was a generic info gathering q from a person who I innocently though was just curious about homeschooling... turned out they had strong negative opinions about homeschooling, came from a background of actively trying to undermine it & it was actually more of an ambush. It was a messy convo, esp since it was a high up in dh's company & we were at a work xmas party. Ugh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 Yikes! But a big hurrah for the neighbor who came to your son's defense. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grover Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 ugh, why do some people not get that this is rude? I am expecting several versions of this conversation over the Christmas period with various family members... and they wonder why we only see them at Christmas and don't stay long. I'm glad your son was ok with it, Ruth. Does he want to mentor an 8 year old maths geek down the other end of the country? I'm also super glad he got to see that there are adults in his life that will step up for him. Perhaps that lady needs some socialisation? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 Unbelievable! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IsabelC Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 Why? We can only guess at her motives, of course, but if I were forced to bet on it, I'd say it was a classic case of insecurity and defensiveness. Does she by any chance have a child who isn't very good at math? Or whom she would secretly like to home school but can't? Or maybe she herself feels shown up by your teen's talents and interests? I am sorry you and your son had to put up with her appallingly bad manners. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lewelma Posted December 20, 2014 Author Share Posted December 20, 2014 . Does he want to mentor an 8 year old maths geek down the other end of the country? I'll ask him! :001_smile: I wish I could have you guys over here you know. You must PM me if you are planning a trip to CA. I think we'll have a whale of a time. :grouphug: I'd love to. Coming to America in June and flying through CA! :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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regentrude Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 Give him a hug. I am sorry the crazy woman got to him. I have many friends who are theoretical physicists or mathematicians - and they are a lot of fun to hang out with. I know very few people in these circles I would describe as socially inept (actually only one person and I am fairly sure it has nothing to do with math/physics; I suspect he is on the ASD spectrum.) The stereotype is stupid. Being passionate about something is wonderful. FWIW, my DD only had a single same age friend for a few years - all her really close friends are several years older. There is absolutely no reason why kids should have to be with same age kids. Shared interests and passions are what makes friendships. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quark Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 :huh: Sees you as inferior? You? Inferior? :huh: Hmmm, she might need some help. About June... :hurray: we might be traveling but we can coordinate it...must make it work somehow. Would be such an honor to meet you at last. Please tell your DS, here, we think socially "inept" mathematicians are pretty cool. My DS would say "who wants to be normal and boring anyway?" :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arcadia Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 You are not suppose to fly through CA, you are suppose to plan a stopover :lol: It is still terribly bad manners on her part regardless of her personal views/opinions Martin Gardner is cool, so is Victoria Hart (ViHart). I think most teenagers go through a period of insecurity so just continue with positive pep talk. Did he do Jacobs Geometry? My kids were amused by the logical fallacies in the logic chapters. Being a mathematician does not equate to being socially inept. ETA: Back in the 80s, most of my middle school schoolmates thought that anyone in the gifted programme in the school has to be socially inept. They told me I was atypical when they found out I was in the programme after knowing me for close to a year but not what class I was in. Stereotypes die hard :p Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grover Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 :-( I hope it doesn't worry him too much. I tell my guys they won't be socially inept and a bit weird because of homeschooling / whatever interest their grandmother has decided is not ok this week. They'll be socially inept and a bit weird because DH and I are their parents and that stuff is genetic :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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texasmama Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 I think that rude person is the socially inept one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 I think that rude person is the socially inept one. :iagree: It is absolutely, in every way totally inappropriate to criticize. It is even more blasphemously inappropriate to criticize a kid to his face. She is not a teacher or a coach and she was not invited to give her opinion about either his academics or his social life. Tell your ds from me that this woman's manners are unbelievably bad and that is NO reflection on him. You might also tell her how inappropriate she was. Don't let it turn into another opportunity for her to rip at your son, either. The issue is not how you are parenting. The issue is how offensive it is to criticize a kid like that, right out of the blue. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kiana Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 "Oh, I think he is quite well-rounded. For example, his manners are so excellent that he hasn't yet pointed out that you're an obnoxious bitch who can't mind her own business." Ok, probably not. But I can dream. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IsabelC Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 Or maybe, "You're right. He's quite ill-rounded." (big wink at said teenager). And watch her run out of steam as her expected debate fails to materialize. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grover Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 "Oh, I think he is quite well-rounded. For example, his manners are so excellent that he hasn't yet pointed out that you're an obnoxious bitch who can't mind her own business." Ok, probably not. But I can dream. I cannot like this enough. If only we could behave the way we dream Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
desertflower Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 People are idiots. Hugs Tell him that we are proud of him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Mukmuk Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 Whoa! This is so socially unacceptable, I don't know where to begin. So sorry you and your son had to take that nonsense. How many people does it take to stop this woman! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 Ugh. I have a friend who has no filter and a great deal of "advice." I have told her 100 times NOT to question my parenting in front of my kids, but she still does it. I think my kids actually find it amusing to watch. But I don't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lewelma Posted December 20, 2014 Author Share Posted December 20, 2014 Thanks everyone. Nice to have a place to share. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lewelma Posted December 20, 2014 Author Share Posted December 20, 2014 Give him a hug. I am sorry the crazy woman got to him. I have many friends who are theoretical physicists or mathematicians - and they are a lot of fun to hang out with. I know very few people in these circles I would describe as socially inept (actually only one person and I am fairly sure it has nothing to do with math/physics; I suspect he is on the ASD spectrum.) The stereotype is stupid. Being passionate about something is wonderful. FWIW, my DD only had a single same age friend for a few years - all her really close friends are several years older. There is absolutely no reason why kids should have to be with same age kids. Shared interests and passions are what makes friendships. Thanks, Regentrude. I will tell him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lewelma Posted December 20, 2014 Author Share Posted December 20, 2014 :huh: Sees you as inferior? You? Inferior? :huh: Ah, quark, you are so good for my ego. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lewelma Posted December 20, 2014 Author Share Posted December 20, 2014 You are not suppose to fly through CA, you are suppose to plan a stopover :lol: How many of you guys live in CA? We should meet in Hawaii. :thumbup1: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chrysalis Academy Posted December 20, 2014 Share Posted December 20, 2014 We want to meet up with you, too!! Where in CA will you be? I love the Hawaii idea! :hurray: :hurray: And I missed whatever this horrible person said, but shame on her for making you or your son feel bad! You are both an inspiration to us! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kiwik Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 ugh, why do some people not get that this is rude? I am expecting several versions of this conversation over the Christmas period with various family members... and they wonder why we only see them at Christmas and don't stay long. I'm glad your son was ok with it, Ruth. Does he want to mentor an 8 year old maths geek down the other end of the country? I'm also super glad he got to see that there are adults in his life that will step up for him. Perhaps that lady needs some socialisation? And a 7 year old halfway in between? Well maybe in a few years. I missed what was said but I'm hoping it didn't upset your son too much. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeaConquest Posted December 21, 2014 Share Posted December 21, 2014 CA meetup! Woot! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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