mom@shiloh Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 Or am I the only one? Often I fight the impulse to come here and complain. It seems as if there's something about being more or less anonymous, that makes me crabbier on here than I am irl. If I would complain on here as much as I think about complaining, I think my on-line persona would be pretty negative. What do you think? Is it good to have a place to vent anonymously or does it just fuel the fire and make you dwell on negativity too much? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 Sometimes, yes. I try to stay positive overall, but geez, sometimes ya just gotta let it out! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 Yup! When I can't whine in real life, I use the internet. Bonus points because I often get excellent advice when I do it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 Right now I'm here because I'm mad and I'm checking out. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 I never complain here. :smilielol5: :smilielol5: :smilielol5: 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnE-girl Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 Sometimes. I remember posting here when my MIL was really annoying me when they were visiting. It was definitely more conducive to maintaining family harmony to say it here rather than IRL. They don't visit that often. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnE-girl Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 (edited) double post Edited February 27, 2017 by AnnE-girl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MiMi 4under3 Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 No. But I do come here to hear others whine! It helps me feel normal and like I'm not alone in dealing with whatever's being discussed / whined about. (Thank You to all the whiners :o :thumbup1: ) 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IfIOnly Posted February 28, 2017 Share Posted February 28, 2017 Not anymore, except for health stuff. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted February 28, 2017 Share Posted February 28, 2017 No. But I do come here to hear others whine! It helps me feel normal and like I'm not alone in dealing with whatever's being discussed / whined about. (Thank You to all the whiners :o :thumbup1: ) Tell the truth. You just come here to tell dog vomit stories about baby rats. :lol: 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MiMi 4under3 Posted February 28, 2017 Share Posted February 28, 2017 (edited) Tell the truth. You just come here to tell dog vomit stories about baby rats. :lol: Well, technically, I was merely stating a fact of what happened. :p Yeah, I guess I was thinking whining means complaining, or posting vents / JAWMS. (Which I enjoy reading because they are frequently also my own frustrations.) Edited February 28, 2017 by MiMi 4under3 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greta Posted February 28, 2017 Share Posted February 28, 2017 I am quite reserved and shy in real life and I make a conscious effort to stay positive. So I come here and say the things that I think but would normally otherwise never say. :001_smile: 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted February 28, 2017 Share Posted February 28, 2017 It depends. What time of the month is it? Or how much of a rut am I in? Many things I can take in stride or merely confide with hubby or my mom, but then there are those other things/times... And when it comes to health issues, I've found the Hive to be better than any other source I have. Do you want a complaint though? Today middle son told me all about a doctor I would love (one he's been shadowing). After seeing a patient she told him, "I'm not sure what it is, but we're going to look into it because I've found the patient always knows when something is "not right" and it's worth checking out." :svengo: He followed up by saying I'd love her personality too. So what's my complaint? She's 6 hours (one way) from where we live - hardly an option. (sigh) :glare: 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted February 28, 2017 Share Posted February 28, 2017 Yes, sometimes. Though I usually change my mind when I see how many others have bigger problems. :( 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arctic Bunny Posted February 28, 2017 Share Posted February 28, 2017 It depends. What time of the month is it? Or how much of a rut am I in? Many things I can take in stride or merely confide with hubby or my mom, but then there are those other things/times... And when it comes to health issues, I've found the Hive to be better than any other source I have. Do you want a complaint though? Today middle son told me all about a doctor I would love (one he's been shadowing). After seeing a patient she told him, "I'm not sure what it is, but we're going to look into it because I've found the patient always knows when something is "not right" and it's worth checking out." :svengo: He followed up by saying I'd love her personality too. So what's my complaint? She's 6 hours (one way) from where we live - hardly an option. (sigh) :glare: I flew 16 hours to get to my mom's house, then drove 3.5 hours, met the in laws, who drove 4 hours to watch the kids, while I went to the best doctor in the whole wide world. I would absolutely book an appointment, take a long weekend, and go. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted February 28, 2017 Share Posted February 28, 2017 Yes, sometimes. I had a whole essay devoted to my misery, saw that it was a total whinge and decided not to post. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dmmetler Posted February 28, 2017 Share Posted February 28, 2017 Sometimes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted February 28, 2017 Share Posted February 28, 2017 I flew 16 hours to get to my mom's house, then drove 3.5 hours, met the in laws, who drove 4 hours to watch the kids, while I went to the best doctor in the whole wide world. I would absolutely book an appointment, take a long weekend, and go. You are incredibly dedicated!!! (There are times when it's tempting TBH. Maybe one of those times I'll ask him for her number...) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arctic Bunny Posted February 28, 2017 Share Posted February 28, 2017 You are incredibly dedicated!!! (There are times when it's tempting TBH. Maybe one of those times I'll ask him for her number...)What's 12 hours of driving if she was actually able to help?! I knew he was going to believe me, take the time to figure it out, order the right tests, call me when he got the results, no matter what they were. Absolutely worth it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted February 28, 2017 Share Posted February 28, 2017 What's 12 hours of driving if she was actually able to help?! I knew he was going to believe me, take the time to figure it out, order the right tests, call me when he got the results, no matter what they were. Absolutely worth it. I'm not in love with doctor appts and I feel relatively certain she'd want to "start over" checking things that have already been checked rather than continuing on where the others stopped. Either way, it would mean additional appts there (specialists), not just one (as she isn't the specialist herself), so multiple trips. My second try at things took about a year and accomplished very little new - just a bit of repetition proving the docs involved with my first try at it were correct in eliminating things. When I finally reached the point where they should have moved on, they said no - even when I offered plausible suggestions of things to check on. If she were closer, it'd be worth a try based solely on my guy's firm belief in her. With so much distance involved and no guarantee, it's only tempting on bad days. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arctic Bunny Posted February 28, 2017 Share Posted February 28, 2017 I'm not in love with doctor appts and I feel relatively certain she'd want to "start over" checking things that have already been checked rather than continuing on where the others stopped. Either way, it would mean additional appts there (specialists), not just one (as she isn't the specialist herself), so multiple trips. My second try at things took about a year and accomplished very little new - just a bit of repetition proving the docs involved with my first try at it were correct in eliminating things. When I finally reached the point where they should have moved on, they said no - even when I offered plausible suggestions of things to check on. If she were closer, it'd be worth a try based solely on my guy's firm belief in her. With so much distance involved and no guarantee, it's only tempting on bad days. If you only had some way of knowing she was "the one"!!! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peaceful Isle Posted February 28, 2017 Share Posted February 28, 2017 Not usually. I'm not really much of a "venting" person. I try to keep all that in, which might not be the best for my emotional being, lol. I usually find myself on here trying to encourage, ask advice, or just give hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garga Posted February 28, 2017 Share Posted February 28, 2017 (edited) I try to be careful. I realized like you did, OP, that I was coming across as more upset than I was when I would post whines. That still happens from time to time, but I try to be careful with my wording and turn down the hyperbole. Edited February 28, 2017 by Garga Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted March 1, 2017 Share Posted March 1, 2017 Most of the time, no. I come here for solutions and camaraderie. If I've got a problem, I will explain it and sometimes there might be a whine attached but I'm looking for solutions. So I tend to expect that others who complain here actually want solutions instead of wanting to stay in their misery. So I offer them. Sometimes I then find out that people don't really want to do anything about their problems. To be honest, I don't really have a lot of patience for that kind of mindset. For camaraderie, I mostly joke around. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted March 1, 2017 Share Posted March 1, 2017 If you only had some way of knowing she was "the one"!!! True! I don't know if it's a whine of mine or just the truth, but I've become pretty disillusioned with the medical world and its ability to handle anything unusual. I've discovered that all those great things happen in Hollywood, but not IRL. And I'm ok with calling it a life and being done when it gets bad enough for long enough. If I felt the need to live forever, I might have more gumption to keep trying, but I don't. In the meantime I try to do what I can that seems to make things somewhat better (like staying active) - even if that's all in my mind (it may be, but I like to think it helps ;) ). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Petrichor Posted March 1, 2017 Share Posted March 1, 2017 (edited) I used to, but I try not to anymore. I'm bad at whining, lol. I'm not good at doing it without making a huge fuss and making the situation sound worse than it probably is. And I don't like to say JAWM because, what if there is something glaringly obviously dangerous that I haven't realized and then all of a sudden my kids turn into serial killers? Yeah. I have issues. And that's why I don't like to complain on here. I enjoy reading the whines of others and commiserating though. In a sympathetic/compassionate way. Not a psychopathic way. This is why I don't post much. Yeeesh! LOL Edited March 1, 2017 by Dust Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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