FlockOfSillies Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 It's just... gone. Did something bad (i.e., nothing) happen? I'm all verklempt. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Georgie Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 bump Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 I asked BeanSprouts to delete it. I'm afraid things aren't going anywhere and I honestly just feel foolish for even asking the man to dinner. Apparently, I am way out in left field when it comes to figuring out whether someone's interested. He avoided me like I had leprosy last night and I don't know why, but it hurt. I think growing old with my cats is the safest bet. :sad: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5kidsforME Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 I asked BeanSprouts to delete it. I'm afraid things aren't going anywhere and I honestly just feel foolish for even asking the man to dinner. Apparently, I am way out in left field when it comes to figuring out whether someone's interested. He avoided me like I had leprosy last night and I don't know why, but it hurt. I think growing old with my cats is the safest bet. :sad: What the???? Well he doesn't know what he's missing!! You deserve someone better! :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sleepy Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 What the???? Well he doesn't know what he's missing!! You deserve someone better! :grouphug::grouphug: :iagree: I'm so sorry things didn't pan out, but I guess it's better that it happened sooner rather than later... Go enjoy some of that unconditional kitty-love, it's good stuff. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 I asked BeanSprouts to delete it. I'm afraid things aren't going anywhere and I honestly just feel foolish for even asking the man to dinner. Apparently, I am way out in left field when it comes to figuring out whether someone's interested. He avoided me like I had leprosy last night and I don't know why, but it hurt. I think growing old with my cats is the safest bet. :sad: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rich with Kids Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 :crying: I'm sorry, Michelle. Being a single mom is so hard sometimes. I've been there. Maybe he was having a rough night. Don't give up! :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FlockOfSillies Posted October 9, 2008 Author Share Posted October 9, 2008 Oh, that just totally stinks. :thumbdown: Well, I guess it's time for the "I'm blowing you off because you're a loser and did I mention you're a cowardly twit" stage of the "relationship." Eh. He'll be kicking himself soon enough. Hold your head up high, sweetie. Rejection is the pits (oy, does this ever remind me of high school!). At least YOU had the courage to do something. Too bad this guy can't spot an ocean-sized clue from 35,000 feet. Too bad for HIM, not for you. You figured him out nice and early, before things got all messy and entangled. Be thankful for that. [sigh] It's hard to rejoice and be content in all of our circumstances, isn't it? :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 I really appreciate all the support. As I told Beanie in a PM, I'm going to just go on as if nothing's wrong, not act all upset or anything and let it go. There could be a million reasons he was like that and none of them could have had anything to do with me, or FOS analysis could be correct. Either way, it's ok. I have a great lasagna in my freezer now. LOL *sigh* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beansprouts Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 Michelle... :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 (HUGS) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hornblower Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 This reminded me of a quote someone I know uses in her sig line "Her life was okay. Sometimes she wished she were sleeping with the right man instead of with her dog, but at least she knew she wasn't sleeping with the wrong dog." I'll have to dig out who the quote is actually from... but I always thought it was very wise. And it works with cats too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kat19 Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newbie Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 :grouphug:Kitties are much more predictable. Aaaah unconditional love. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Apiphobic Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 FWIW, I thought it was a good idea to have a group for single homeschooling moms (or at least moms who have been single and btdt). I'm also wishing abbeyej or somebody familiar with the Eat to Live program would start a group. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katrina Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 :grouphug: I'm so sorry! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FlockOfSillies Posted October 9, 2008 Author Share Posted October 9, 2008 Hey. Just to say... he may be a Bashful Prince Charming who got spooked somehow, but it would have been better for him to just turn you down politely, right when you asked, than to say yes and then jerk you around. He may be a lovable, redeemable loser (I sure hope so, for your sake), but right now the wimpiness is not impressive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5kidsforME Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 Hey. Just to say... he may be a Bashful Prince Charming who got spooked somehow, but it would have been better for him to just turn you down politely, right when you asked, than to say yes and then jerk you around. He may be a lovable, redeemable loser (I sure hope so, for your sake), but right now the wimpiness is not impressive. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WTMindy Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 Well, you still have us....for better or worse!!!! :001_smile: Now I feel like we've all been rejected!!!!!! ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 Well, you still have us....for better or worse!!!! :001_smile: Now I feel like we've all been rejected!!!!!! ;) And I love you all. :001_wub: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FlockOfSillies Posted October 9, 2008 Author Share Posted October 9, 2008 I feel the same way. How dare he?! LOL. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted October 9, 2008 Share Posted October 9, 2008 Maybe he's feeling completely embarrassed for making you wait so long. Obviously waiting more isn't going to solve that issue. I rekon you should go and tell him that it's very bad mannered to accept a dinner invitation then never turn up for it. That way he'll know the door is still ajar, and if he doesn't do anything about it, we'll all know he's a big, fat wimp, and no amount of cute pilotness is going to change our minds. Rosie- sending him 'slap over the head' vibes in the hope they knock some sense in! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*anj* Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Hey. Just to say... he may be a Bashful Prince Charming who got spooked somehow, but it would have been better for him to just turn you down politely, right when you asked, than to say yes and then jerk you around. He may be a lovable, redeemable loser (I sure hope so, for your sake), but right now the wimpiness is not impressive. Yup! I agree. Michelle...a pox on him and all his ancestors, there, I said it! You were fine before and you'll be fine now. Sometimes these things don't work out for a reason unknown to us, but if we knew the reason we'd be soooo grateful! Brenda, I'd rep you for this comment, but I'm fresh out of it! :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*anj* Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Rosie- sending him 'slap over the head' vibes in the hope they knock some sense in! Which side of his head are you slapping, Rosie? I'll slap the other side. Let's just box his ears!! :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beansprouts Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 FWIW, I thought it was a good idea to have a group for single homeschooling moms (or at least moms who have been single and btdt). :iagree: I thought so too, but I don't think I am the right person to start it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beansprouts Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Maybe he's feeling completely embarrassed for making you wait so long. Obviously waiting more isn't going to solve that issue. I rekon you should go and tell him that it's very bad mannered to accept a dinner invitation then never turn up for it. That way he'll know the door is still ajar, and if he doesn't do anything about it, we'll all know he's a big, fat wimp, and no amount of cute pilotness is going to change our minds.Rosie- sending him 'slap over the head' vibes in the hope they knock some sense in! I was wondering also if maybe he thought he misread her cues and was feeling embarrassed about it. Maybe it wouldn't hurt to playfully remind him that dinner is still available? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beansprouts Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Brenda, I'd rep you for this comment, but I'm fresh out of it! :lol: :lol: I have to admit I do miss rep at times. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Ok, here's an update. As it turns out, someone on this board actually knew him from the past and graciously shared some history with me. Nothing *bad* per se, but some info on previous behavior with women. I mulled over a bit what was said (again, nothing bad, nothing gossippy, but some good insight) and decided that if I'm going to attend church with this man, be in the same social circle and have the same friends, something needed to be said to clear the air, straighten things up, whatever. I HATE things hanging and feeling weirdness. So, I called him. I apologized for any misunderstandings and told him that the reason I asked him for dinner was because he'd been so wonderful to me and I wanted to do something in return. I did tell him that I liked him but I'm not out to capture him and that I didn't want to lose a friend over weirdness. And, I do like him, flaws and all. But, to me, I'd rather have a friend who's flawed and know that he doesn't want a relationship and just know that the teasing/flirting/ whatever is in fun than to be angry at being "wronged." Do I think he handled this correctly? No, but it's not a huge thing, in the grand scheme of life, and life is better to forgive and be at peace than to harbor any anger or bitterness. Yes, my feelers were hurt, but overall, I think he's a good man and I do value his friendship very much. He thanked me for calling, and said he wasn't sure how to deal with the situation and was relieved that I cleared things up. We're still going to have dinner together, but as friends. No pressure, no expectations, just two friends having magical lasagna. LOL I feel TONS better about it all. He sounded like he did, too. So, now I know the deal. And, it's ok. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newbie Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 So glad the air is clear, now we can eat, drink and be merry. You have to admit, it was a fun ride.:auto: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beansprouts Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 I think you handled the situation in the best possible way, Michelle. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5kidsforME Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Ok, here's an update. As it turns out, someone on this board actually knew him from the past and graciously shared some history with me. Nothing *bad* per se, but some info on previous behavior with women. I mulled over a bit what was said (again, nothing bad, nothing gossippy, but some good insight) and decided that if I'm going to attend church with this man, be in the same social circle and have the same friends, something needed to be said to clear the air, straighten things up, whatever. I HATE things hanging and feeling weirdness. So, I called him. I apologized for any misunderstandings and told him that the reason I asked him for dinner was because he'd been so wonderful to me and I wanted to do something in return. I did tell him that I liked him but I'm not out to capture him and that I didn't want to lose a friend over weirdness. And, I do like him, flaws and all. But, to me, I'd rather have a friend who's flawed and know that he doesn't want a relationship and just know that the teasing/flirting/ whatever is in fun than to be angry at being "wronged." Do I think he handled this correctly? No, but it's not a huge thing, in the grand scheme of life, and life is better to forgive and be at peace than to harbor any anger or bitterness. Yes, my feelers were hurt, but overall, I think he's a good man and I do value his friendship very much. He thanked me for calling, and said he wasn't sure how to deal with the situation and was relieved that I cleared things up. We're still going to have dinner together, but as friends. No pressure, no expectations, just two friends having magical lasagna. LOL I feel TONS better about it all. He sounded like he did, too. So, now I know the deal. And, it's ok. :) Ok you handled this very well. I have to say, on your behalf, I am ticked that he put out this "I like you vibe" and is now taking it back.......:mad::cursing::smash::boxing_smiley: OK I think I am done for now, and I still say you are better off without him. You don't need a guy who is wishy washy. :leaving: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melissel Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Michelle, you are a strong, brave, bold woman. You handled that beautifully--way better than I could have. Good for you for stepping up and saying something, for clearing the air and ensuring that things don't stay "weird." It's more than most of us could have done, I'll wager. :grouphug: I'm sorry it didn't work out, but it sounds like it wasn't in the cards either way. I'm glad you two can stay friends. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kate CA Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Oh, Michelle, you are such an amazing woman! I am sorry it didn't work out for *your* sake, but God knows your heart and holds it carefully too. Hugs, sister. You are a gracious woman and I wish I knew you in person. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beansprouts Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Michelle, I wonder if this was all to show you that you are ready to step out in those new boots from time to time... ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Michelle, I wonder if this was all to show you that you are ready to step out in those new boots from time to time... ;) Hey, my boots ARE made for walkin'! LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WTMindy Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 You are awesome, Michelle!! Good for you for clearing the air. I'm still a little ticked, but......my wounds heal slowly. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denise in IN Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Michelle, you're amazing. I'm so impressed with the way you've handled this! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FlockOfSillies Posted October 10, 2008 Author Share Posted October 10, 2008 Brenda, I'd rep you for this comment, but I'm fresh out of it! :lol: Dang! And you OOZED rep, didn't you? Oh well. Michelle, you have nerves of steel. I hope we get to revive our vicarious romance thread someday when (not if) you meet Mr. Totally Awesome. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FlockOfSillies Posted October 10, 2008 Author Share Posted October 10, 2008 :lol: I have to admit I do miss rep at times. Now you're making ME miss it! ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kris Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 I'm sure glad I read all the posts on this thread first! I was thinking that a round kick to the noggin would come in handy right about now. What a class act you are -- you handled that so well! Good for you! I'm *so* glad you're feeling better -- I know I am. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garga Posted October 19, 2008 Share Posted October 19, 2008 You are a brave woman! I'm very proud of you. That had to be a tough conversation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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