anissarobert Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 The thread by Mama Lynx reminds me of the comments I get frequently. I have heard, remarks about knowlege and how they couldn't teach physics, but I usually get, "I wouldn't have the patience to homeschool." I hear this all the time! I am not typically a patient person, and I work on this daily. (My kids give me lots of practice.) Do they really believe that all homeschool moms are perfectly patient all the time? Anyone have a good response for this one? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom2legomaniacs Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 That is the one I get the most. I usually just turn it into a statement like, "Well, if it is the right thing, you just do it. If you are supposed to do something, it will be clear and you just do it." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janna Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 Yes, this is the only response I ever get. No one ever mentions socialization or anything. It's always, "I could never do that. I don't have the patience!" I usually respond with something along the lines of, "Yeah, I didn't think I could do it either. In fact I really wrestled with God about it for an entire summer. But He has proved me wrong and we're experiencing a lot of blessings for obeying his direction. I'm amazed how the Lord has changed me!" Or, if I know the person isn't a Christian, I usually say, "You never know! I didn't think I could do it either, but it's working out great!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JWSJ Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 That's what I hear the most too. The second numerous one is that they can't stand to be around their own children for how long it takes to homeschool. Such love. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest janainaz Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 "I would not have the patience to work a full-time job AND do a GOOD job of raising my kids". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tess in the Burbs Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 they all say they couldn't do it. I just smile and say I have no patience either but God brings us through some difficult things and some days it's that way for us...but it's worth my efforts and we are blessed by it. and I am learning to be more patient! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crissy Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 Yes, I've heard it. In some cases I have NO doubt that it's true. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Binalina Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 I get this one all the time too. I just say that I'm not the most patient person either but Homeschooling has really helped me grow in that area. I still have a long way to go. I think that something about that statement says to me that they think YOU ARE patient. So, I take it as a compliment that they think I am patient enough to do the job and I encourage them if I think it is what they are needing to hear. I kwym though - I didn't know how to take this one for a while. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janna Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 LOL, Crissy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mama Lynx Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 The thread by Mama Lynx reminds me of the comments I get frequently. I have heard, remarks about knowlege and how they couldn't teach physics, but I usually get, "I wouldn't have the patience to homeschool." I hear this all the time! I am not typically a patient person, and I work on this daily. (My kids give me lots of practice.) Do they really believe that all homeschool moms are perfectly patient all the time? Anyone have a good response for this one? I got that one twice tonight, as well. I can't even respond to that one. I usually just laugh and change the subject. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 To this I always say "I'm supposed to be PATIENT? Oh dear." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen500 Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 I've actually made this comment to several public school teachers. ("I'd never have the patience to teach a whole classfull of kids!") Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sagira Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 Yes, I get that a lot. Then again, everyone sees me as the gentle, patient mama -- I guess that is a part of me, but not all of me (I wish!) :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 I usually smile and say something like, "Well I don't think everyone is supposed to homeschool." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathleen in VA Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 I get this one a lot, too. I usually think to myself, "I wouldn't have the patience to homeschool your children either.":D Of course, I don't say that - I usually just say, "I don't either, but God always gives grace." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greta Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 Anyone have a good response for this one? On one particular occasion I was thinking to myself, yeah, I wouldn't have the patience to homeschool your kids either! But believe me I did not voice that opinion. :D I usually just laugh and say "It's hard sometimes but overall I love it, definitely worth the sacrifices." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathleen in VA Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 On one particular occasion I was thinking to myself, yeah, I wouldn't have the patience to homeschool your kids either! But believe me I did not voice that opinion. :D I usually just laugh and say "It's hard sometimes but overall I love it, definitely worth the sacrifices." HA!! Great minds and all that - we posted almost simultaneously! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
3lilreds in NC Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 I have to laugh when people say that to me. I am so *not* a patient person by nature. That's when I tell them if I can do it anyone can. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greta Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 HA!! Great minds and all that - we posted almost simultaneously! :D I think you had posted first but I missed it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clane Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 I said that one for over two years. Then I decided I really didn't have the patience to deal with our local B&M school any longer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom to Aly Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 This one I hate. I always feel it is somehow a veiled insult. My response is usually, "Oh, my dd is such an angel, we get along so well, it is never a problem.". Which is true. Thank goodness--because I really am not the most patient person!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jojomojo Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 I used to say it myself! And it was true.... "Well, if it is the right thing, you just do it. If you are supposed to do something, it will be clear and you just do it." This is where I found myself. One of the major reasons I pulled my dd out of public school (besides that she was a bright kid failing subjects) was her attitude was just AWFUL. What I didn't realize at the time was that I didn't have the patience for her attitude while she dealt with public school. Patience now is still a battle of mine :tongue_smilie: but her attitude and the harmony in our home has changed so much since bringing her home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jojomojo Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 I get this one a lot, too. I usually think to myself, "I wouldn't have the patience to homeschool your children either.":D :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cedarmom Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 I say "Yes, but you do homework with your kids, that requires patience, and your school work is picked out by the teacher but I get to pick what I teach!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teamturner Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 My standard response to this statement is, "I'm not very patient either, but I get a lot of opportunities to improve on that!" :D I usually just get a blank stare back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy loves Bud Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 Yes, I've heard it. In some cases I have NO doubt that it's true. :lol: I know what you mean! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abbeyej Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 My standard response is, "Oh, but home schooling sure *teaches* patience!" :o) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin Hood Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 To this I always say "I'm supposed to be PATIENT? Oh dear." :lol: I want to borrow your line. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anissarobert Posted September 30, 2008 Author Share Posted September 30, 2008 I am so glad that I am not the only one who hears this. I usually say something about how homeschooling teaches patience. I think I want to steal Mrs. Mungo's line though. If I'm brave enough! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
muffinmom Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 I usually try to say something like, "Silly you--you're assuming I have patience!" And then I often point out that being together all day long forces us to work such conflicts out and find good solutions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hornblower Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 I suggest, breezily, with a smile: "Honestly? The hardest thing about homeschooling is having patience to answer comments like yours politely. See? I'm STILL really struggling with that." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
runninmommy Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 To this I always say "I'm supposed to be PATIENT? Oh dear." You always have the best comebacks! :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kari C in SC Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 Actually, I used to say this. Seriously, my sister-in-law started homeschooling when both our boys were Kindergarten age. I remember telling her that exact thing many times. I didn't decided to homeschool until my ds was about finished with 4th grade. Now, 10 years later... there are still some days that I don't think I have the patience to homeschool. It has sure been a learning process! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CLHCO Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 I have heard that many times but it varies a lot on how it's said. I have had some who say that with almost a regret, like they know they cannot give their children the best because of their faults, with them often just being hard on themselves or overly critical, thinking one must be perfect to homeschool. At least a few push it up more like a badge of honor and a "get out of good parenting free" card. It's simply their excuse so they can be lazy. It's when I've heard people claim in front of their children that they couldn't stand being with their kids all day. They'd kill them. (Yes, I've heard it phrased that one more than once by at least one person.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommaduck Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 (edited) OP: My mother said that...said that she didn't have the patience and couldn't stand being home with us, that her fulfillment was from her job. he didn't have patience because she didn't want to have patience, she truly didn't like being around us, and she did EVENTUALLY find a job she loved. It's a wonder she even had children. Edited September 30, 2008 by mommaduck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kris Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 The thread by Mama Lynx reminds me of the comments I get frequently. I have heard, remarks about knowlege and how they couldn't teach physics, but I usually get, "I wouldn't have the patience to homeschool." I hear this all the time! I am not typically a patient person, and I work on this daily. (My kids give me lots of practice.) Do they really believe that all homeschool moms are perfectly patient all the time? Anyone have a good response for this one? I get this one all the time, too. I just ask them, "Do you *honestly* think I'm an overachiever in the patience department?!" :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hillary in KS Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 The thread by Mama Lynx reminds me of the comments I get frequently. I have heard, remarks about knowlege and how they couldn't teach physics, but I usually get, "I wouldn't have the patience to homeschool." QUOTE] I hear this a lot, and most of the time I say something like, "I'm not a terribly patient person either, but now I have ample opportunity to learn." Once, though, at a party, a woman was going on and on and finally said she wouldn't have patience to homeschool. She couldn't stand being around her kids all day. I responded with,"Well then, I guess it's best that you don't." I feel badly about that now, but it did the trick, and she changed the subject very quickly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
terrylee Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 I have not only have had it said to me, but a few years ago I foolishly said it to my sister in law. I believe that if you are not around homeschooling people you truly believe that it would be harder than it is. I also pray daily for patience. Some days are better than others. Today so far has been good! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BabyBre Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 Yes, this is the only response I ever get. No one ever mentions socialization or anything. It's always, "I could never do that. I don't have the patience!" I'm surprised when I don't get this answer. Actually, surprised isn't the word - not many reactions to learning I homeschool surprise me anymore. I always wonder at the people who so casually offer up the "socialization" issue and that they think I'm socially retarding my children because they're not in a classroom with the masses. Seriously?! :glare: I do take personal offense to it (even though it may not be conciously meant that way) because it implies that I'm ignoring my kids' social development. I'm obviously a caring and involved parent, closely monitoring their development in other ways. Why on earth would I choose to ignore that aspect? And, on that note, I've painfully watched dd's social development backtrack over the course of last year - her first in public school. And, btw, I also didn't have the patience to homeschool. Yet, here I am, four years later with argueably 3 of the brightest, most well-mannered and well-behaved kids in the neighborhood (honestly, not just my not-so-humble opinion!). That was, at least until they started public school and got "socialized". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cornerstone Classical Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 Quite frequently I get, "We are so much alike, if we were together that much we'd kill eachother!" Again, such love....:tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cstitches Posted September 30, 2008 Share Posted September 30, 2008 Perhaps something along the lines of, "It's not about patience, it's about dedication/doing what you feel is best." I can only speculate, but I don't think people go, "Oh, I am a patient person, so I think I'll give this homeschooling thing a try." Change the emphasis from patience to what is the real driving force behind your will to homeschool, and it will probably lend insight to the people who make the comment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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