Blueridge Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 ..."I'll have to call YOU back later" and then she abruptly hung up the phone...what would you do? I realize that she is old and cranky, but still...'Merry Christmas dear Mom' doesn't want to spring from my lips. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momofkhm Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 I'd give her the benefit of the doubt. If my mom did that, I'd know something was up. She answered the phone only because it was me. She's answered the phone for me when she's had a houseful of guests, so the "I'll call you back" wouldn't phase me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blueridge Posted December 14, 2012 Author Share Posted December 14, 2012 I guess I'll just blow it off. The spirit of Christmas and all. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 I'd give her the benefit of the doubt. If my mom did that, I'd know something was up. She answered the phone only because it was me. She's answered the phone for me when she's had a houseful of guests, so the "I'll call you back" wouldn't phase me. My mom will answer her phone no matter WHAT she is doing. I have tried to explain to her it is ok to not take a call...but she isn't capable of letting it go to VM. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teachmejoy Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 My mom will answer her phone no matter WHAT she is doing. I have tried to explain to her it is ok to not take a call...but she isn't capable of letting it go to VM. :iagree: My mom does the same thing! I can't understand why she doesn't just leave it and call back later, but she HAS to answer the thing. I get that reply a LOT! LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julie Smith Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 :iagree: My mom does the same thing! I can't understand why she doesn't just leave it and call back later, but she HAS to answer the thing. I get that reply a LOT! LOL Same here. I also do the same to my Mom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 Of course I have to admit that if she doesn't answer her home phone I call her cell. So maybe she is just saving me a step. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sukale Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 I would wait a couple of hours and if she didn't call me I would call her back. I would be worried. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
********* Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 From the OP, it seems like mom put the emphasis on the word YOU. Which to me, changes the whole meaning/tone from "I'm busy and I'll call you back later", to "I've got a piece of my mind to give YOU, missy, and you'll be hearing it soon!" Honestly, if it were me, I'd probably not answer the phone when she called, and hope that she left some clue as to what I had done in the voicemail she would hopefully leave. But I'm chicken like that. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 I thot that too Bethany. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blueridge Posted December 14, 2012 Author Share Posted December 14, 2012 Funny...she didn't call back yesterday, which hurt my feelings, but 30 minutes ago she called to say hello. I asked her if everything was alright and she said she was just too busy. Yes, she regularly puts the busyness of things and other people above her family. So I really wasn't surprised, but the hanging up was over the top. Anyway, I blew it off and was nice. I don't want regrets in the future. But if she hangs up on me again, boy... :boxing_smiley: :D . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 if she was in the middle of something time-sensitive, even the hang-up is understandable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clarkacademy Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 I would call my dad worried about what was going on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LostSurprise Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 I'd just assume I was one more thing in a very busy time. I wouldn't take it personally unless experience has told me otherwise. When my kids all attack me with things at the same time I'm the same way. I over emphasize the YOU while dealing with them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stacia Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 I would wait a couple of hours and if she didn't call me I would call her back. I would be worried. This. Glad to hear there wasn't anything bad going on as it turns out... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 I would assume she is busy doing something where she can't talk to you: getting out of the shower, having company, hearing the timer go off in the kitchen... I would wait for her to call back later as she said she would. I do not take it personally if my mom has things going on in her life that do not involve me, and if she can't drop what she is doing when I call unexpectedly. Neither does she. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 Would totally depend on the history. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Marple Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 My mom did that to me recently. I discovered that she was/had been crying. She was better and thought she could talk, but discovered suddenly that she could not without breaking into tears. She has chronic pain. I know she's depressed, but she is unwilling to admit it. It would be admitting she isn't in control which is something that she is never "out of " to hear her talk. So...I'd let it go or investigate further. Maybe when she calls back you can ask her if something interesting was going on. I told my mom that I knew she was crying and that it didn't bother me and we could talk about it. She replied that she doesn't like to talk when she is feeling weepy. Older parents can be incredibly frustrating especially when we just want to help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 MY mom? I wouldn't think anything of it. She would only do that because she was really busy or literally running to the bathroom. YOUR mom? I can't say. I don't know her, or your relationship and history. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 ..."I'll have to call YOU back later" and then she abruptly hung up the phone...what would you do? I realize that she is old and cranky, but still...'Merry Christmas dear Mom' doesn't want to spring from my lips. :glare: Well, there could be a number of reasons. Maybe something was on the stove boiling over. Maybe she's upset about something and just can't talk right now. You won't know until you ask. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annandatje Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 Well, maybe there is a good explanation. I'd give her the benefit of any doubt (like maybe she had to rush to the bathroom or something). I agree. My first guess would be rushing to restroom to avoid urinary incontinence. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reya Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 Same here. I also do the same to my Mom. If I don't, my mom begins assuming that I am dead. :p Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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