fairfarmhand Posted September 18, 2012 Share Posted September 18, 2012 I declare, no one can make me feel like a failure quicker than my oldest daughter. sigh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted September 18, 2012 Share Posted September 18, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: You're not alone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted September 18, 2012 Share Posted September 18, 2012 I know. When my kids all got past their terrible twos I thought the hardest part was over...and I was really ticked off to discover the teen years are way more trying...why didn't anyone tell me?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommy22alyns Posted September 18, 2012 Share Posted September 18, 2012 I'm sorry. :grouphug: I really dread that time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted September 18, 2012 Share Posted September 18, 2012 Because you were in denial and wouldn't have believed them! :D Guilty as charged. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Durriyyah Posted September 18, 2012 Share Posted September 18, 2012 Yep, I totally know what you mean! DD1 was a great toddler, and really, she is a great 12 yr old, but she sometimes brings up "remember when..." and it is something not so flattering. Do they not remember the good times? Are we doomed to be the evil mother in their memories? I take heart in seeing so many people post on FB that they have new regard for their mothers and they love and respect them more now that they have kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovinmomma Posted September 18, 2012 Share Posted September 18, 2012 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I was once a teenager :) and I certainly hope my children are not as naughty as I was. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted September 18, 2012 Author Share Posted September 18, 2012 I take heart in seeing so many people post on FB that they have new regard for their mothers and they love and respect them more now that they have kids. I guess I DO really appreciate my mom, so much, but what makes it worse is that I was a compliant, easy-going kid. Even my dad talks about that. My dh.....let's just say that I am paying for his raising. SO TOTALLY UNFAIR! I called him at work one day and told him to call his mother and apologise right now for being such a snot as a teen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
speedmom4 Posted September 18, 2012 Share Posted September 18, 2012 :grouphug: I am having one of those days with my 15 year-old dd. :banghead: Hoping it gets better soon, for you and me! Elise in NC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BakersDozen Posted September 18, 2012 Share Posted September 18, 2012 If I had any self-esteem or confidence in who I am or what I do, it was rapidly done away with when my dc reached their teen years. Thankfully, I don't have open rebellion but wow, the challenges, disrespect and resistance! I know very little now, apparently, compared to when they were little. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alphabetika Posted September 19, 2012 Share Posted September 19, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I get it. I SO do, and many others do, too. Here are some extras. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted September 19, 2012 Share Posted September 19, 2012 I have found myself lately reminding dd14 that I am indeed a person, too; and I have feelings and things I'd like to accomplish during the day and my sole purpose for existing isn't to cater to her whims OR her moods. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted September 19, 2012 Author Share Posted September 19, 2012 I have found myself lately reminding dd14 that I am indeed a person, too; and I have feelings and things I'd like to accomplish during the day and my sole purpose for existing isn't to cater to her whims OR her moods. :glare: :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stacia Posted September 19, 2012 Share Posted September 19, 2012 I'm right there with you. In fact, yesterday, I hid & had a good bawl for a bit in order to cope. :tongue_smilie: :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angela in ohio Posted September 19, 2012 Share Posted September 19, 2012 With a 14 yo, it's like you are spinning a big wheel each day. Will it land on "responsible and mature," "sullen and rude," "loving and sweet," or "childish and petty"? You just never know what you are going to get. And it's hard to plan your day wondering how much correcting and discussing you will have to do. Some days are exhausting, some days are normal. My 16 yo came out of it alive, so it does get better. I'm doing it for the second time, and it is no more fun. :glare: My girls are overall good kids, but 14 is a very dark time. Ick, ick, ick.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fischerl Posted September 19, 2012 Share Posted September 19, 2012 I agree—the 14 yo girl thing is tiresome! It does get better... :grouphug: I would just shut myself in my room with a cup of tea and some good chocolate, or a glass of wine, and enjoy the solitude at least once a day if possible. And pray for perspective and good humor. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted September 19, 2012 Share Posted September 19, 2012 I declare, no one can make me feel like a failure quicker than my oldest daughter. sigh. I asked a friend if 15 was easier. She said "No, but you'll be more used to it." Not the answer I wanted. I have high hopes for 16 :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KRG Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 I have a 2 year old and an almost 15 year old--there must have been something in the air today! Dh is taking them for a little drive while I regain some sanity. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 (edited) . Edited September 20, 2012 by LibraryLover Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creativish Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 Anyone ever watch Grounded for Life? We just rediscovered that show again and are enjoying it immensely-- 14 yo daughter with young parents dealing with major teenage drama while to raise her without repeating their same mistakes. Good reminder of what's to come. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 I forget which comedian it was that said, "When they were little, I used to play w/them on the slides. Now that they're teens, we ride the mood swings." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alphabetika Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 I'm right there with you. In fact, yesterday, I hid & had a good bawl for a bit in order to cope. :tongue_smilie: :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: :iagree:I did that today. FWIW, my #2dd is almost 14 and she is NOT bawl-worthy. So, take heart! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted September 20, 2012 Share Posted September 20, 2012 I declare, no one can make me feel like a failure quicker than my oldest daughter. sigh. Daughter's year 14 and 15 were the worst of my life, and that's saying something (two siblings and both parents dead, teen boyfriend committed suicide, ...blah blah....). I hope she gets over it quickly but believe me, you have my sincere sympathy. Pray a lot. You'll make it. The sun is peeping through the clouds this year.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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