lorrainejmc Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Bleugh, I never thought this would be me, but, it is what it is. Anyway, I'm not best prepared mentally for homeschooling this year and am leaning toward taking some time out or unschooling until we adjust and take care of things. Then I think perhaps the structure of the school day would be good for me and the kids. But then, the idea of a "year of discovery" is very appealing too... My kids are 10, 8 and 6 What say the hive? :bigear: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 I'm sorry. I don't have any advice, but :grouphug:. There are many ladies here that have been through this, though. Hang in there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsBasil Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: I can't help, but wanted to extend hugs and, if appreciated, prayers. If not, just keep the hugs! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Whatever works for you and your dc in this difficult time. At their ages, one year of a "different" curriculum will not negatively impact them long term. Perhaps everyone needs a "discovery, take it easy year." Enjoy it as much as you can. I hope you have outside support from family and friends to walk with you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassy Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. I really don't know what you should do about homeschooling as I've never been in your situation, and I'm not you. I can imagine wanting to be with my children a lot, and maybe finding homeschooling a welcome distraction from everything else that is going on. I can also imagine feeling overwhelmed by everything and wanting time and space to myself. I'll be thinking of you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommy22alyns Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 :grouphug: I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonshineLearner Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 I think it's a question for the Divorce Attorney you need to be working with. Putting them in school is setting precedent, and unschooling doesn't look good to judges. I'd say using a curriculum that's acknowledged by others, and schooling in a more "serious" way works on your legal side. Remember that people don't usually get divorced because they can work well together, or want the best for the other person. Children are often used as pawns, and plans that were "mutual" before turn to "battle grounds" in the land of divorce. Sorry :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I am sorry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 I think it's a question for the Divorce Attorney you need to be working with. Putting them in school is setting precedent, and unschooling doesn't look good to judges. I'd say using a curriculum that's acknowledged by others, and schooling in a more "serious" way works on your legal side. Remember that people don't usually get divorced because they can work well together, or want the best for the other person. Children are often used as pawns, and plans that were "mutual" before turn to "battle grounds" in the land of divorce. :iagree:With all of this. Many :grouphug:s to you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Rather than being "good" for your dc, they might feel that they're being abandoned. They might act out at school, too. I"m wondering if it would be better for y'all to just draw in together, KWIM? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twinmami01 Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 :grouphug: I'm sorry. No words of wisdom, just :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen in PA Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 I don't have any answers, just :grouphug:. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle in AL Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 :grouphug: For me structure has been the best thing. I'm in school as well as homeschooling. I recently had 3 weeks off and structure is better. It keeps my mind off things. You might be different though. :grouphug: You will get through this! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PollyOR Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 :grouphug: as you go through this difficult transition. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 :grouphug: I am sorry you are facing such tough times. Life can sure be hard at times! Praying for you and your children.:grouphug: Keeping their home life, school, and activities as normal as possible might be very comforting for the children with so much change and loss happening. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jessicalb Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 If it were me I would... Keep them home, do as much formal work as you can, let yourself off the hook when you can't get everything done, document the heck out of everything you do and really shine up all those unschooling moments and document them, too. The court doesn't have to know that most of your fractions lessons are baking cookies with the kids because yummy food and together time feeds a family's soul. Find yourself some community. If you don't already have a supportive homeschool group, get one. My homeschool group literally saved us through several single mom years. You need the break from being the only in-home parent, you need the shoulders to cry on, you need adult companionship. Make sure to take care of yourself. Don't make any major decisions you don't have to. This is one of the most difficult times and the world looks skewed and bizarre from where you are standing. Be kind to yourself and your kids. I'm so sorry your family is facing this. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 I think it's a question for the Divorce Attorney you need to be working with. Putting them in school is setting precedent, and unschooling doesn't look good to judges. I'd say using a curriculum that's acknowledged by others, and schooling in a more "serious" way works on your legal side. Remember that people don't usually get divorced because they can work well together, or want the best for the other person. Children are often used as pawns, and plans that were "mutual" before turn to "battle grounds" in the land of divorce. Sorry :( :iagree: If you want to homeschool, absolutely do not put the kids in PS, even temporarily. And document every day's lessons, and save things like tests and worksheets, so you can prove to a judge that you are taking your children's education seriously. But this is a conversation to have with your attorney, and maybe even with an HSLDA attorney. (I'm not a big fan of the political agenda of the HSLDA, but in this case, they might be able to help you.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gingersmom Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Are you going to have to go back to work once the divorce is final? Back to school? Will he be paying child support while the divorce is ongoing? Who is paying the rent/bills? Just some things to think about. Also if you have to put the kids back in school some grades might be easier to transition into then others (not sure what grades your kids are in). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 Keep the structure. It will help fix in your mind each day that you really do have a purpose in life and something worthwhile to offer. :grouphug: Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patches Posted August 21, 2012 Share Posted August 21, 2012 I'm really really sorry. May you and your children find peace. Never been in your shoes, but probably best to do some sort of school. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HarbourLights Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 If it were me I would... Keep them home, do as much formal work as you can, let yourself off the hook when you can't get everything done, document the heck out of everything you do and really shine up all those unschooling moments and document them, too. The court doesn't have to know that most of your fractions lessons are baking cookies with the kids because yummy food and together time feeds a family's soul. Find yourself some community. If you don't already have a supportive homeschool group, get one. My homeschool group literally saved us through several single mom years. You need the break from being the only in-home parent, you need the shoulders to cry on, you need adult companionship. Make sure to take care of yourself. Don't make any major decisions you don't have to. This is one of the most difficult times and the world looks skewed and bizarre from where you are standing. Be kind to yourself and your kids. I'm so sorry your family is facing this. :( :iagree: I think the above is fantastic advice... and a great big :grouphug: to you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 I'm so so sorry you're going through this. I don't have any advice, but I just wanted to offer some support and lots of :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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