Moxie Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 :banghead::banghead::banghead: Simple facts: X amount of school work needs to be done each day. If you sit down and do X amount of work, then you get to play. If you stare out the window, go to the bathroom 100 times, chat about the weather, fart around all morning, X amount of work will still be waiting for you while everyone else is playing. This kid is smart but he just doesn't get it!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snickerdoodle Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 I have one of those! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moxie Posted February 29, 2012 Author Share Posted February 29, 2012 Hugs right back! Really, even the 6yo rolls his eyes when the 11yo says, "I have to go to the bathroom first." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brehon Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 <sigh> Right there with you. Kid is smart as a whip. And routinely takes double the time to complete his work than he should. I'm blaming hormones (erm, his; certainly not mine :tongue_smilie:). Yesterday my ds5 told his older brother to sit down, stop whining, and do his work so they can play legos. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlueTaelon Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 Just a thought, is the curriculum appropriate to his learning style? Visual learners are notorious for doing that when given materials suited to auditory learners. Give them materials more suited to their learning style and the problem goes away since they are more willing to engage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EKS Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 My 15yo doesn't get it either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thowell Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 Just a thought, is the curriculum appropriate to his learning style? Visual learners are notorious for doing that when given materials suited to auditory learners. Give them materials more suited to their learning style and the problem goes away since they are more willing to engage. Ok do tell what programs you are finding to work with a VSL? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SilverMoon Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 I have one of those. Tie a knot in your rope and hold on tight. It gets worse before it gets better, and just when you start seeing maturity and a light at the end of the tunnel, it starts all over again. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 <sigh> Right there with you. Kid is smart as a whip. And routinely takes double the time to complete his work than he should. I'm blaming hormones (erm, his; certainly not mine :tongue_smilie:). Yesterday my ds5 told his older brother to sit down, stop whining, and do his work so they can play legos. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 My 15yo doesn't get it either. Yup.....my one guy never got it....and still doesn't get it. He is almost 21:glare:.....but he lives on his own now....so his problem, not mine anymore. Faithe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jen3kids Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 My ds (10) and I just had this discussion this morning. Those 5 math questions should take 5-10 minutes, not 30+. Just make the numbers normally, without embellishment, please :confused: If you type with one only hand, with your other under your head and you are sprawled across the desk, of course you're not going to be able to type quickly.:001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elizabeth in MN Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 We have that problem too. Actually, we're having it right now. I'm typing while waiting for her to "be ready" to do school. It's much better since I started her on Ritalin. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chrysalis Academy Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 I think if I have to say "Sweetie - stay focused on your work" one more time today, I am going to slit my wrists. It's raining, which makes it even worse - I can't send her outside to burn it off. Or maybe I can???:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mjbucks1 Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 Those 5 math questions should take 5-10 minutes, not 30+. Just make the numbers normally, without embellishment, please :confused: And I thought I was the only one that had a child like this....:lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pen Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 Remedies for such a problem? :bigear: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moniksca Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 (edited) oh my, you must have my VSL son, we have the same issue here almost every single day :grouphug:. There's no screen time here until all the work is completed, which motivates him pretty well. I have a cut off time if he goes past it, no screen time, but there's plenty of time to complete everything. Edited February 29, 2012 by Moniksca Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shellers Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 My 11 year old son would be the same way if I didn't sit next to him while he does his school work. I have to constantly redirect him back to the work that needs to be done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elizabeth in MN Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 Remedies for such a problem? :bigear: Personally I'm rather fond of Mojitos. Takes the worry right on out of me. If the Mojitos flow, Mama is calm. : ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5LittleMonkeys Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 We are finally at the tale end of those types of problems with dd12. Things I did that helped : *trying to customize her education closely to her learning style (VSL). *getting her more involved in taking ownership of her education. *establishing clear expectations that were established with her input. *doing away with punishments and consequences and allowing her to deal with the natural repercussions of not staying on top of her work. *I stopped fighting with her and stopped nagging her. It took a long time and it did get REALLY bad before it started getting better. She is still a procrastinator and she still has a hard time staying focused on certain things but it is all on her to make adjustments and get caught up if she doesn't complete xyz by her deadline. I'm not the enforcer anymore - she is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommy22alyns Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 You mean she might STILL not get it when she's 11?? :svengo: Yeah, I have one too. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 Personally I'm rather fond of Mojitos. Takes the worry right on out of me. If the Mojitos flow, Mama is calm. : ) :iagree:..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moniksca Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 I had to look up what a mojito was and quite frankly that does sound like a good idea, right about now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brehon Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 Personally I'm rather fond of Mojitos. Takes the worry right on out of me. If the Mojitos flow, Mama is calm. : ) Mojito, margharita, Mike's, vodka/tonic with extra lime...I'm really not picky... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blessings2all Posted February 29, 2012 Share Posted February 29, 2012 Have you tried breaking down his work into smaller chunks with rewards? I used to tell my kids that when they got 1-2 subjects done, they would get a 10-15 min. break. To earn recess, they had to get 3 subjects done. In the afternoon, I did something similar, earn a small break, then computer or Wii time after everything was done. They got bonus time for getting everything done by supper. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetMissMagnolia Posted March 2, 2012 Share Posted March 2, 2012 oh yeah....can relate Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleIzumi Posted March 2, 2012 Share Posted March 2, 2012 We started doing high-interest unit studies and that's helping a LOT. Otherwise I generally have to sit with her. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
foxbridgeacademy Posted March 2, 2012 Share Posted March 2, 2012 My 11 year old son would be the same way if I didn't sit next to him while he does his school work. I have to constantly redirect him back to the work that needs to be done. :iagree:Same here. I have to give his sister busy work(she asks for it) or breaks for him to finish less work then her. He is dyslexic but that can't be blamed for everything.....:banghead: We call him "Turtle" for a reason. I love my kid to pieces but he makes me CRAZY! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
linders Posted March 2, 2012 Share Posted March 2, 2012 My DS11. Exactly. Then is incensed that DS8 (who doesn't dawdle) heads off to play. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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