Osmosis Mom Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 So has the virtual board of WTM evolved into a place where you either agree to the OP of a thread or are not allowed/expected to post in the thread? Seems like only a pat on the back is requested and any other kind of response is ridiculed or the thread turns to only disagreeing with OP without entering a discussion or argument. We ought to be able to exchange respectful opinions and disagreements; otherwise why bother reading and posting?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThatCyndiGirl Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 Well, I think you are wrong. ;) :lol: This board seems to go in cycles and we are in a weird part of the cycle right now, imo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 :001_huh: I haven't noticed that at all. Wait...is this where I should ridicule you??:lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 Is it a cycle? Ugh, I hope it comes back around soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HSMom2One Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 While that may be the case in some threads, it is definitely not the way it is in all. I have frequently expressed a disagreeing opinion on these boards without having the experience you describe. In fact, I can honestly say that I've engaged in or read through numerous threads during my time here that have contained respectful discussions that have had opposing viewpoints. I'm sorry you've had negative experiences. Blessings, Lucinda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassenach Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 So has the virtual board of WTM evolved into a place where you either agree to the OP of a thread or are not allowed/expected to post in the thread? Seems like only a pat on the back is requested and any other kind of response is ridiculed or the thread turns to only disagreeing with OP without entering a discussion or argument. We ought to be able to exchange respectful opinions and disagreements; otherwise why bother reading and posting?? I'm not seeing what you are seeing. The board seems pretty much the same as it always is. Some deep discusions, some silly ones, some bickering, some helpful posts, some harsh posts, some reasonable responses, some overly sensitive responses.... It all seems pretty typical to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassenach Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 Btw, I'm super disappointed that we're not playing truth or dare. Dare. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassy Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 I'd love to disagree with you, I'm a people pleaser you see, but sadly I can only agree :tongue_smilie:. And it's a really boring state of affairs. Yours disagreeably Cassy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theYoungerMrsWarde Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 Btw, I'm super disappointed that we're not playing truth or dare. Dare. :lol: I was thinking the same thing. I post disagreeing comments when I think they might be useful, but I don't on most. I just read and move on. I've never felt ridiculed, though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Osmosis Mom Posted October 9, 2011 Author Share Posted October 9, 2011 Oh, I am ok with stating a difference of opinion. I just feel a bit unsettled that in many threads this has not been the expectations and a few got ugly or at least way uglier than what we usually see here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gingersmom Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 I haven't noticed anything being 99% of the time I disagree with whatever any else is posting. :001_smile: It still doesn't stop me from posting my opinion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 Oh, there are always people like that. I've been on the WTM boards for at least 9 years and it's not a new thing. Yes, some threads can get ugly. It's strongly held opinions, doubts, moods, and spilled milk. IRL, we might hold our tongues out of politeness. On the internet though, everything goes. It's the lovely anonymity. For example, it's very easy to feel like you've gotten the last word when you post and then never return to look at responses. It's also easy, in that situation, to not even contemplate how upset you've made someone. You don't have to see them. Out of sight, out of mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommaduck Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 Oh, I am ok with stating a difference of opinion. I just feel a bit unsettled that in many threads this has not been the expectations and a few got ugly or at least way uglier than what we usually see here. Now I'm curious. I know, I'm terrible for that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 There has been a spate of that lately. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 I'm totally fine with people posting a different opinion from mine. I don't care for people who have different opinions and then slam the original OP for obviously being ignorant (and I am not referring to you at all OM). I think some people here don't post a response unless they are having a bad day, and want to virtually flay someone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 I think it happens some of the time because the OP feels like responders don't understand what she meant. Of course they can only interpret what the OP actually SAID. You can't really trust someone's agreement or disagreement if you think they've misinterpreted you. Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 Well, I think you are wrong. ;) :lol: This board seems to go in cycles and we are in a weird part of the cycle right now, imo. Maybe it is because it's October, and the excitement of new curriculum and the new school year has worn off. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 Yeah, there have been a few OPs that got their panties in a twist when they were disagreed with. It happens on occasion. I just move along and don't give it a second thought. Can't change anything. It will blow over shortly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PinkInTheBlue Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 Yeah, there have been a few OPs that got their panties in a twist when they were disagreed with. It happens on occasion. I just move along and don't give it a second thought. Can't change anything. It will blow over shortly. All she said. It happens from time to time and then it moves on. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 I think it is more common with certain personality types. Some people just want validation, not conversation. When there are more people posting who have this personality type, it seems like the board gets a bit tilted in that direction. Once other posters who welcome conversation start posting more, the board will appear to tilt back the other way. There are certain posters that I rarely respond to based on previous threads where they only expected agreement. I don't block or ignore....I just don't participate. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimm Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 I notice the opposite. It seems to me like people get jumped on a lot around here if they post something a lot of people disagree with. This isn't a place I feel comfortable coming to for support. I would come here with a specific problem that I wanted a lot of input or advice about but probably not support. People would tell me how wrong I am, then I'd get upset and then people would gripe that I just wanted people to agree with me, which would basically be true. It's nice to have a bunch of people saying "Yeah, you're right, that's totally reasonable!" On one hand, I like that people don't just do virtual pats on the head. I value honesty, I'm a pretty blunt person in real life and don't like when people just tell me what I want to hear. But on the other hand, sometimes my fragile feelings just need that. :) Can't have it both ways. Overall, I value this board and the intelligence of the women who are here and I read some fascinating discussions here very often. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hedgehog Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 I don't think I've noticed it being any different really. But then, for the most part, I try to stay away from contentious posts. They're stressful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HSMom2One Posted October 13, 2011 Share Posted October 13, 2011 I don't think I've noticed it being any different really. But then, for the most part, I try to stay away from contentious posts. They're stressful. Maybe that's me too because I just don't see it happening. I guess I'm just too sheltered! :D Blessings, Lucinda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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