********* Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 and my dh forgot. Yup. Forgot. Are we officially old now? :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 That's a bummer. We'll be having our 10th anniversary in January, and dh usually remembers that it's coming, but he never plans anything or gets me card or anything. If we do something, it's because I plan it. I think he once sent me flowers for an anniversary. I think it was the 3rd, but that's about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonshineLearner Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 Ewwwww... sorry! :( IF he never forgets who he's married to, you can forgive him, right?? :) Especially if you remind him that when you go out, you'd like to go to.... "a really nice spot".... I'm going to the Melting Pot! I'm gonna remind him!! Since my 40th BD wasn't exciting.... I'm going to make sure that I remember for him. Poor guys, I really don't think they have a chance at remembering the important times!! Something, perhaps "guyness" is against them! Happy Marriage!!!!! And hopefully he'll make up the anniversary flubber! HUGS! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamajudy Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 :grouphug: It happens sometimes. Next time, plan something really special for him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*~Tina~* Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 Ouch :glare: sorry...hope he makes it up to you in a big way! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marylou Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 You have a whole year to celebrate. Did you tell him what day it was? Or did you forget, too? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
********* Posted September 16, 2011 Author Share Posted September 16, 2011 You have a whole year to celebrate. Did you tell him what day it was? Or did you forget, too? No, I did not forget. I cooked his favorite meal (chicken and dumplings) and I made a peach pie, also his favorite, with peaches we bought in Georgia on the way back from our Florida Keys trip. Made a nice big meal of his favorites special for him, then the boys and I ended up eating without him because he got stuck at work and didn't text me. :glare: It was just doubly disappointing because I thought 'well maybe he's late because he's stopped to get me flowers' or something, but..... no. He kept saying that the trip (to Florida) was for our anniversary, which is fine. I don't want a big to do. It's not a big thing. But he did forget that yesterday was our anniversary until one of the boys said something. I realize it's not a huge thing, and blah blah blah. But he flat out forgot our anniversary date. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halcyon Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 Awww. I am sorry! It was OUR 10th anniversary yesterday too!!! What a coincidence! I always remind my DH of stuff like this...or he reminds me (I tend to forget birthdays)...:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unscripted Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 That's a bummer. We'll be having our 10th anniversary in January, and dh usually remembers that it's coming, but he never plans anything or gets me card or anything. If we do something, it's because I plan it. I think he once sent me flowers for an anniversary. I think it was the 3rd, but that's about it. Same here. I have to plan all of the special events around here too. On one hand- it hurts that I am always the one putting it all together- and I would love for him to do it- to show he cares too. On the other hand- he is such a great guy in so many other ways (I mean above and beyond) that try to get over it... But it is hard when we are batting a thousand in that department. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:I'm sorry! I would be hurt, too. Next year you should call him first thing in the morning to wish him a Happy Anniversary if he's at work. A hug and Happy Anniversary if you are awake with him when he leaves (my dh used to leave at 5:30 a.m.) or first thing in the morning. many men don't forget important days like this, but many men do. Still many men know about the day but do nothing. They're wired wrong.;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scubamama Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 :grouphug: :tongue_smilie: My dh is this way too. :glare: I used to get mad. Now I tell him verbally, via email and text that OUR ANNIVERSARY IS IN A WEEK I repeat this PSA daily, arrange a sitter, tell dh what I'd like if I'm into flowers or a little present or chocolate. Results: I am not stressed, he's not embarassed and mad he forgot and got in trouble and I get a night out with my absent minded sweetie! He really is the poster child for completely forgetting this and then scambling around. It is kind of depressing when I think of the 14 years we've had together and the way these important-to -us- girls dates just slip right on by the dh's radar! But, he's holding the fort down everywhere else! Happy 10 Years to you both!!!!! Michele Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleIzumi Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 We did that last year and this year :lol: (except last year we both forgot, and this year I forgot). We are just too busy & broke to do anything or take a day off or whatnot, lol. Happy Anniversary to you guys!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sandy in Indy Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 I'm so sorry! My dh was like that for years. One year I got completely mad and told him that Christmas was the same day every year...our anniversary was the same day every year...my birthday is the same day every year... About that time, he caught on. He's been much better about remembering ever since. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simka2 Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 I am the one who usually forgets! Yesterday, there was a box of flowers waitng for me when I got home. I opened the card and dh had said somethinf along the lines of, "It has been a wild 13 years, but I wouldn't change a thing." My thought was, "Has it been 13 years?" ;) Some of us are REALLY bad with dates!!! I still am a bit unsure on ds4 birthday :tongue_smilie:, I am that bad!!! I can never remember if it is July 12 or 13th. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsBasil Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 :grouphug: I'm sorry. I'm the one who forgets dates. On one hand, DH says it's easy to surprise me and on the other I know he'd like to be treated and surprised one year too. FWIW, usually the person who forgets isn't doing it because the date isn't important or anything like that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julie in CA Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 I'm sorry. :grouphug: I have to confess that this year, I was on the other end of the situation. I completely forgot. It's been 23 years for us, and I didn't remember. Dh called me from work in the morning and said, "Well??". I said, "What?". He hung up laughing. At lunchtime, he came in the door with a big flower arrangement. I still didn't get it. :001_huh: I said, "Wow! Who'd you get the flowers for?" :D Then I got it. :001_huh: Dh's response? "Ok, I'll give you another 23 years to make up for forgetting, but after that...". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alpidarkomama Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 I've done that more than once, and that's because EVERY day feels like our anniversary! :) He probably feels the same. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dolphin Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 We had a blow up really early in our marriage about this. Ever since then I remind dh of dates coming up, and I let him know what I am in the mood for. Take Valentines Day for instance. There is no way a dh can not realize that is creeping up. Some years, I want to dress up, go out and the whole hoop la. Other years, I like going the day before or after when it is quieter, some (when our money is tight and I am the one watching it) I think it would be nice to stay home have dinner and watch a movie together. So, I let him know. A few of my friends have told me that this is very unromantic. However, I look at it as something romantic. I am setting my dh up for success. I don't want to have him screw things up and feel bad. I don't get a lot of surprises, but the ones I do are so worth it. We will be at a dinner party and he will here one of these stories about a husband who forgot something, and he comes up and whisper in my ear that he is so glad that I am his partner, or I come up to bed and find a heart made of M and M's on my pillow, for no reason. Remind him, be clear about things, and ask that he do the same for you! In 40 years, the 10th anniversary won't seem like such a let down:grouphug: Nicole Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 I totally understand. My dh forgets his twin brother's birthday.....:lol: Anne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 :grouphug: Mark it on you calendar and drop plenty of hint / reminders next year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetMissMagnolia Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 we celebrated ours earlier this month (10yrs also).....were going to go out to eat that weekend but dh was sick earlier in the week and SHARED his cooties with us and by weekend mom and kiddo were sick...thinking about making him make it up to me this weekend...... :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kewb Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 I believe you are old when you both forget, as dh and I did a few years ago. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ria Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 and my dh forgot. Yup. Forgot. Are we officially old now? :D Dh and I have been married 26 years. We have remembered our anniversary - either one or both of us - about 5 times. It's just not on our radar. If you want it to be a celebration or something to be noted, mention it beforehand. Don't expect your spouse to remember. Not all of us do. It's ok. :grouphug: (I might point out that last year, on his birthday, dh started humming "Happy Birthday" while showering...then I remembered. LOL!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Inna* Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 I'm sorry. :grouphug: I'm usually the one who forgets important dates. I forgot my Dad's birthday this month. :( I called them through Skype this morning, just to chat and they were in the middle of birthday party. :eek: Talk about embarrassing... I totally understand. My dh forgets his twin brother's birthday.....:lol: Anne Well, this one tops them all! :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Inna* Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 (I might point out that last year, on his birthday, dh started humming "Happy Birthday" while showering...then I remembered. LOL!) Niiiice! :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sahamamama Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 :grouphug: He needed a pre-reminder or some sort of note on the calendar. :grouphug: Hope you both find a way to celebrate, no matter what day of the week! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted September 17, 2011 Share Posted September 17, 2011 Ouch. That's cold. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Satori Posted September 17, 2011 Share Posted September 17, 2011 We had our 9th two days ago. I forgot last year, oops. This year he is out of the country, but I did remember to call/email him. Congrats on your 10th! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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