For those of us who find Mother's Day bittersweet given the loss of our own mothers..

[Jane in NC]

May I just say: :grouphug:

 

Jane

[BamaTanya]

This will be my first Mother's Day without my mother, and I'm not looking forward to it. I'm trying to tell myself it's a day to remember how wonderful she was.

[Rhonda in TX]

Thank you.

 

My thoughts are also with those who have lost their mother.

 

More... :grouphug:

[crazycoffeechic]

This will be our 2nd Mother's Day without them.

Thinking of others...:grouphug:

[Tracy in Ky]

Thank you.

 

It is so hard to believe she is gone.

 

She was my best friend.

[percytruffle]

Thank you. Mine has been gone for about ten years now. It was difficult to be parentless in my mid-thirties. The implications of not having them around has really been hitting now in my mid-forties with kids who are on the verge of becoming adults. Just this year for the first time I was able to watch an old family video tape of them. It has been a long difficult road and yes, this particular holiday is always bittersweet. :grouphug:

[Susan in IL]

It has been 4 years and I still miss her terribly. My kids miss her too.

 

:grouphug:

[KarenNC]

Thanks. My mother died when I was 19 just after I came home from my freshman year at college, 26 years ago, and I still miss her. It's been particularly difficult at specific times---when I graduated from college, got married, the year I miscarried my first pregnancy the Friday before Mother's Day, when my daughter was born, wishing I could share the milestones of my daughter's life with her (especially when I see so many character traits from both myself and my sister in my daughter---it would be good to ask "how did you cope with....?":001_smile:)).

[Magnolia]

Thank you. It's been 16 years. My mom has never met my dh & dd. She died before I met dh. My dad has been gone for 2 years now.

[G5052]

Frankly it will be a tough one that way for me. I sent a card, but I don't think she'll be able to understand it.

[Snickerdoodle]

Thanks, it has been 10 years here.

 

:grouphug:

[KidsHappen]

My mom just past away in Feb and I will be alone this Mother's Day so I am sure it will be hard.

 

I am also thinking of others who have lost their moms as well. :grouphug:

[PhunandFonics]

Thanks, it's been 19 years ago for me. Like some of the others, it was long before I met dh and had children. My dad has since remarried and moved out of state & my grandmother, who was like my 2nd mom, now has Alzheimer's. The last time we had dinner with my dh's family I became overwhelmed with emotion, realizing that most of my "history" is gone. What I have I hold in my heart.

 

:grouphug: to you all!

[praisefor3]

When I get to heaven I want to see Jesus first but then I just know that my mother will be standing right behind Him, welcoming me into her arms as she always did when I went "home."

[Michelle in MO]

when I was 26, so it's been 21 years now. Mother's Day and some other holidays are rather bittersweet for me, because they're more of a remembrance of what could have been.

 

My parents got divorced when I was 15 years old, and my mother never recovered emotionally from that situation. I spent the next ten years being her "caretaker," in a sense. Those were undoubtedly the most challenging years of my life. I grieved deeply when she died, and I hope I don't sound uncaring or selfish, but I also had a great need at the time to move on from what was ultimately not a healthy situation for me. It's difficult to admit this much. Although I loved her deeply, I would not want her back in the dependent and sad state in which she left this world.

 

Thankfully, God has restored many things to me in my life, and I believe that my mother is also restored and whole, in heaven.

 

:grouphug: to all of you who have suffered such a loss.

[nrg]

My mother died on March 1 this year after years of complete debilitation due to post-polio syndrome. I miss her even though she hadn't been cognizant for 2 years. She was a very kind and loving woman. Her name was Jane,too.

 

One of the hardest things is that her passing makes me the "mom." She was the last of her generation. Even though I am far from being a young woman, being the matriarch is daunting. I will never have the grace and wisdom of my wonderful, long-suffering mother.

 

We can remember our mothers on Sunday by looking for their wisdom and forgiving their trespasses as best we can.

[Claire]

Thank you. It's been almost 30 years now, and I still miss her.

[Diann]

Thank you, Jane. My mother died when I was 3 months pregnant with my first child. That was 19 years ago. The hardest part of Mother's day for me is the fact she never met my children.

:grouphug:

 

Diann

[tmkclscroggins]

Thank you! I really needed that hug! We just lost my mom a couple of weeks ago. This month is going to be a tough month. MOther's Day, my daugher's birthday and my birthday.

 

Thinking of all of you!

Melissa

[sheryl]

Hi! My Mom went home to be with Jesus 20 years ago this November. My dh and I had just celebrated our 8 anniversary and a week later she was ushered into His presence!

 

Oh how I miss her. She was a remarkable Mom, Wife, Sister, Aunt, Friend, etc. What brings me comfort is knowing we both knew we loved one another and she is no longer in any pain.

 

OK, must go as I feel a tear coming on. Here is a hug :grouphug: to all of you today and on Mother's Day!

 

Sheryl

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[Robin in Tx]

Mother's Day will always be the day my mom died. Getting over that has been the hardest thing I've ever had to do. But I'm getting there, and it's better every year.

 

Thanks for the big group hug... hugs always help!

 

Robin

[Jackie in AR]

when I was 26, so it's been 21 years now. Mother's Day and some other holidays are rather bittersweet for me, because they're more of a remembrance of what could have been.

 

My parents got divorced when I was 15 years old, and my mother never recovered emotionally from that situation. I spent the next ten years being her "caretaker," in a sense. Those were undoubtedly the most challenging years of my life. I grieved deeply when she died, and I hope I don't sound uncaring or selfish, but I also had a great need at the time to move on from what was ultimately not a healthy situation for me. It's difficult to admit this much. Although I loved her deeply, I would not want her back in the dependent and sad state in which she left this world.

 

Thankfully, God has restored many things to me in my life, and I believe that my mother is also restored and whole, in heaven.

 

:grouphug: to all of you who have suffered such a loss.

 

((Hugs to you, Michelle.))

[Jackie in AR]

(((Hugs to all of you who have lost your mothers.)))

 

My dh and I are both fortunate to still have our mothers, and we'll see both of them this weekend. We realize that we are very fortunate.

[Laurie]

It's been 5 years and Mother's Day is hard for me. My mom died at the end of April. Both of my siblings were here when she died , but we couldn't have the funeral right away. One insisted that it had to be on a Saturday, and the other insisted that we wait for her to go back to her second home in the southwest so she could finish her vacation and then have the funeral when she got back. So...the funeral ended up being scheduled on Saturday, the day before Mother's Day. :sad:

 

The next year our dog died in May around Mother's Day.

 

The next year , dh's mother passed away right after Mother's Day. He had gone back to see her (and brought a suit because everyone was expecting a funeral). He stayed a week then had to return to work. She died a few days after he got home so he had another sad cross country trip.

 

Thank goodness my dd has a May birthday for us to celebrate! Some years it even falls on Mother's Day, so all the better!!!

[unsinkable]

Hugs for all of you, too. It's been 20 years for me w/o my mom. I had just turned 19.

 

Does anyone remember the song "You and Me Against the World?" It was our song:

 

You and me against the world

It feels like you and me against the world

And for all the times we've cried

I've always felt that God was on our side

And when one of us is gone

And one is left alone to carry on

Then remembering will have to do

Memories alone will get us through

Think about the days of me and you

You and me against the world

[Audrey]

Thanks. I lost my mother 14 years ago. Some days it still feels like yesterday. I lost a wonderful mother-in-law 7 years ago, too.

[Jenny in Atl]

Dh lost his mom about five years ago. It was a hard loss due to their strained relationship. In some ways, I think the loss would have been easier for him, if they had been close. Instead, there is so much guilt, and too many what ifs.