rookie Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 (edited) Me: "Just make them some toast with either a nut butter or eggs." Later...... "What did you finally give the kids for breakfast?" DH: "I did what you said... I made toast with peanut butter and eggs." Me: "Together?" :confused::001_huh: DH: "Yes." Me: "Oh, okay." :tongue_smilie: ***I only share this little interaction to let you know that 10 years ago I would have flipped out over this, i.e., "What in the world? I did not say together. Who eats peanut butter and eggs together?! Bla, Bla, Bla...." Today, I just :chillpill:. He made it, they ate it - who cares? It makes for a much happier marriage. Now if I could only feel that way about him mixing whites and darks in the laundry.... Have you mellowed out in your marriage? If so, how? Edited June 16, 2010 by rookie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melissel Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 (edited) :lol::lol::lol: Wow, you're that pregnant and managed not to say snarky things? You're an amazing wife :lol: Your DH is hilarious, and so are your kids. Mine would have flipped out if he handed them that. Thankfully, he's a great cook, and they prefer his fancy omelets to my plain scrambled eggs :glare: ETA: To answer your follow-up question, I think I have, but only a tiny bit (I'm pretty tightly wound to begin with!). I finally learned that some things do not NEED to be said, even if that little voice in your head is screaming them. This morning we had a couch delivery, and DH paid the guys to take the old, heavy couch out. I wanted them to put it in the garage, because I want to see if I can Freecycle it, and bulk pickup isn't until Monday. DH wanted to leave it in the side yard until pickup day. Today I asked him to have the guys take the couch to the garage, and he said he'd tell them to leave it in the driveway. I asked why, and he pointed to the angle of our stairs down to the garage. I said, "OK" and kept on walking, without pointing out that the garage is connected to...the driveway! After the guys left, I asked where the couch was. It's in the garage :D Edited June 16, 2010 by melissel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teachin'Mine Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 :lol: The part including the Bla, Bla, Bla ... would so have been me. :tongue_smilie: Sounds like I need to :chillpill:. Congratulations!!! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MelanieM Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 Ok, is that toast with peanut butter and a side of eggs, or toast with eggs and peanut butter? If it's the latter, then I can't believe they ate it! :lol: If it's the former, then I'm not sure why it would be considered strange... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktog29 Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 I have definitely chilled. Dh has too. Makes for a happy marriage :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lynn Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 That is funny. Good response. Something you can all laugh about for years. My dh go to breakfast for the kids is pancakes. They love it. Yes, I have chilled through the years. Now if something comes up that I would have had a meltdown over. I calmly express my feelings but trust his judgement completely. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debbi in Texas Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 I have definately mellowed and it is much better. How so? I just don't argue with him as much. If I think he is wrong, he will figure it out on his own. Mind you, I am not this easy going all the time, but more so than I used to be. Also, I like to think that after 22 years, I don't annoy him just to have something to do. Generally, we communicate well, and don't let things build up, just enjoy being together. Debbi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanceXToo Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 That's funny! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Granny_Weatherwax Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 Ok, is that toast with peanut butter and a side of eggs, or toast with eggs and peanut butter? If it's the latter, then I can't believe they ate it! :lol: If it's the former, then I'm not sure why it would be considered strange... :iagree: (can't find a picture with a toast, peanut butter and egg sandwich) Oh yeah ... I think I have mellowed but I need a little more tweaking in that department (especially when it comes to bathing suits and teenage girls - at least according to my DD (but that's another thread)). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
woolybear Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 That's funny. I think the best part is they ate it! Lol.:lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tree House Academy Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 After 8 years, yes, I have definitely mellowed out in my marriage. I have to choose my battles and it all works much better that way. P.S. I do ALL laundry for the same reason! :) But dh is one heck of a cook...better than me and he does most of the cooking. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 I'm trying to chill, but dh is getting crazy. Saturday we had an argument over whether I was angry or not. :glare::lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dawn in OH Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 I'm trying to chill, but dh is getting crazy. Saturday we had an argument over whether I was angry or not. :glare::lol: We've done that. He will say I look angry. I will say, "I'm not angry, I'm just not smiling. That's my face. The same one I had 11 1/2 years ago when we met." He will continue to comment that I look angry. Then I start getting angry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 Definitely mellow after 24 years... Proof? DH, about to start a load of wash: Does the detergent go where it says detergent, or where it says bleach? Me (with perfectly straight face and not a HINT of sarcasm): Where it says detergent. DH: Thanks. Of course, after he left the room, I stabbed myself in the forehead with a fork...:001_rolleyes: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missiemick Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 We've been married 15 years and I've definitely chilled. When I'm tempted to think crazy, I remember that Elisabeth Elliot says to concentrate on the 85% of the husband that you like and to leave the other 15% alone. It helps a lot! Mickie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snickerdoodle Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 Later...... "What did you finally give the kids for breakfast?" DH: "I did what you said... I made toast with peanut butter and eggs." DH, about to start a load of wash: Does the detergent go where it says detergent, or where it says bleach? :lol::lol::lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aubrey Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 We had to make a rule for dh: You are not allowed to feed the kids anything you would not willingly eat yourself. Later, I modified it to anything *I* was willing to eat. He thinks that's too restrictive, though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catherine Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 Bean dip. Makes for a good marriage. 'Nuff said. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bradandmeplus2 Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 That's hilarious! At least he made something and everyone got fed. My DH is responsible for breakfast when it's my day to sleep in, but his versious of breakfast is pile them in the car and go get donuts. :auto: It's a lot of sugar, but I don't have to do it, so it's all good! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annabanana1992 Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 wow.. you serve your kids breakfast...I must be waaay too mellow :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lollie010 Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 We've been married 15 years and I've definitely chilled. When I'm tempted to think crazy, I remember that Elisabeth Elliot says to concentrate on the 85% of the husband that you like and to leave the other 15% alone. It helps a lot!Mickie Now those are words to live by. But, I might venture to say it is more like a 50/50 split. LOL. Just joking. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pegasus Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 That's hilarious. No way would my kids have eaten it though! I am WAY more mellow now than even a few years ago. I made a conscious decision not to argue about things that don't matter. So, when I know I'm right and DH is wrong (:tongue_smilie:), I state my position once and if he insists he is right, I let it go. Just the other day he then asked me if I agreed with him and I said "No, but I'm saving my arguments for something I consider important." :) Pegasus Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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