Very well said and the above is pretty much how we try to approach alcohol in general. We normally have a few beers in the fridge and pantry. Dh will buy a 12 pack of seasonal beer and it will last a year here. I grew up in an alcoholic home as did dh almost everyone around me drank heavily as do both our siblings and their spouses now. I do not believe I have ever witnessed responsible moderate drinking in a social situation. I know that may be hard to believe but it is true.

My 37 year old bil died after a night of heavy drinking due to mitochondrial issues. He was an alcoholic who drank heavily and daily.

This would be my concern because I have been totally shocked at parents who give not only their teens alcohol but others children as well. I have a family member who at one time drove the church van, they were SS teachers etc. They let their own children start drinking in the home at the age of 12. That was shocking enough but they also allowed friends who were sleeping over to drink. By the time my nieces and nephews were 16 or 17 their home was the party home with drunk teens there all the time. My sil openly stated that she didn't give a hoot about other parents not wanting or allowing their children to drink they were welcome to drink in her home (and puke, pass out, pee on her couch, have sex...) I don't drink mainly because even a little makes me feel sick and my husband occasionally will have one or two beers (like 3 or 4 times a year). I have no religious conviction about drinking or anything else (I'm a former church goer who hasn't been in years). But I have witnessed first hand in both mine and dh's families horrible alcoholism. We pretty much have no family relationships with either side because we are the only non drunks. I would never ask anyone not to drink in their own home, but I'd be cautious about their attitude towards drinking.

This is what we did but without the dress. After we announced we had eloped some friends wanted to throw a party/reception for us. It never occurred to us that we would have one, but accepted the offer and had a great time.

This is what I would have done. And if he is a well behaved kid and friends with mine I would have invited him to go eat and shop with us. BUT I have all girls*** and any child I invite to go places with us I already have been around them A LOT and know that they will be no problem. ***added that because I believe girls may tolerate shopping better than boys, but I certainly may be wrong lol

If I had to guess: 1. single 2. never married 3. two adopted children 4. lives in a home with roommates 5. works in a dominate male field They'd profile her as a lesbian. And to be clear I realize she has been engaged to a man from reading here and could care less if she is gay but I'm just giving a guess as to why she may have been profiled.

And she'd jingle her keys as if to hurry the preacher along. I"d cringe, sit tall in the pew and try to look really alert in attempt to make sure no one thought it was me.

For years YEARS the woman who sat behind me in church cleaned out or straightened her handbag every Sunday. Like clockwork she riffled papers, money and all sorts of things during the last 30 minutes of service.. She'd find some candy down in the bottom and offer it(loud stage whisper) to her son and husband and the three of them would rattle candy wrappers non-stop. And it was one of those Baptist churches where your family had been in the same pew for generations so there was no changing seats. On occasion we'd sit a few pews forward if another family was not in church to try and avoid her. It never worked because her family would just move up to "our" pew. How I wish she would have taken up knitting!

But the employee had to know there was a mistake right? Why didn't the employee double check with the employer?

I would have also spoke up about it immediately things like this always catch up with you.

Dinner=noon meal Supper=evening meal

We'd keep the trap. For us it would be pretty pointless to report it because it doesn't do any good and we have all 60 acres posted.

I've not read Quiet but interestingly enough I fake it for my children also. I will almost always force myself to go and do for them. On the rare occasion that I don't my dh always steps in and takes them.

This. And I was forced by my extrovert mother to socialize and join activities I had no interest in doing. She mocked, berated and belittled my introversion. As an adult I go or do nothing that I don't want to do probably to an extreme level.

My favorites come from Republic of Tea . com. I always order Ginger Peach, Blackberry Sage and Chai in loose-leaf bulk bags. I have drank these three for about 10 years and we also order different seasonal varieties on occasion. I can't recall any we haven't enjoyed. We drink our hot tea with cream only, no sweetener.

Wow I didn't know this. I definitely must have misophonia because lots of normal noises bother me.

Yes. It also started just a few years ago I had never noticed others chewing before then. It just makes me angry/irritated not barfy.

My parents stopped "parenting" my siblings and I when as 14 yo. My dad was a chronic alcoholic and my mom spent all her time chasing him and his various girlfriends around. They were destructive, self centered and my life was chaotic at best. From that time forward I was basically on my own. I'd use b-day money from my grandparents to purchase basic items for myself like toilet paper, laundry detergent, shampoo etc. Occasionally I'd be given a blank check by my mother and dropped off at the grocery store and be told not to spend over $whateveramountavailable$. So here I was a kid living in he77 trying to decided what my brothers and could survive on. Several times a year my dad would give me a $100 dollar bill (drunken guilt) and I'd use it for school lunches, tampons and other must have items that I had to hide to keep my mother from stealing and using. At 16 I worked as much as possible while attending high school. Graduated at 17 and started working full time. My then boyfriend (now husband) had been on his own since he was 16 he also had an alcoholic father and a non mother. I continued to live in my parents home while saving money and buying household goods to move out. My father hadn't lived in the home since I was 13 and my mom was seldom there. I moved out without informing anyone one day. My mother showed up (someone told her they saw me moving) and informed me not to take "her stuff" or she'd call the sheriff. So I left with my clothes and shoes and have never been back. I haven't spoken to or seen either parent in years. I know my mother is alive, but have no idea about my father. Dh (my then boyfriend) and I have been married 26 years. College was not something either of us considered we were just trying to survive.

Funny how it works. I am overloaded with peppers and replanted cukes three or four times and had a dismal amount this year. I planted 64 tomato plants and they were useless also. Green beans I planted in June(?) are still producing.

My peppers did great this year too! Seven jalapeno plants survived, they are twice as big as normal and the limbs are touching the ground weighed down with peppers. I picked nine pounds of large jalapenos approx. two weeks ago off of those plants. My shelves are loaded with pickled peppers and cowboy candy. Our first freeze is predicted tonight also and I need to pick peppers, green & lima beans and my few remaining butternut squash.

This is so insulting for those who do the "right thing" and still have struggles. It is the same narrow minded drivel that Dianne shared a few days ago about karma and people who experience trauma in their lives. Sickening.

I agree. It almost seems like bullying.

I loved The Postman with Kevin Costner.

I also walked out on this one. I had a nursing newborn at the time and was so scared by this movie that I would have to wake dh up in the night to go with me to change her diaper. For weeks I couldn't go to the bathroom at night by myself.

When my youngest was about 10 yo she wanted a resin pig yard ornament from Lowes. I believe it was about $25 and I wouldn't buy one. Several months later she received money on her b-day and requested to go to Lowes for that pig. She spent many many hours and lots of fabric and felt making various holiday outfits for that pig. The thing still sits in my living room to this day almost 6 years later. I ask once or twice a year if Lester the Pig can go outside or upstairs but the answer is always no.